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Posted: 3/30/2008 4:51:18 PM | man or woman that seems all interested in you - chats, emails and talks on the phone with you for hours - - yet disappears? Did they fall into internetland? meet someone else? or what?
So many people contact you - you reply and then NOTHING. . .
I know people get busy. I'm talking about people you meet and they pose the suggestion about getting together and it never happens. Also the number of men that want ME to call them - well I am shy too.
And what is up (on the paying sites) with men waiting for ME to buy the subscription? They keep sending ice breakers back and forth but never fork out the cash to actually email me. I have bought subscriptions in the past - but my days of being the one to spend the money is over. If you really are interested in someone, you will do the right thing and contact her properly.
I think women still want to be treated nice - at least I do. And . . . I will add . . . I am not a gold digger or anything like that - - just a bit old fashioned. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 10:02:05 AM | that is the question of the day/week/hour/month/year. I am fairly new to dating sites, but not new to the internet world.........
I have emailed/pvt messges people here but if the talk turns to meeting after one or two emails, and i say no, or they want my phone number immediately and i say no, then if they disappear, then they were really not that interested in me to begin with
as far as paying sites go, no one is making you buy the subscription. Did You ever think that that is why the constant "ice breakers", so you do sign up??? Its like a tease, they dangle the carrot and.........hook,line and sinker. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 2:28:45 PM | i'm far from being shy.....there is one thing, someone i know from my space gave me his number as i gave him mine, he missed my 1st call and apologized for it....i called him back a few days later after sending him an email telling him that there's no need for apologies. when i called the 2nd time again i got his voice mail. well, since he has my number also i'm not going to call a 3rd time. if he's interested in talking to me on the phone.....the door is open and waiting for him to step in.
men getting women to sign up for pay sites can be a little pushy. some sites women can be free to make the initial contact and some guys don't understand that the woman doesn't have to be a paid member and will contact them if interested. don't feel forced into doing something you can't afford to do or don't want to do............i know i don't.
ummm, i like that mimi...."just a bit old fashioned".....some guys (not all) don't understand the importance it is to a woman to have the same respect in return that's given to her partner. i'm talking about physical respect, not just verbal. there are too many people (both men and women) that tend to sleep with someone on the first date or anytime within the first month.................not me! | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 4:31:53 PM | I have to agree with CG. I recently received an email (yes, I actually received an email) from someone who had put me on as a Favorite. She liked my profile and wanted to know a bit more, so I emailed her back in my usual polite yet joking manner, filling in some of the blanks. I told her she was more than welcome to ask me questions and I would like to hear back from her.
That was five days ago and yes, she has read the message (but not deleted).
Then there was a woman who I contacted through another site. We exchanged a few emails and now nothing.
Either you're interested or not folks. At least have the courtesy to save you're no longer interested.
As far as the paying sites go... It is a well known fact that paying sites send fake emails to you to get you to pay. Miraculously this happens when you're about to cancel to your account. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 6:36:47 PM | i assumed everyone here was looking for the same thing.. someone to spend time with weather it be in a relationship or new friendships. ...
upon reading a few profiles the i have found interesting .. i took the inital step and sent out an email to them stating plain and simple.. i really like what the profile said and if you would care to chat sometime then get back to me.. and i get no response from any of them.. i agree it would be a nice gesture if they could simply state back and just say yes would love to chat sometime or sorry im not interested ...but dont just leave someone hanging.. have decent respect for the person and just let them know..
i guess i should quite assuming because im getting no where trying to start inital conversations.. so now ill sit back and wait for a bit to hit my end of the line.. i tried..
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Posted: 1/28/2009 10:23:22 PM | Valbug major complaint with both men and women. They (we) hide behind our computers and try to be someone else....not all...some. more men than women so the numbers are on your side...Just stay true to yourself..be you.....good luck
Dave.... I'm out | |
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| What's with the . . .
Posted: 1/29/2009 4:00:00 PM | | I find most have an issue with closure. If we've met or even emailed a few times and there is a change in direction, the other party deserves some explaination. An inital email, if I'm not interested - I politely inform I have other interests. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2009 2:42:21 AM | Paid sites are the worst. I am on one as well. You have no idea who pays and who can email you. I got a little frustrated with the site. And requested a refund. Sadly it would cost me more then my subscription to cancel it. So I now have an updated profile that reads. No pay no email. Move on. hahahahaa.
Free sites seem to be the best.
However you still need to weed the garden . Or throw back the ones you don't want.
I too am very oldfashioned, I find it difficult. But I do make a lot of first moves in contacting dates. I am very disapointed when there is no response.
I want to be treated like a lady. And I don't stand for much of that Kid stuff.
Stick with the site. And try to go to parties. Pictures on here, to me are awful. You cannot tell a personality on a picture.
Morals are personal. We don't all share the same thoughts on things. Only you can answer for what you want on any dating site. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2009 12:29:27 PM | It's b.s. to have to pay for a personal ad site.
Remember back in the day when Yahoo Personals
were 100% free? | |
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| What's with the . . .
Posted: 2/18/2009 6:18:30 PM |
i guess i should quite assuming because im getting no where trying to start inital conversations.. so now ill sit back and wait for a bit to hit my end of the line.. i tried..
never just sit back and wait....post in the forums to allow others to read more about you. keep sending emails, don't always tell them what you like about their profile....if they joke around or have a funny headline...joke around with them, it shows that you also have a sense of humor. do you know that if you sit around on the train platform and not joke around a bit it tends to get really boring and can also be a long wait to catch the train you're waiting for. another thing and i keep telling people....start attending events. the best way to bump into someone that you might have emailed is to attend an event that they might be going to.....without having the actual first meet or date you're still meeting them by bumping into them.
free sites and paid sites.......some offer the same, some offer more, and some offer less.....the only difference is in the paid sites from what i seen and heard of them is some of them don't offer forums, you're not able to contact a person of interest unless they're a paid member (singlesnet) and just aren't much fun. i know bikerkiss has forums and all you can do is flirt with someone, they have to be a paid member and have to make the initial contact. singlesnet you have to be a paid member to contact a non paid member and has no forums, i'm not sure about the other sites other than millionaire.com....women are always free but they also don't have forums and all you see in there are men that say they're rich but don't have a pot to p*ss in so they can find the barbie doll type they're looking for and a lot of the barbie doll type looking for their ken. | |
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