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Posted: 4/1/2008 7:22:53 PM | is it just me or is everyone on this site just out for sex??
It seems like the ones that say looking for "long term" and "dating" are the worst ..At least the ones who say "hang out" are not trying to kid anyone about what they really want..It just seems that this is the new way to get laid...less effort involved this way then going to a bar and having to buy a girl drinks all night...No point when u have a buffet of woman right at your fingertips...
I have been on and off this site for 2 years and I can honestly say it is one big meat market...Is anyone out there actually serious about what they are looking for? Im just curious how many people have actually made a serious go of a relationship from someone they met on here... | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 7:30:09 PM | Sorry to read of your poor experience on this site.
I approach this site as a way to help to meet new friends. If I find someone compatible to me, I offer a coffee so we can truly "see" each others in person. If ever sex becomes part of the equation, it will come much later...if at all.
That a few of the males on this site uses their time to see how "lucky" they can get is very ungentlemanlike of them.
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Posted: 4/1/2008 7:35:05 PM | Ummmm, your age dear. The "boys" your age are just looking for sex, but you already know that. I just had a conversation with someone your age the other day and she was saying the same thing. And actually, I was talking to someone MY age and she was saying the same thing about this place and the real world,,,,,a massive meat market. A lot of need for the "instant satisfaction", which includes the sex thingy.
The "good ones" are hard to pick out thru typed words, etc. I would step "gingerly" when doing your first meets,dates, etc. Take your time, and let the "boys" wait. You will weed them out real quick like. And the majority of the "boys" won't turn the corner until about 30 years old and then after being married for 5 years or so, they will turn back into the horn dogs that us 40 year olds seem to all be.That's what I have been told anyways. Good luck and I wish I could tell ya it will get better as the years pass. It probably won't because you have already started to get that growth on your shoulder. And that wasn't a personal jab,,,,but not ALL men and women are the same!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 7:46:28 PM | Maybe there is a lesson in your observations ?
Maybe the guys who are too forward and pushy, are not the type for long term committments.
Maybe you have other observations ?
Yes, some guys cannot think beyond their dinck. Look around for men who have similar interests, and approach them, don't wait for jerks to approach you. Yes, there are good guys who will approach you too, but it is your good fortune that you have the choice of first refusal.
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:07:56 PM | OP
My objectives are certainly not consistent with those of the men you describe.
I wonder if your profile might play some part in the men you are attracting. Your indicating that you reside in "NoWheresGoodVille" may suggest to some that you might be a "bad girl" looking for a "bad boy".
Food for thought.
Good luck and tight lines.
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:13:58 PM | lol
that was not my intention i just really believe that I live in such a place...I mean we still have horse and carriage's and no street lights and noone has ever heard of it or can pronounce it.. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:17:56 PM | Let me guess... Pouce Coupe.
Home is what you make it. I've lived in a place many people had never heard or mistook for another town of similar name. You can't let that be barrier or discourage you from stating where you reside. I believe dishonesty in a profile is counter productive, but we know there are differences of opinion on that in this pond.
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:24:14 PM | { It seems like the ones that say looking for "long term" and "dating" are the worst ..At least the ones who say "hang out" are not trying to kid anyone about what they really want..It just seems that this is the new way to get laid...less effort involved this way }
I agree with you completely on that statement. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:24:24 PM | | Have you tried attending any of the functions? Those are a great way to meet a lot of members in a casual setting. I no longer live on the Island but we had some great events there. Met some really good people. No, nothing came of it, but it was a lot better than trying the one on one thing. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:50:08 PM | is it just me or is everyone on this site just out for sex??
Well I cannot speak for everyone else...but I know I am...and a lot of it too!~ 
Ultimately meeting the one person I cannot live without, together building a strong, life-long devoted marriage and raising a home full of happy-healthy kids... is but a mere perk.  | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:54:32 PM | yes i actually hosted a event 2 years ago that had over 250 people attend....it was a great night tons of fun....but still was one big F**k fest
i guess im just sick of seeing that gay e harmony commercial with the two that found each other and the guy promting us to try cause love is just a click a way....ive been clicking forever and still nothing!! GRR | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 8:58:52 PM | take the weight off your shoes and you won't sink and only find the bottom feeders girl There are great people in this pond, just a lot of algae to wade through first.
Keep your chin up about where you live too,.. c'mon we've all heard of Spuzzum and it only has 13 people!!!
Th eposter who mentioned events is ON the money too. I have made excellent friends through POF and although you may not find your love here some of those people you meet also have friends remember???? | |
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Posted: 4/1/2008 9:30:27 PM | 
the events in the past on the island rocked....wish the pof events now a days were more like that.... maybe its time for the return of the peanut butter kid
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Posted: 4/1/2008 11:02:14 PM | OP a lot of well intended great comments here^^^^
and they do come from experience, yup some of us (m or f) cougars and sabertooth
have some of the same problems and believe me it is not necessarily one of younger or older age.
Don't take this medium too serious. It is just another means to meet someone. You'll never know when or where you may meet the RIGHT one for you, could be from here or from friends or in a pub, the beach while you are grocery shopping...
Stay positive and retain your own values.
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Posted: 4/2/2008 7:45:59 PM | I do get disillusioned at times with dating in general. You have to remember it is playing the odds to find the right match and they are not in your favour. I am now approaching this whole internet dating experience of getting out and making friends and if the right one comes along great. I have made a few good friends in the last year or two.
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Posted: 4/2/2008 7:56:02 PM | Ben Surgeon says,
I am now approaching this whole internet dating experience of getting out and making friends and if the right one comes along great. I have made a few good friends in the last year or two.
You are SO right. My approach to dating is the same.
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Posted: 4/2/2008 9:42:03 PM | | I'll vouch for CookieMike. he causes quite a stir in the kitchen too from what I hear HEHEHEHEHEH A gals gotta love a man who can handle knives and kids. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 9:54:21 PM |
I am now approaching this whole internet dating experience of getting out and making friends and if the right one comes along great.
Yup. Me, too.
OP, if you'll pardon a suggestion; many of your photos are pretty sexy. Maybe if you had more 'good clean fun' sorts of photos - more clothes, more light, etc. You're a cutie but sexy photos are - well - sexy and will be more likely to attract people looking for sex. Save the hotter photos to send to someone that you're interested in that way :) | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 10:01:45 PM | | I sorta agree; Im starting to lose faith in ever finding someone either. I didnt think Prince George was very small but its online community is pretty few and far between. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2008 10:13:42 PM | more clothes?? im wearing clothes in all my pics most are taken out and about...
its not like im one of those tools that stand half naked in front of the mirror taking self portraits...or one of those girls who post cleavage shots or them kissing other girls...I honestly think that my pics are far from sexy and suductive...
i think its just the fact that i live on a island full of dirt bags who think with there lower head. | |
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