| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:49:59 AM | Hi
I am a member of a bi ladies forum and we have been surprised by the responses to the question "would you date a bi guy?"
I wanted to come ask the question in a hetro majority environment to see how the feelings differed.
Please give reasons for you feelings on this subject, thanks  | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:04:24 AM |
"would you date a bi guy?"
No I wouldn't date a bi guy, but I might date a BI girl if I can try before I buy.
Actually I do think that I am Bi_Sexual, if I cant get it I can always buy it.
Any one on the forums know where the best BOGOF offers are. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:07:17 AM | Nope.
There is always going to be a part of her that needs something else and i don't share | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:14:33 AM |
There is always going to be a part of her that needs something else and i don't share
My sentiments too! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:20:04 AM | | Good God no, I couldnt have sex with a man who had sex with another man, ewwwww...Doesnt bear thinking about..And as for another woman, havent crossed to the dark side yet, or ever will, but each to their own.. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:20:08 AM | Would not date a bi-man. Reason ? I am not bi myself.
Have dated and had a relationship with a bi girl. Made no difference whatsoever ! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:22:14 AM | I lived with a bisexual girl for about 4 years, in London. However during that period she never 'dated' or slept with anyone else, male or female, and the rather tacky subject of a threesome never reared it's ugly head.
So, yes I would date a bisexual female, provided she was 100% open about wanting a purely monogamous relationship with me. As far as I am concerned if she slept with another woman whilst dating me then that is just exactly the same as if she slept with another man.
However, I may have misinterpreted the original post which was purely about dating a bi guy, or on the other hand I may have attempted to open this thread up to a wider audience. You decide! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:26:01 AM | "would you date a bi guy?"
Knowing that he was going home to that biatch after sharing my bed ... .........no way !!
I am a member of a bi ladies forum
Can you send me the link please ??
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:26:51 AM |
I wanted to come ask the question in a hetro majority environment to see how the feelings differed.
Please give reasons for you feelings on this subject, thanks[\quote]
Who are you really asking here? Both? The guys? Or just the girls?
Most guys would SAY they'd give their left arm to date a bi-girl in the hope that they got a 3-some out of it. The reality of it is that most men can't cope. It a double dose of jealousy. Not only do you not trust all the blokes (*deepest voice*)"looking at my bird", but other women cause the green-eyed monster to appear too.
Personally I would have no problem with it (from experience!), in the same way I would have no problem going out (socially) with a bi or gay bloke. I'm from Manchester and I live in Brighton. Hell, if I was the least bit homophobic then I wouldn't be where I am, with the friends I have!!
From experience, bi women are better in bed than straight (can't speak for lesbian, obviously not equipped for that!) because they've at least thought through EVERY possible sex-act, if not tried them!
The only downside is when you tell your (un-reconstructed) mates you've split and she is now seeing another girl. They tend to take the obvious tack in their humour about that! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:32:55 AM | To clarify..
I was mostly asking would the guys date a bi girl and would the girls date a bi guy..this is assuming the majority here are hetro..of course people of any orientation are welcome to answer..thanks for your responses. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:40:15 AM | Depends on the guy. If he was bi but not monogamous then no, same to if he was 'bi' but really gay.
I don't think it matters who he was sleeping with as long as it was safe sex. I have known bi people before and what they've said to me is bi doesn't mean they have the desire for both genders. I.e. if they are with a man they are not missing or wanting women. To them it's a matter of gender not affecting attraction.
Not being there myself I figure I can only listen to what they tell me... | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:40:58 AM |
I was mostly asking would the guys date a bi girl and would the girls date a bi guy..this is assuming the majority here are hetro..of course people of any orientation are welcome to answer..thanks for your responses.
Your question does raise another question which should be considered by any person about to date a bi person. At some point during your relationship, the bi partner might fancy another person of the same sex and might want to act on it.
Some would see it as a problem and some would not. Your view will very much affect whether you want to date a bi person. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:44:12 AM | I was mostly asking would the guys date a bi girl
Thanks for clarifying but i swear you asked "would you date a bi-guy" in the OP ???
OT I would date a bi-girl short term just for the thrill of it until i got bored but long term dating no way ...........we would not be compatible other than we share the same interest in puzzy !! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:47:31 AM | Some bi people are monogamous, some desire more than one relationship, just like any other orientation, of course I would suspect the incidence of polyamorous bi people is higher than hetro because many feel different sexes have something different to offer.
There are many bi people who fall for people not gender (that might be called pansexual but that is a whole different thread) so do not miss on gender when with the other one.
There are also bi people who do see the difference between men and woman but are monogamous.
Hehe Manc I can see where the confusion came from there sorry! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:54:11 AM | | femredhead: Can I ask, why you're asking? You seem pretty sure of who you are and what you want. I would guess that you're the sort who really doesn't care what the rest of us get up to (no offence meant!). | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:59:54 AM | | Many of the BI women on the forum would NOT date a bi man! We were surprised by this, I want to compare the response of the bi forum to that of this mostly straight forum as you would expect bi ladies would be understanding of bi men. So far the responses have been very similar. I wont link to the thread cus the mods might give me a row. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:03:19 PM |
Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Yes, if I fancied them enough, guy or girl, I haven't been with either yet as far as I know . The same principles of safe sex apply as with a hetro partner surely? | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:46:16 PM |
Your question does raise another question which should be considered by any person about to date a bi person. At some point during your relationship, the bi partner might fancy another person of the same sex and might want to act on it.
But in any relationship there is always the risk that one or other of the partners might fancy another person. Just because a partner is bi doesn't necessarily make them less faithful. It's just that they have a lot more choice with who they play away with!
OT, I would not knowingly date a bi guy... probably.
I started off thinking I definitely wouldn't, then I thought of some particularly tasty gay man that I've met in the past and wished vehemently that they were straight. So, I've confused myself, I don't rightly know. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:49:42 PM | | Please forgive for being off topic, but this thread has raised a question for me. As I have never been with a woman this is puzzling me, how do lesbians perform safe oral sex ? Simple enough with a guy, just use a condom. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 1:14:21 PM | Well said on the fidelity score Moo 
Cats-you can use dental dams with are like cling film that are placed from the pelvic bone to beyond the anus, they are also handy if you want to go down on a man from behind.
Or you can form a relationship where you trust the person and get a sexual health screen, provided neither of you carry infections you can share all the fluids you like
Also you can have safer sex like only using fingers (no cuts), tribadism with clothes (look it up) or toys with condoms changed between partners. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 1:49:28 PM | Well im a bi girl and much prefer the monogamy of a relationship, whether thats my age or not, messing about behind someones back really isnt my thing at all. I personally believe that some bi girls and maybe even bi men, (im not sure) but either hugely sway more for girls and less for men right the way up the scale to hugely into men with only a slight interest in girls ie 90/10 to 10/90, if you see what i mean. Those of us at either end of the scale are more likely to be true to the person they are with at the time rather than those in the middle who may find that if they are with a girl, they dream about guys and vice versa.
My own preference is for girls, thats not to say im not interested in guys, just not sure if i want sex with a man but is that more because i just haven't met the ONE and is there such a thing. Something else to also consider is that some of us have only recently come into realising that we are bi so may not have 100% decided what we prefer. I know that i love the body of a woman, making love no quickies, i enjoy being a top and a bottom with a woman, whereas its not quite the same with a bloke.
As to liking women being the dark side, well i think thats a bit rude, nothing wrong with it at all and as they say dont knock it till you try it! | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 1:56:08 PM | As I have said I have dated and had a relationship with a bi-girl. It makes no difference to me at all.
We discussed the matter of her seeing a girl while in a relationship with me.
Not sure why, but I felt that I would have no problem with it and would not see it as "cheating" yet it would be different if it was another guy she wanted to see. | |
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| Would you date a bi guy/girl?
Posted: 4/4/2008 2:00:42 PM |
Cats-you can use dental dams with are like cling film that are placed from the pelvic bone to beyond the anus, they are also handy if you want to go down on a man from behind.
Or you can form a relationship where you trust the person and get a sexual health screen, provided neither of you carry infections you can share all the fluids you like
Second option sounds more appealing, although trusting your partner and having tests doesn't gaurantee fidelity, and repeating the tests periodically suggests lack of trust....tricky | |
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