| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:05:42 PM | A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them... | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:18:00 PM | Yeah you get to know them first.
Some people look with the 1eyed snake befor using their brains so they go oh shes hot.. but really attractiveness comes from personalityand the inside of a person so really you would have to get a know a person.
well i dont speak for everyone. thats me. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:18:34 PM | A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
Well, I dunno if I'd take it to that extreme. Obviously, if she's married or attached, she's out of the picture. But if I see someone I find particularly attractive and friendly, I'm sure I'll approach and try to get to know her.
I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them...
Myth.
Truth of the matter is, attraction has been studied to death and most of them conclude that the extreme majority of both men and women gauge attraction in a matter of seconds. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:28:09 PM | "I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them..."
Yeah most of us have been there done that only to be stuck in the notorious "friends zone" while you go and try and find "there's always someone better" j/k
Most guys that say that have probably been stuck in that friends zone that maybe they are taking a different approach. I mean I've always heard "friends before lovers" but after a while us "friends zone" guys need love too. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:30:39 PM | Not true.
I only view someone as potential after I make my various 'passes' to see how they'd match up with me. Interests, personality, that stuff. Before this, they aren't real potential. Before you get to know someone, they're obviously 'possible' so if you mean it like it COULD happen, not counting anything, then I guess.
It's just like someone could be a possible friend before you get to know them and then after you get to know them, you make the decision. Like seeing something and saying that there's something there and seeing how it works from there.
There's obviously physical attraction even before you talk to someone, but the real attraction for me is after getting to know them. Someone that's physically attractive could be the least desirable person to me once I find out they're a crappy person. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 6:52:11 PM | Not every woman is available for a relationship.
You starting a conversation with some one may constitute a relationship; such as an acquaintance. A friendship takes time to build; no matter the type.
In my opinion, it seems that the guy responding to you may have been thinking with the head below-the-belt instead of his brain. Do not lower your standards to get a date; is my advice.
Respectfully,
Kyra | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:07:26 PM | I can't speak for all men, but every woman I speak to (who is not related or my friend's girlfriend or my family member's girlfriend) is a potential girlfriend. That never happens, but that's how I perceive interaction with women.
If a man is talking with you, and he is not gay, you should probably assume that it's not just friendship he is after. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:19:03 PM | I wouldn't go as far as a gf but if I am attracted to her and she can hold a conversation then I am interested to see what else is there. Would most call that dating, yep.
If she is not interested or interesting, you move on. Why would this be surprising? | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:28:58 PM |
A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them...
He was being polite, what he actually meant was he divides all women into 2 groups, those he'd have sex with.. & those he wouldn't. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:43:11 PM | Unless our eyes are closed, people almost certain see a person before they hear them or read their profile.
On instant messenger, I have some great friends whose picture I've never seen and they probably have never seen my appearance. In real life, the fact is we see what a person looks like first. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 8:00:16 PM | | My estimate is that about 1 in 45,000 women would be a workable or compatible match as a girlfriend. Every woman is a potential friend, but not a mate. In terms of lovers, maybe about 1 in 500. It sounds strange to put numbers on its. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 8:07:06 PM |
A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true? I never thought so. But I've hardly dated, and never been in a long-term relationship. I've been told to think that way, because it works as a way to find a girlfriend. It's just another way of looking at the glass "half-full". Optimism is a requirement for a relationship, or so I've been told.
Edit: Even if it's true, that doesn't mean that every guy just wants to have sex with you. It would just mean that every guy who is single, will give you a chance, if you are interested in dating him. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 8:36:10 PM | | yeah that can be true if you find them attractive.. but its never final until you get to know them.. tehy can be the best looking girl in town but if ther heart is ugly, or there immature.. forget it! im out of there. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:19:52 PM | | That's sort of true. For guys, our induction into sexuality is packaged with a relentless surge of testosterone giving us a ravenous appetite for females. Where the horemones subside in our early 20's, the habbits from those days take longer to burn out. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 10:54:53 PM | ^^^^^^^^^
Speak for yourself, please - because you sure as hell don't speak for me.
I agree w/masterxo....the guy who told you that thinks with his winky.
Not all men do...or maybe it's just something boys do, I don't know.
I want to get to know a woman first - I might be physically attracted to them, but that doesn't automatically put them in the potential date/gf category. Get to know them and if they're a raging ***** or a needy, clingy disaster (or both!) then they'll never be someone I want to date or have as a girlfriend. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/30/2008 11:12:31 PM | Straight up attraction is based entirely on what our eyes tell us. I am totally gagging for Miss March right now, but I have no idea what she's like as a person. Of course, attractiveness and girlfriend potential are related but not directly.
"Dude, your wife is a Stone Fox! . . . Why you hit me, dawg?!"
I think that when a woman enters my life, and I get to know her if she is attractive, and has lots of other qualities that make me think I'd like to explore coupledom with her. Things like finding out she's not single will bring that line of thought to a screeching halt.
I think a lot of men would disqualify some women as potential girlfriends fairly quickly, and a lot of men would disqualify most women fairly quickly... but on the other hand, I think most men would agree that you can meet your next girlfriend almost anywhere, and that you might be surprised about who she turns out to be. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/31/2008 3:52:27 AM |
single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
Insofar as I sort of evaluate them upon first meeting (or first few meetings if the first was brief) as to whether I'd be interested in them as a possible gf, or whether there's some massive personality defect that means I should steer clear. So in a sense I do sort of evaluate their potential as possible gf prospects I suppose.  | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:08:07 AM | | I see the majority of women as non-dateable, for various reasons. Many are married or have a b/f or are engaged (belonging to these categories makes them undateable automatically). Some might have personalities or values which would not agree well with my own, and these are also undateable. I also do not consider other possibilities for my own reasons of conscience. So in the end I have a fairly selected and narrow range of women I would consider dating, if the opportunity and conditions were right. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:20:08 PM | | I think like that,yes.Every girl is a potential girlfriend.But also a potential friend too.. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:23:14 PM | guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them...
For some this is true. For others it isn't.
Even if it's true, that doesn't mean that every guy just wants to have sex with you. It would just mean that every guy who is single, will give you a chance, if you are interested in dating him.
What he said. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 2:08:45 AM | I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them...
I'd say it's the other way around. I'm attracted to them first. Then, I hope that they're worth getting to know.
And yes, there are a LOT of acceptable women out there. It's just difficult finding one who's open, receptive and accepting. And THEN once that happens, finding one who qualifies the rest of the picture. Is she nice, are we compatible?
What's the point of getting to know someone for potential gf purposes if you're not attracted to them? It takes me about 0.3 seconds to figure out if they're attractive, and that opinion isn't exactly going to change a whole lot if I get to know them. I just like or don't like their personality after that.
Personally, I wouldn't date someone if I didn't want to have sex with them on some level. Why am I feeling really alone in this opinion? Twilight zone? | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 3:35:30 AM | well looks aint everything but they do help i think you need a certain look for a man to think that way but in the end it all comes down to your innerself .
many guys think differently so there is many ansers. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 9:19:09 AM |
A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them...
First, guys are gonna place the "non-ugly" bar at vastly different levels, and the consideration may last only a microsecond, as well as the inclination (or not) to go out of his way in order to have some interaction with her.
But what else does a guy need to know about her to consider her a potential date/gf other than whether she's good-looking enough to want to get to know in the first place? You can always toss her back into the pond later when you find out she's not all that much beneath the surface.
So, the OP's 2nd sentence is the girl way, and for it to ever work - which it obviously has in the past or we wouldn't be here - it requires that the boy flip it around and do things in the reverse order. Guys don't experience gals trying to get to know us in order to see if they're attracted to us.
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