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Posted: 3/28/2008 11:13:23 AM | When I joined POF, I had photos of myself, prepared. to upload. nay even smiling
My question is in two parts
How can a woman expect to get replies to her profile when there is no photo to view the person.
the second part is, if the woman posts a few photos of herself, and she is not smiling what is other peoples reactions to her photos.
My answer to both, is
With the first I dont , bother to view their profile.
And secondly If a woman who post photos of herself without at least a smile in one Pic, I feel I would wasting my and her time, we can all have long faces, but people like to see the lighter side of your personality.   
I think I will now go and dangle my worm over the bath . And see if I can catch a fisshie, or even get a bite | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 11:20:59 AM |
How can a woman expect to get replies to her profile when there is no photo to view the person
I expect she will get plenty of replies from people that actually read the profile and decide they have something in common or read something attractive about the person which makes them reply.
if the woman posts a few photos of herself, and she is not smiling what is other peoples reactions to her photos.
Not bothered in the slightest read the profile then decide if you want to reply or not.
dangle my worm
you said it, not me
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Posted: 3/28/2008 11:30:48 AM |
I expect she will get plenty of replies from people that actually read the profile and decide they have something in common or read something attractive about the person which makes them reply.
Not from me she won't. She could have the most wonderful personality but no photo means no contact. I had this yesterday. I was contacted by a woman without a photo, so I simply replied that she had me at a disadvantage and so if she sent or put up a few photos I might be more forthcoming. She replied that we should chat on MSN, where she could send me some photos. Well for me that's a no as well. I hardly read a single profile that doesn't contain familiar sentiments, things I can relate to, interests I also have and/or expressions of "niceness". I'm not one to judge on a list of likes and dislikes either, so the pictures tend to be the discriminator. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 11:35:48 AM | How can a woman expect to get replies to her profile when there is no photo to view the person.
Weird, but it does happen. I've even mailed people with no pic up myself at times, because there was something on their profile that I may have liked.
Some people think that having no pics up means they will avoid the shallow fishies, but it just seems like cutting your nose off to spite your face to me. As in; yea, you may not get as many of the shallow ones, but that's because you've probably just cut your amount of possible correspondents down by 99%'.
the second part is, if the woman posts a few photos of herself, and she is not smiling what is other peoples reactions to her photos.
Personally, I prefer non-smiling pics.
I think they're more honest and a better indicative picture of how people really look.
If a woman who post photos of herself without at least a smile in one Pic, I feel I would wasting my and her time,
we can all have long faces, but people like to see the lighter side of your personality
Oh God, you're not one of those people who "likes to have fun" are you.
I mean, seriously, are there actually people out there who "don't like to have fun" ? 
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Posted: 3/28/2008 11:57:27 AM | I am running on windows 98 and cannot view any pics unless I go around a friends house which isnt always easy.
I read the profile and I can decide if I like the person from that and subsequent chats
dont forget there are more ways to see beauty in a person then just the physical appearence.
take for instance Paris Hilton some people find here attractive...but what an air head
now take Roseanne Barr....what a head to converse with.
I met Lisa Riley ok not everybodies cup of tea but what a genuinely lovely person.
take as you find...after all most of us on here are in the same boat!! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:09:13 PM | | Get some better software. There's nothing stopping you looking at pictures on Windows 98. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:20:07 PM | | I like a level playing field. I have photos on my profile so I generally only reply to or send messages to members who also have photos. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:21:34 PM | Phoenix great points made there!!! well done you.
however, i'm sure you can view pics on whatever windows you're using?
some people probably think they look worse smiling in a pic than not? i wouldn't not bother with someone just because they weren't smiling in a photo.
people with no pics though, that's a different matter. i prefer to see who i'm talking to and people without a pic always give me the suspicion they have invalid reasons for having no pic. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:28:01 PM | PEOPLE WITH NO PIX ARE LIKE ONE LADY TOLD ME A TEACHER AND DIDNT WANT ANY PUPILS TO SEE HER..WHICH IS FAIR ENOUGH
BUT A LOT OF THOSE PEOPLE MAY ALSO ALREADY HAVE PARTNERS............ | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:29:25 PM | I had no pics up for a while and didn't get much mail..fair enough..I don't get a lot now..also fair enough.
It makes such a difference though if someone is smiling and you can see their teeth (yes..seeing teeth does make a difference) in a pic.
It seems that a good few men and women don't see it as important. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:30:23 PM | I dont have any pictures at the moment as the wife got a bit grumpy when she saw me on here when she was at her mates house. Was ok in the end though as i just said my mate had stolen my photos as he is an ugly chuff.
Luckily her mate doesnt read the forums and the girlfriend knows im married so should be ok now. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:32:22 PM | My reply to this is...I have never contacted a woman with no picture showing, nor have i gone to read their profiles. To be honest if I wanted blind dates I would read the back of the local papers and give someone a ring and arrange a date, much quicker than all this jousting we seem to be doing on pof. I do however reply to people, not always, even if they do not contain a photo, depending on what their profile says.
If a woman isn’t smiling I think they tend to call this pouting, like yourself I see moody biatch, but hey who am I to judge.
I like to see the people I talk to and the photo gives a good but not definitive representation of the person I am chatting to. The photo has to be representative of the age and character portrayed in the profile. There’s one girl on here regularly pops up who’s looking for squaddies and claims she’s 32 but the photo I know is off an 18yr old who was on here a year ago, she still has 75 Muppet favourites so there you go.
My photo shows a moody ***tard, funny enough… | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 12:34:48 PM |
How can a woman expect to get replies to her profile when there is no photo to view the person.
Because the rest of her profile and/or private message makes her sound interesting.
the second part is, if the woman posts a few photos of herself, and she is not smiling what is other peoples reactions to her photos.
My reaction depends on the rest of her profile and/or private message, which may make up for it.
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:00:38 PM | I like to see who im talking too, if the're not here to find a date or whatever then fair enough that they dont have a pic.... but if youre here to meet people and find a partner then how can you NOT have a pic up? and expect replies from people who do?
Call me shallow but relationships initially are based on attraction and then more builds in time... | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:18:39 PM |
How can a woman expect to get replies to her profile when there is no photo to view the person.
The whole photo thing can be a problem in itself from what i have seen in the past. One of the first ladies i chatted to on this site had no photo but i just liked her profile, we have met a few times (turns out she is a beautiful lady) and we talk often, we have been good friends for about a year now. The problems for her on this site started when she added photo's to her profile (just normal every day photo's) as over the following days she was getting guys adding her to the friends list without contact and some of the messages she was getting from other guys were beyond belief.
She did close her original profile after a while and opened another without photo's again just purely because she seemed to be getting to chat to the right sort of people that way. This may not be the experience for everyone, but i can understand why some women choose not to put photo's on their profile and i would add that if you do ignore their profiles just because of that you could be missing out on a fantastic person from my experience. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:20:52 PM |
This may not be the experience for everyone, but i can understand why some women choose not to put photo's on their profile and i would add that if you do ignore their profiles just because of that you could be missing out on a fantastic person from my experience.
But if she is contacting you, I'd say it was pretty much a pre-requisite. I mean you can put pictures up that aren't available on your profile and send those to people you mail. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:22:02 PM | To be honest, it doesn't bother me if I get a mail from Mr Incognito who doesn't have a pic on here. If there is a substance in conversing, a photo will follow shortly and voluntarily. If not, 'fair & square' will materialise at some point ... as we obviously are not on the same page.  | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:31:36 PM |
I mean you can put pictures up that aren't available on your profile and send those to people you mail.
True, can't argue with that, but they could also send you/post photo's of their best friend or a random person they copied off the internet if they wanted too. How would you know the difference?
It is all a matter of personal choice at the end of the day and depends on what you are looking for as well i guess. As i am really only here for friends and not dating directly i suppose it is less important to me that they have a photo than someone who is looking for dating as their primary goal. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:34:37 PM | I dont have any problem , I get loads of mail, many from much younger men, which I reject and block when they persist. I cannot imagine having a photo would deter them, I just dont want the whole world and his dog to see me on here. does that make me a hypocrite? btw I love the forums, and this site.
No disrespect to the op but I detest profiles with photos of Children.
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:37:57 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I have to say that I agree with you, I don't have a pic at the moment, I get plenty of mail. When I did have a pic I found that those who did mail me tended to focus on the pic and not read the profile. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:42:39 PM | thanks all so far. for replying. its not a wind up, we all have different likes and dislikes. I just wondered what yours were.
I am still going to dangle my worm in the bath and see if I can catch a Fisshie, or get a bite.
a Merry Xmas and a Happy New Year To all the Fisshies out there.
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Posted: 3/28/2008 1:56:47 PM | [I am running on windows 98 and cannot view any pics unless I go around a friends house which isnt always easy.]
I'm on windows 98, I have no problems viewing pics,
plenty other problems though...still slightly better than
vista i suspect. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 7:17:51 AM | i would say in some cases having a pic might put you off contacting someone with whom you may have a lot in commom , may really get on with, or just find really interesting, purely for the fact you dont find them attractive or your type looks wise..
i would prefer to see a pic of who im talking to but i dont see it as essential, i will usually ask for one if a guy who contacts me doesnt have one, but it would not exclude me from talking to him if he still didnt have a pic if i thought he was fun etc etc .. and i would have thought the same would be true the other way around... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:31:36 AM | I think a woman with no pic will probably only get replies from desperate dudes and creepy guys.
There just doesn't really seem to be any point in contacting a woman with no pic, since there are plenty of women with pics.
As far as not smiling, hmmm, I dunno, I guess it doesn't have to mean they're too serious all the time. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:37:33 AM |
Not from me she won't. She could have the most wonderful personality but no photo means no contact. I had this yesterday. I was contacted by a woman without a photo, so I simply replied that she had me at a disadvantage and so if she sent or put up a few photos I might be more forthcoming. She replied that we should chat on MSN, where she could send me some photos. Well for me that's a no as well. I hardly read a single profile that doesn't contain familiar sentiments, things I can relate to, interests I also have and/or expressions of "niceness". I'm not one to judge on a list of likes and dislikes either, so the pictures tend to be the discriminator.
I agree, I will not give out my msn just to recieve photos. If you cant post them on the site them I am not interested.
Previously I have found men to be married and that is why they dont have a picture, but then again I saw a friends long term boyfriend on here with his pics right out there on display! | |
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