| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 12:34:44 PM | | I have to move back into the house my ex and I bought together to help him with finances. My name is still on the mortagage and I cannot afford to pay my bills and his. If I don't help he will lose the house to forclosure. We will both be out thousands. He intends to keep his girlfriend. I want to continue to date as well. Will this be a huge turn off? | |
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 12:43:27 PM | A lot of guys probably would be weirded out by that, though if they know that your ex-husband has another girlfriend then that should set them more at ease. But as always, it depends on the individual man -- some men can be jealous or paranoid too. That would definitely be a good metric to see how understanding your potential date is. :)
Though of course, you should be careful of men who say they're okay with it when they're really not. If they try to just bottle it in, eventually it will explode. So I'd say whatever man you end up with, be sure to give frequent reassuring statements -- offhandedly make comments like, "That's why he [the ex] and I could never work out," just to reassure them that you're not emotionally hanging on. | |
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 12:44:13 PM | I believe there are men out there secure enough in themselves that could accept it with enough explanation ahead of time. Is his girlfriend staying there, as well? If she is, I think that would go along way in alleviating some guys' doubts/concerns.
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 12:52:40 PM | I can not answer for every guy, just me. If I were presented with that scenario I would move on to the next opportunity. There seems to be too much going on there and none of it very conducive to a relationship.
I know we all have our little issues but it just seems like too much to deal with there.
You asked, I answered. | |
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 1:12:34 PM | | It would be a turn off to me if I didnt see any end to the situation. Are you talking weeks? months? years? Its just not a comfortaable situation for any gender to be in. Cant he get a roommate? | |
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 2:11:05 PM | It might not be an overwhelming obsticle. I mean, you don't have to tell the person that your dating who your roommate is until you choose to become serious with them. Telling a casual date who you live with would be like telling your mechanic what your doctor said after your last visit. It's just none of their business.
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jdb57
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Joined: 6/20/2007
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 2:31:47 PM | | Hmm...yes, that is a bit weird, but it would be even more weird if his girlfriend ended up being your boyfriend's ex-wife and you all move in together. Just an observation... | |
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 2:54:36 PM | Hmm...yes, that is a bit weird, but it would be even more weird if his girlfriend ended up being your boyfriend's ex-wife and you all move in together. Just an observation...
And as a bonus just think how fast that mortgage would be paid off!!! | |
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 3:33:35 PM | Ouch. I would not want to be in your position.
And, I imagine that it would be a turn off for most.
Put the house on the market sooner rather than later.
It's worth even losing some money than being cornered in a position like this.
So.... you have no problem living with the ex and his new s/o?
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svj2
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Joined: 3/16/2008
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 4:15:16 PM |
Will this be a huge turn off? Probably. It depends on the man you are with and the confidence he has in his relationship with you.
You likely will find some kinkier men who might catch a thrill at the thought that it might turn into some sort of orgy. I'd be wary of them, but maybe that's just me.
Now here's a thought - put the house up for sale and get that shackle off your leg. Since you'll be living there, you can hold out for a price that gets you both out from under the bank's thumb.
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| Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband
Posted: 3/26/2008 4:17:09 PM | | well there it is. I guess I'll just be off the market for a while. I would rather help him than worry about a love life. He is the father of my kids and divorce or no divorce i refuse to allow my kids to see him lose there house. Family before romance. As for his girl friend she doesn't live there. Thank you all for your post. They helped me very much | |
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