| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:41:28 PM | So here is the deal: I work in an office and am very attracted to a woman in the same office. She is hot, gorgeous, beautiful, whatever you want to call her. We interact a fair amount on a professional level and find time to flirt and laugh a little. I would do anything to be intimate with her. I find her striking and can only think sexual thoughts when we are together. The PROBLEM - We are both married! I sometimes get the feeling that she is feeling some sexual frustration and friction between us and would take the opportunity if it presented itself, just my vibe though, I could be wrong. I in the worst way want to be intimate with her, not for the sex, but for the imtimacy and feelings I think we have for one another and I have to admit, the mindblowing sex we would have. I have only been professional around her, but in the worst way want to make an advance but fear for losing my job or a sexual harassment complaint and then risking my marriage.
Ladies - WHAT DO I DO? If this woman was you, what would you want me to do? Please help!!!!!! | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:44:58 PM | Get a divorce.
Otherwise you're risking everything for just SEX. Then again I see u are online looking for intimate encounters, so your marriage must not mean too much to you. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:46:35 PM |
fear for losing my job or a sexual harassment complaint and then risking my marriage.
Because coming online and trolling for poon on the side is healthy for your marriage?
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:46:46 PM | You know, perhaps you should ask your WIFE what you should do about this?
She has a more relevant opinion to this specific situation.
Other than that, I'm just gonna sit and watch the show...
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:50:36 PM | Please, don't act on any of your impulses......! You are MARRIED. Plus, dear god, the havoc it would wreck at work......
You are going through a rough patch in your relationship, either an obvious one or in your heart. Please back away from your office "wife" and take a look at what you are wanting with her -- besides the mind blowing sex - what is missing in your marriage that you are searching for it elsewhere. Just novelty? Do you have kids and your wife is too tired for mind-blowing sex or even to talk with you? I don't know..... it could be a huge bunch of things. I don't know your situation.
But it seems as if this woman stands for things you want, along with the chance to have mind blowing sex with a new person. Did you ever have that with your wife? How can you get it back? Sometimes it IS the LITTLE intimacies that go away, and with it the big intimacies. The joking, the laughing, the non-sexual touching.
On the other hand, this may be a sign that you and your wife need to really get down to whether you all should be together...... if you are thinking of cheating, there is definitely a reason.
Good luck.
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:53:13 PM | Well, first you might want to change your profile's marital status from "prefers not to say" to "married"
or better yet, delete your profile, talk to your Wife about your issues.
Or you could just open the phone book, look in the yellow pages under ATTORNEYS and find one that specializes in representing 'cheating scum', because it looks like you are headed for divorce.
Honestly, do you really want us to answer this? | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:55:22 PM |
I find her striking and can only think sexual thoughts when we are together.
yeah yeah yeah...
want to be intimate with her, not for the sex, but for the imtimacy and feelings I think we have for one another and I have to admit, the mindblowing sex we would have.
You "think" eh?
...and mindblowing sex eh?
...soooo...you dunno how you feel, how she feels...and are assuming you're gonna get a PB in this years Sex Olympics.
Bit naive dontya think?
annnnnd whilst embarking on your Gold Medal of Glory...you're willing to jeopardise your job and marriage (incidentally includes a promise to foresake all others) for something you have NFI about in the slightest.
Spray a little reality around the room OP...cos you're choking on pheromones.
Ladies - WHAT DO I DO? If this woman was you, what would you want me to do? Please help!!!!!!
Id want you to go home to your wife.
Gee, thanks for the deep thought.
Nothing real deep about the obvious | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:59:34 PM | If you feel that your marriage is over, then you should just end it, and see what happens with this other woman.
I don't think you want your marriage to be over, because you worry about risk of getting busted.
You're the only one who can decide whether a fling outside the marriage is worth it. If you think your wife and marriage are worth saving, then don't do it....that simple.
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:01:21 PM | I was once in a situation somewhat similar to yours. I ended up leaving my wife (the right thing) and the other woman left her husband (also apparently right)
We had an awesome 6 or 7 months before we broke up and then there were 4 lonely divorced people instead of two.
If you want to leave your wife, do it but don't do it for someone else. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:03:22 PM | In addition to talking to wifey, there are couple of things that you could try to reduce libido:
1. Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors usually significantly lower sex drive (Prozac, Paxil, and Zoloft)
2. Progesterone supplements (on plus side, you might grow boobies)
3. 300 grams black liquorice a day
4. Buy yourself a chastity belt.
IF everything else fails: A GOOD SWIFT KICK IN THE NUTS usually does the trick. I will be happy to help with that.
Have a lovely pair of steel-toed boots. 
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:07:25 PM | | Dont hurt your wife man.Talk to your wife about whats going on.This is an oportunity to strengthen your marrage threw trust and show your loyalty.The rewards from that would be better then the meaningless sex you could have. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:11:02 PM | | Where do you get the idea that this woman is hot for you? That she would risk her job and marriage just for the thrill of jumping into bed with you? Get over yourself. I suggest that you stop fantasizing and start dealing with the reality of your marriage. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:32:24 PM |
Gee, thanks for the deep thought.
The title of this area is Ask A Girl. It is not “ Ask a Beard” . I know i am NOT a girl, but i thought i
could offer some advice.
Let me try this diplomatically , OP. This is a dating site. Many people here are single because of
a cheating spouse. Others may know of someone near and dear who have had their lives turned upside
down due to an affair. You might see how your request for advice in cheating might not make you Mr
Popular here, yes ?
There are more than enough people on dating sites who are married. Unfortunately not everyone is
honest enough to rat themselves out on a forum. I think you profile used “prefer not to say”, which is
damn near “ I AM MARRIED”, but not quite. That also will get you some hostility.
As to your original question, my advice is to get out of your marriage, or get more into it. Do one or the
other before you act on your attraction to this woman. I’ll leave the more negative comments that i am
pondering to other posters. I am sure there will be no shortage of them.
Is that "deep " enough for you ?
Good Luck OP......and think about all of this before you act, yes ? | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:42:25 PM | HOLYCOW! Holycow,
Put the SAME verve & smoke in a description of what
happens in your pants when you look over your mate!!!!
Multiply, add, subtract,....DIVIDE!![thats what JUDGES do!] | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:05:45 PM | I will never understand why (some) men have to ease their way out of a relationship.They will have to set themselves up a comfy little place to land when shit hits the fan....leaving the "unknowing the unknown"
So unfair. While you OP are getting used to the idea of a divorce....and you must see it coming.....someone is going to be devistated .
Shame on you for lacking the courage to walk away from an obvious failing marriage and leaving someone behind with a tremendous disadvantage .... without a plan in place.....which is exactly what you seem to have.
If it is not this lusty lady from the office....it will no doubt be another.
When we jump for joy, we have to remember the people who are moving beneath our feet.....because they were surely there to hold us up at one point.
shame shame indeed
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:15:58 PM | | Notice that he changed his profile to ''I don't know what I'm doing here''...is he now having second thoughts about his intimiate encounters...why was he so into screwing this woman at work, yet on this site also looking for women to screw. Do you wife a favor and divorce her now. Sounds like you are miserable and I have a sneaking suspicion she is too. Also a lot of women flirt, but don't mean anything by it. A lot of women use their sexuality and flirtations to get things out of life. They have learned how to harness that power over a man's privates and use it to their own gain. Doesn't mean they want to sleep with you. Means they want to use their weakness to get whatever they can from you. | |
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| She is married, I am married, what do I do?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:18:15 PM | what would you want me to do? Go home to your wife.
Just because you have no respect for your own marriage, don't go fucking up someone else's marriage too.
....and maybe tell your wife about your profile on this site, so she can do herself a favor and find someone more respectable than you. | |
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