| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:58:37 AM | i just updated it cause i wasnt getting very many replies, so if someone could please check it and tell me what ya think i'd appreciate it thanks!!!
and i'd like for some input on how to be able to hear back from someoen more then just once and have them disappear!
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| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:26:28 AM | First thing i would suggest is you put up a full length picture of yourself. People carry weight differently, let the people contacting you see just how you carry yours, that way there is no misunderstanding.
I would also leave out the part about not wanting someone that treats you like dirt. We have all had bad experiences in relationships, But i would never contact a woman with that in her profile, it tell me she still has issues that needs to be resolved. I want to date someone that learned from those bad experiences and have put them in the past. That paragraph in your profile makes it sound like you're still carry those issues around with you.
Same thing with your comment about "not wanting someone who has been arrested for assault" It tells me you were physically abused in a prior relationship. That's also something you need to work on, maybe get some counseling.
Putting all that negative stuff in your profile will scare some guys away because they might see them as unresolved baggage that needs to be worked out before you start dating. A guy wants to feel like he is starting out with a clean slate, not like you might be making him pay for things done to you in the past relationships.
I don't know what your living arrangements are but it sounds bad. That's a huge RED FLAG. It sounds like you're still living with a man/woman(since you claim to be Bi). Who would think seriously about contacting you under those circumstances?. | |
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| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:43:46 AM | I have to agree with Black velvet 46, we all carry our weight differently (& we also all have different ideas of what each category
means, LOL). You also have to remember that some men don't read the profile all that carefully, if they find the picture attractive.
And looking at your face shots, I would never have known you were overweight, if you hadn't listed it.
You need to do a little re-wording in your profile, to make it sound less negative. There's more than one way to put things.
For instance:
ive had bad experiences in the past and im just lookin for a real man that wont treat me like dirt, someone who is in it for more then just one thing, im not looking for one night stands,games,bs
Since you have already stated that you are looking for someone who is "for a man that is honest,trustworthy,caring,respectful",
I think that the above ^ is redundant & comes across as negative & whiny. And I think this should be deleted, for the same reason.
You also have email restrictions, that will make what you are looking for, quite clear.
someone who has never been arrested for assault!!
And I think you should also remove the sentence about your living arrangements. If you have a male room-mate, or are back
living with your parents, it's no-one's business, unless you are involved with them. And I don't think the last sentence in your
"first date" section is neccessary. Very few people would expect you to meet with less than 24 hours notice (unless it's because
you're a stay-at-home mom). If they make that assumtion, you can simply tell them you need adequate notice, to make
arrangements for your sitter. | |
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| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 4/2/2008 5:40:25 AM | i havnt been on a real date in over a yr and a half the last serious relationship i was in was also abusive, so yea i maybe a lil bitter but its cuz all the guys that i talk to on here seem to be playing the same damn game saying "im not the same" or they ask me on a date and never call,show up or write back!
im starting to think its more to it then just this stupid profile im starting to think that men cant find the beauty within they have to all judge a book by its cover.
i guess big girls really cant find love.
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Posted: 4/2/2008 9:53:50 AM | | There's nothing wrong with your profile or pictures and I think you should leave it the way it is. Maybe the reason why your conversations don't last for very long, is because the men messaging you are after a casual relationship and just trying it on. Give it time, you haven't been on the site for long, say what you mean and you will eventually meet the right man. | |
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| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 4/2/2008 11:15:51 AM | Momof2boy07. Please listen to BlackVelvet before going on the whole "it's the problem with men" and thinking of all the reason why men don't see real you. He has given you some very good advice, and you would do well to take it. If it helps you any, I also agree with what he said.
The whole point of profile reviews is to see what other people think of it, and adjusting it accordingly. You have to do it within reason, of course, since some advice is good but some is bad. But, it will do you no good to take the whole "problem is with men" attitude. Change your attitude, clean up grammar in your text and you will have better luck. Not right away, sure, but you will at least have a much better chance. | |
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| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 4/3/2008 11:15:03 AM | Hey chick the first thing in my opinion that you need to do is learn to love yourself ,before you decide that men are judgeing the book by its cover, you have to stop judgeing yourself,take the time to invest the energy and emotion that you r putting into finding love in a man and invest that in yourself ,weather or not its a hobbie or interest take the time to do it for you,work on becoming someone you can be proud of and make you feel good about yourself. trust me the men will follow ! | |
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| i just updated my profile can someone please review it for me thanks
Posted: 4/3/2008 11:20:17 AM | Well, you still have not added pictures that several people said you need. So, that is left to be done.
Text formatting is really bad. Punctuation and hit and miss, there is not a single capital letter to be found and sentence structures need major work. Let me fix it for you, but it is not a good sign that you edited profile and did not see the problem. Profile fixing is easy, messages you send are your own and if you don't see the problem with the way you write, profile will do you little good.
Anyway, here is properly formatted version of what you wrote - without changing almost any of your text. Some of which needs to be rewritten, but that is up to you.
If you check out my profile, at least drop me a line and say hello...............
OK, so I guess it's time to update this thing and see who is actually paying attention!
Hey, my name is Jenn, I'm 27. I am from Bennington area, a divorced single mom of 2 boys. I am a full time stay at home mom. I am a full-figured woman with alot of love to give.
I'm looking for the right man that will treat me right and accept me for who I am, not what I am. He will also be willing to consider my kids as a part of his life as well. No, I am not looking for a father figure for them. In time they will know who their fathers are. I am just lookin for someone who will love them as much as I do and love me for me as well.
I'm looking for a man that is honest, trustworthy, caring, respectful, who is OK with night in just watching a movie, or a night out on the town as well. Soomeone who knows how to cook, so I don't have to do all the cooking. Don't get me wrong - I love to cook, but I'm not willing to do it all the time. I'm not looking for one night stands, games, bs or drama. I have enough of my own thanks.
First Date
Hmm... what would i like to do for a first date? Seeings how I havn't actually been out on a real date in a long time, I guess I'll have to keep this short and sweet. Either going out to dinner at a nice resturant, or to a movie would be nice and then we'll see where the night takes us from there.
I skipped the last section because I think it need to go - it is an important detail, sure, but you will have a chance to discuss it with your potential date when talking to him. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:22:30 AM | momof...
Your profile is below in brackets.
[If you check out my profile, at least drop me a line and say hello...............
OK, so I guess it's time to update this thing and see who is actually paying attention!]
^^Right off the bat, your expectations are in-your-face written.
[Hey, my name is Jenn, I'm 27. I am from Bennington area, a divorced single mom of 2 boys. ]
^^You don't need all this, it's listed in above sections. Not good filler.
[I am a full time stay at home mom. I am a full-figured woman with alot of love to give.]
^^You need to add at least one full body photo, so viewers can get some kindof an idea of how you are porportioned.
[I'm looking for the right man that will treat me right and accept me for who I am, not what I am. He will also be willing to consider my kids as a part of his life as well. No, I am not looking for a father figure for them. In time they will know who their fathers are. I am just lookin for someone who will love them as much as I do and love me for me as well.]
^^Make up your mind. Do they have fathers? Above statement is an oxymoron, 'don't need father figure...yada yada...someone who will love them...yada yada...
[I'm looking for a man that is honest, trustworthy, caring, respectful, who is OK with night in just watching a movie, or a night out on the town as well. Soomeone who knows how to cook, so I don't have to do all the cooking. Don't get me wrong - I love to cook, but I'm not willing to do it all the time.]
^^You are an unemployed single mother, but you expect 'him' to cook?
[I'm not looking for one night stands, games, bs or drama. I have enough of my own thanks.]
^^Above is a negative statement. You don't want to deal with someone else's b/s or drama, but you state YOU have enough of your own. Obviously you expect them to deal with yours. Try to be alittle optimistic at least.
I'm out... | |
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