| Do I sound like a b*tch in my profile?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:18:12 AM | Hello Everybody,
I've changed my profile recently and now I'm not getting much response. Maybe my changes were a bad idea. Somebody check it out for me, please!
I would appreciate any input.
Thanks,
SpringIs4Love | |
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| Do I sound like a b*tch in my profile?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:22:51 AM | I would axe the bowing to each other's will part. It sounds like baggage, whether it is or not. You may find another way to get your point across about not being controlled, but in a more positive way. Like speaking in terms of how you like things to be, or what has been successful in the past.
Otherwise, looks great. Any pictures of you doing all those active things you claim to be about?
good luck! | |
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| Do I sound like a b*tch in my profile?
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:47:28 AM | Good Morning Spring,
Let me offer my humble opinion. The first 3 paragraphs are fine just the way they are.
COMMENT: Change nothing.
( I'm above average in looks and I'm healthy (non-smoker, non-drinker and active). My guy will be healthy too - not a health nut, just somebody who's going to live a nice, long time! ) COMMENT: PLEASE: Let the man be the judge of your looks. No guy likes to get to know a woman who is so "high" on herself. BUT THIS IS NOT A BIGGIE.
( I don't expect you to be a trophy, but attractiveness and health are very important to me. I prefer my guy to be 5'6" to 5'9"...but that's just a preference - shorter and taller may apply! More importantly, he should be funny, interesting, intelligent and a gentleman. ) COMMENT: Well put, CHANGE NOTHING here. You sound very flexible and I think any man would appreciate that.
( My guy also will have a full life without me. I cannot be his only 'entertainment'!! We will, of course, have many similar interests, but he will have things he enjoys WITHOUT me while I enjoy my own interests. ) COMMENT: Is this really necessary?
What is the message you are trying to convey? This is perhaps where the b*tchness starts. Most guys do have "full" lives, but the reason we want to meet someone is for the same reason (s) you woman want to meet someone. I am assuming that reason would be to make one's life complete. This is something that perhaps should be discussed at a later time, NOT on your profile!
(Not to toot my own horn, but I am a domestic goddess. I take great pride in how I keep my home; how well I cook/bake; what a good mother I am... )
COMMENT: I like this. This is a plus. There is a time and place for "tooting your own horn" and you should. Especially when you give examples as to why you are doin the tootin!
I am currently pursuing a degree in healthcare - I'm on the Dean's List ('cause I'm so smart)! I still have two years to go. COMMENTS: Terrific! Shows you have intiative and drive. Leave out the 'cause I'm so smart", unless you mean it "tongue in cheek".
No one, man or woman likes a bragger.
( I definitely am a strong-willed woman. I prefer to communicate my way through conflict, both listening for the opportunity to grow and sharing my ideas to resolve a situation. If you are bull-headed and uncompromising, please move on to the next mousy girl. I will not bow to your will! Nor do I expect you to bow to mine. Have a backbone if you want me. ) COMMENT: Oh God..any guy would run run run!
Why do you need to say this? The first andsecond lines are OK. But the 3rd, 4th and especially the 5th, would have them "heading for the exits really fast". Totally unnecessary. Funny thing is..with this type of writing, these are the exact guys that you will attract, as the nice guys won't bother to read any further. ( At least this nice guy wouldn't :-) )
I'm basically content with my life (READ AS: I'm not looking for a man to provide for me). But, I do want a partner. There's nothing in this world quite like being in love!
COMMENT: Why be so bold. Its that "B" word again. Leave out the first line and you'll be fine. What happens if a man would like to provide for you? Would that be such a bad thing? Some men are givers and not takers. Let your heart be open.
But, I will not rush into a relationship. Be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
COMMENT: Oh god, another one who wants to wait. How long do you want to wait?
Life is short. As the old Stevie Winwood song claimed "When you see a chance you take it" Who knows what tomorrow brings? Patience is important, but so is chemistry. Thats really what its all about. What ever happened to love at first sight?
You seem like a very nice woman and a very ambitous woman. Good Luck and may the dating gods shine brightly on you! 
Greg | |
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| Do I sound like a b*tch in my profile?
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:42:59 AM | Hello my name is Johnny and I will break it down from my point of view because you ask so be ready to hear the truth like it or not.
Hi! I'm new to Michigan and want to see it all. Show me your favorite places!
1st Part - good start -
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I am an outdoorsy-kinda person. If the sun is shining, I'm out there! I love camping and all that it includes; mountain biking; kayaking; walking; hiking; I won't go out to fish on my own, but I'll fish with a friend; boating.
2nd Part - this part sounds great
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I also enjoy bowling, board games, people watching, LONG Sunday drives, home improvement projects, gardening; watching football; reading; hanging out with friends; exploring the library; museums; playing with animals and children, bonfires, concerts (especially outdoor), traveling by train, plane, and automobile.
3rd Part- This still sounds good if you do it all and not just talk about it .
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I'm above average in looks and I'm healthy (non-smoker, non-drinker and active). My guy will be healthy too - not a health nut, just somebody who's going to live a nice, long time!
4Th Part- now it starts- What I have to say is this about this part 1st to me you are not above average in looks you are average it sounds to me like you are starting to be stuck on you at this point and what it is you want and nothing less, Sorry this is what I read at this point.
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I don't expect you to be a trophy, but attractiveness and health are very important to me. I prefer my guy to be 5'6" to 5'9"...but that's just a preference - shorter and taller may apply! More importantly, he should be funny, interesting, intelligent and a gentleman.
5th Part - this is a good part to read not great and not bad.
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My guy also will have a full life without me. I cannot be his only 'entertainment'. We will, of course, have many similar interests, but he will have things he enjoys WITHOUT me while I enjoy my own interests.
6th Part - this is a very good part to have because the two of you need your space at time not to say you do not like to be with each other.
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Tooting my own horn, I am a domestic goddess. I take great pride in how I keep my home; how well I cook and bake; what a good mother I am...
7th Part - OK sorry to say this but you leave your TOOTING at home and there is no GODDESS on the earth that I know of because it sounds like you are going back to being stuck on you all over and trust me this is not the point you want to make to the guy you are looking for unless he is looking for his MOM.
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I am currently pursuing a degree in healthcare - I'm on the Dean's List ('cause I'm so smart)! I still have two years to go.
8th Part - A Degree is a great thing, A deans list is good but to rub it in a guys face is not a good thing at all so there for I have to say you are not as smart as you think you are just remeber what is it you want a guy to look at you for you or what you KNOW.
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I definitely am a strong-willed woman. I prefer to communicate my way through conflict, both listening for the opportunity to grow and sharing my ideas to resolve a situation. No mousy girl here (in case you couldn't tell already)!
9th Part - A woman that can and will speak what is on her mind is a good thing, But remember it is some times better to hear what the other person has to say than it is to open your mouth at the wrong time and become a fool.
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I'm basically content with my life (READ AS: I'm not looking for a man to provide for me). But, I do want a partner. There's nothing in this world quite like being in love!
10th Part - Ok how can you be content with your life when you are looking for so much in a person and are looking for a person to put you up on the stool of life because of what all you think you know and not who you are on the inside.
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But, I will not rush into a relationship. Be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
First DateDouble Dutch. Something cheap and quiet. Keep it short and sweet. Don't go overboard trying to impress me. Be yourself.
11th Part - this is a good point of what iI wa saying about a woman that speaks her mind and not getting to crazy with it. This part is very well done
Remember this is what I see when I read your profile it has nothing to do with what other people my think or have to say about it, I do not and have never said that I know it all but I do know what most of the guys like to read because we chat to each other about it just like the women do.
I am sorry if you do not like what I had to say but this is what I see when I look at what you had to say in your Profile but you are the one that ask us as men to give you a Reply to your profile and some times the truth can hurt you very bad and at other times you could care less what any person has to say good or bad about you or what you have to say.
Please have a great week and never change a thing about you just because someone you do not even know does not like it, You have to be you and nothing more
Remember a person is going to like you for who your are or they will like for for what they think you are, It take the person on the outside along with the person on the inside to make you who you are.
My dad use to tell me when I was young guy to Remember no matter how good she looks some where someone is Pissed off at her and with this I want to say thank you for reading what I had to say.
Please have a great week
Johnny Chapman | |
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| Do I sound like a b*tch in my profile?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:29:06 AM | Not at all, It's good so far,
If you were in Miami, you'd be a candidate... opps I'm too tall anyway...
You could shorten the laundry list of outdoories things, save that for some follow up emails. You can come across active and liking the outdoors easy enough
You could drop the height thing, worry about that when you get responses | |
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| Do I sound like a b*tch in my profile?
Posted: 3/31/2008 3:50:22 PM | I liked your profile, Spring. It read well. You have lots to read, varied interests and nice pics. I hope the changes read well to the fellas that you are hoping to attract.
I was thinking of revamping my own profile as well. It's tough to express at times and still have it be a true representation of one's self. Any suggestions on mine?
Monika | |
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