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 andy_mo
Joined: 2/24/2008
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Is it really important for women to see their man cum every time they are having sex?

I know women cannot cum always, but sometimes I think this is an unwritten law that men must cum! otherwise the female will be upset.

Are females feel insecure that the guy did not like the sex or enjoy their body or they just enjoy seeing he ejaculates,....
 Notinit4
Joined: 1/18/2008
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women want to see their man cum every time
Posted: 3/26/2008 11:27:14 AM
Personally, I would feel like something was wrong if he didn't cum. I've never had that happen so it's not something I've thought about but yeah...that would be strange for me.
 nocalsingledad
Joined: 11/27/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 11:30:10 AM
I can have sex without reaching orgasm, sometimes for very long periods of time. But I generally do keep at it until I reach a climax unless it is a repeat performance and I am simply exhausted. So I would hope that a woman wouldn't think anything was wrong if I didn't ... and that has been a source of some minor friction in the past. Women misread my time to climax as a lack of interest or desire. Some men just take longer than others, that's all.
 michaels_girl
Joined: 8/26/2006
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Posted: 3/26/2008 11:30:52 AM
Its not a major issue as long as I discuss it with my man. As long as he is enjoying the sex and doesn't have a problem with his not having an orgasm - then what is the big deal? Keep having sex and enjoy it.
 compactdisc
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 12:01:06 PM
OMG, i cant believe this one.

i suppose most women would want to see and know their guy has ejaculated so they can think she has at least turned him on...........all this going on whilst she has faked her orgasm, a fake orgasm JUST to let her guy " think" that he has pleased her.

what a complicated life....................lol
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
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women want to see their man cum every time
Posted: 3/26/2008 1:20:16 PM
in all reality -i think she would rather FEEL her man cum
 MelloDLyn
Joined: 10/25/2004
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Posted: 3/26/2008 2:24:42 PM
It is very important that a man cums during sex. If your partner doesn't then it makes u feel bad. Like u didn't do something right or they are not into u. I dated a guy on prozac for awhile and one of the side effects was he couldn't ever get off no matter what. I started talking to other people and they told me that is true. I had to quit seeing him even though I liked him cause I felt like I was missing out on the whole sexual experience. I mean the grand finale is what we are all waiting for. Why perform oral sex when your waiting for them to cum? It just isn't as much fun. I would rather have a guy that cums fast than one that can't. I want the whole sexual package!
 mullynsculder
Joined: 3/18/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 2:45:39 PM
Now we see the tables turned. Women saying that they have a difficult time with a man not cumming. One woman even dumped her guy because of it. I'm not judging -- you want what you want. I just find it very interesting.
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 3/26/2008 4:30:24 PM
In a perfect world we would all want our partners to cum each and every time we are intimate. However in reality we will most certainly have a time when it will not come to fruition! Why worry as long as the moment together was pleasing in all other aspects! It happens!
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 4:37:08 PM
Too bad men can't be just as good at faking it. I have been dumped because of it, never had to dump a woman....they all came more than once. I don't think they were faking it.
 JinxdGirl
Joined: 2/10/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 4:42:43 PM
all three... i love it. but i'd also feel responsible if he didn't cum.
 nickphilosoph
Joined: 10/26/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 4:47:23 PM
Re the OPost

I agree that "feel" not "see" is the operative word here and I know that women do, but so do men (want to feel their woman cum every time).

But women do not want to feel their man cum "too early"!! Only "just in time"!!! lol
IMO they should be more concerned (their fault) if their man's tool did not stand erect, that IMO is a better mesure of a woman's appeal to a man, not his cuming. For women, IMO, that is different, of course!!


 lillipilli
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 4:56:15 PM
i dont care really! its not about seeing it happen - i dont need a visual.
and i want to see him cum as much as i want to cum. if im not cumming, i dont see why he should!
 person121uk
Joined: 4/7/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 6:14:03 PM

It is very important that a man cums during sex. If your partner doesn't then it makes u feel bad. Like u didn't do something right or they are not into u. I dated a guy on prozac for awhile and one of the side effects was he couldn't ever get off no matter what. I started talking to other people and they told me that is true. I had to quit seeing him even though I liked him cause I felt like I was missing out on the whole sexual experience. I mean the grand finale is what we are all waiting for. Why perform oral sex when your waiting for them to cum? It just isn't as much fun. I would rather have a guy that cums fast than one that can't. I want the whole sexual package!


OMFG...,just the type that calls itself 'loving' and 'caring'. I've been on antidepressants in the past and as default,expected my source of affection not to pressurise me but be understanding. In the end it ended up being less of a problem,because it wasn't seen as one anymore,..and things sorted themselves out. Some women just put you right off!! So inconsiderate.
 Joel246
Joined: 3/23/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 6:19:26 PM
Just to add a point... it can physically hurt for men to be doing a lot of sexual activities without coming. Dull ache. Not fun. Good thing we're simpler when it comes to orgasms.
 kayliecat
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 6:50:13 PM
Ok, do you want TMI? LOL

Here it is. guy who had trouble getting erect and orgasming. And basically a longer refractory than some...probably all due to his age.

So... once I knew, i was fine w/it. (b/c it wasn't due to desire).

It actually worked out to my advantage.

Hey, we work with the bodies we've got...make it work for you! Just...communicate. Because us girls do worry if we think it's due to us not being desireable. Or that we're doing something wrong.

Kaylie
 Laidback_Catguy!
Joined: 3/25/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 6:55:54 PM
Anti depressants due cause a lack of sensitivity down there!

Hooked up with this girl out of town, we had sex for the 4 days I was there. She kept asking me if she was doing something wrong, and I had to keep telling her no! It was the 4th night that she finally made me cum.

I tried to fake it once , but she knew! What you will do for the person ya like!

cheers
 SlingDad
Joined: 5/28/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 7:18:44 PM
The only time I can't get off is if I've had too much Crown 1600 or XR...because it's *almost* better than sex. I'll accept a case of whiskey d1ck for the evening...but I'm ready to hit it and get it in the morning.



As long as I take care of my partner that evening, it's been all good...mostly.
 martymar0000
Joined: 12/29/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2008 7:19:45 PM
I've never really thought about it that way because it usually taken me a while to come. I thought something was wrong with me sometimes taking a long time and my brother would say... "at least you're not Speedy Gonzales". There have been lots of times when the girl came and I didn't. I didn't think there was anything wrong with her.

I think it's because I want a woman to enjoy her sexual experience with me so I put more emphasis on her than myself. I have noticed that some women think it's their fault when we don't come. But, just as it's sometime okay for you guys to not come, it's fine when we sometimes don't come too.

For me the best part about sex is not even the sex or the lead up to it. For me it's two warm bodies lying together cuddling. In that moment, I think about how I first met that person and the process that lead up to us being naked under the sheets. The whole process of going from being complete strangers so sharing an intimate sexual experience is the most worthwhile. So ladies, don't trip, and don't put more pressure on yourselves thinking us not coming is your fault. It could be a million things.
 NERO1
Joined: 3/8/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 9:32:02 PM
Well if he's wearing a condom and not enjoying himself for whatever reasons or gets turned off or something somehow I guess he could always "fake" it just to get the whole thing over with.
 CraveSex
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 10:50:35 PM
I dont have a problem with him not coming as long as he doens't stop.. lol..

all night long here pls.

and why would he stop if he didnt attain the orgasm.?
he can lay back i'll take over.. i want it and thats it.
 Fractalheart
Joined: 1/13/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2008 10:50:56 PM
I've had to fake an orgasm a couple times. Have you ever been so frustrated with a person that angry sex isn't fun? It sucks.
 happyrebel
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 3/27/2008 8:32:25 AM
SlingDad....I hear you.....There were times with the husband if he'd had too much to drink that he would stay hard for a long time but never cum ...and I was ok with that.
Alcohol affects each man differently. With some it makes it difficult to maintain an errection.

As we age, there are more and more things that come into play with intimacy-such as medications - whether its heart meds, cholesterol lowering meds, anti-depressants, etc . Add to that the body's own declining hormones and we can see why Viagra and similar meds are some of the top selling medications.

So long as there is open communications and both partners enjoy the intimacy, it shouldn't be a problem for the couple.

HR
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 3/27/2008 12:37:04 PM

Is it really important for women to see their man cum every time they are having sex?
No ... for me the most important thing is that he has enjoyed himself and at some point wants more.

I think that ... "see their man cum every time thing" ... might be some sort of fantasy young men have. They fantasize that their lady wants them to cum every time they have sex, but honestly, it just isn't that way.

I believe too, that as a man matures ... it has more to do with expectations each time you're intimate with your partner. Being intimate can be just an early-morning "quickie" ... or a nice long drawn out cuddling session and doesn't necessarily even have to include penetration.
 moniquesc
Joined: 6/11/2007
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Posted: 3/27/2008 12:50:57 PM
Had a b/f who started taking Lexapro for depression, and he had this problem for about a month. The sex was still fantastic, but no matter what we did he could not orgasm. I felt horrible for him because he always made me feel fantastic. I was more concerned than he was. Then the side effects lessened and everything was perfect again...thank goodness!
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