| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/5/2008 9:51:37 AM | I'm looking for the love of my life. Someone that thinks as I do on most things. Don't have to exactly think alike, that would be very very boring, BUT you at least have the same basic thoughts on life.
I want the person I love to KNOW that he is my world and I put him FIRST before anyone else on earth...and THEN we bring together our families. I want to know that he feels the same about me. We do everything in our power every single day to make the other happy. We can talk together about any thing on earth. (If you can't do that then your with the wrong person). We can have TOTALLY different opinions on some things, but we respect each other enough to accept it and not think OUR opinion is the RIGHT ONE.
We treat each other as WE want to be treated. Relationships are like jobs. You have to work at them every day to keep them and make them work. Other wise you loose them.
I want to find the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with and to do that we both have to KNOW what the other person WANTS and NEEDS. We're not mind readers you have to TELL each other what you want on a continual basis. Life brings changes....wants and needs change. If you don't discuss it HOW will you ever get it???
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/5/2008 10:29:19 AM | I believe we all are looking for the love of our life, eventually. Some are looking right now. Some want to date for a while before looking to become serious with someone. Then there are some that were made to be on their own and are happy with that. But for those that are looking for a long term relationship, of course they hope to find the love of their life. I believe that is just natural.
I agree with most of your post.
The only disagreement I have is that I will never put a man before my family UNTIL he is my husband.
Serious relationships, long relationships, and long engagements are still open to abruptly or eventually end. Marriage on the other hand is "suppose" to be a forever relationship if both parties are real. Yes, marriages can also end. How well do I know. BUT, if a marriage includes God, then that marriage definitely has a future. Still I feel that no one should ever put their "lover" or "fiance" before their family, especially their children. Only the "spouse" should come before the rest of the family/families.
JMO
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/5/2008 10:51:31 AM | | OP, I just want to find a man I can truly respect and adore, and one who respects and adores me equally. I guess it's just the same as what you say except worded differently. I want to meet a man that I just know I want to spend the rest of my life keeping happy and vice versa. The route to happiness between a couple IMO is respecting each others purpose in life, and having the same principles, as well as fancying each other to pieces. Regarding the second post, it is natural that you would put your family first, but if you know you have found someone who loves you equally, they will be just as keen to keep your family happy as you are, because they will want you to be happy. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/5/2008 7:24:48 PM | | OK here comes Mr pessimist. Because of my past relationships I don't think I'll ever marry again. I don't think love lasts. At this point in my life I'm looking for a best friend first and someone that I really enjoy being with. I may even live with someone some day. But I know that it'll end at some point and why deal with the problems of going through another divorce ? Sorry don't mean to sound so negative. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/6/2008 1:46:58 PM | What do i want in a relationship???
Well its not that much, atleast I do not think so. But i want someone who can at the very least show that they care for me without me some how getting it out of them. I want THEM to be able to message me and I want them to be able to be nervous when I don't message them for some reason. I basically just want them to truly care for me to where I do not have worry about them, to where I will know when they may not be able to talk. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/6/2008 2:25:12 PM |
Regarding the second post, it is natural that you would put your family first, but if you know you have found someone who loves you equally, they will be just as keen to keep your family happy as you are, because they will want you to be happy. Yes mamn, you are right....IF, he is for real.
You see, I have had more than my share of players so until I marry him, he would never, ever come before my family.
This world is full of a lot of self-centered users and they will convince you of the whole sha-bang just to fulfill their own wants, needs, etc... I hope you never fall in love with one but if you do, then and only then you will understand what I am saying.
Yes, I know there are alot of great and wonderful men out there. I have met some but most live too far away and neither of us has the desire to relocate so we are just friends. Just do not want the guys to think that I am too negative... just cautious and very smart. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/9/2008 1:52:45 AM | I think we all want the perfect relationship, but I do think we will ever find it. I think the perfect relationship comes when we are looking at what we can do to make our partner happy, not ourselves. It is when we care and love them so deeply, that what makes them happy, what is best for them, becomes more important than what is important for ourselves. But this seems so hard, so impossible at times. We all want to feel good. But what if we all actually did this? What if we all actually felt this way about each other? Wouldn't we all feel good because the one who says they love us is actually thinking of us, as we are of them?
OK, WAKE UP PEOPLE. I didn't mean to wake you from dreamland. Real life isn't like this, otherwise the divorce rate wouldn't be over 50% and none of us would have to be here. JMO but relationships fail because we are looking for THEM to make US feel good. When the seemingly successful way would be the other way around. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:25:31 AM | | I'm looking for someone as good as my mama.......Someone to cook and clean and make my lunch, with Fritos every day. How hard can that be? | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 11:19:39 PM | "I think we all want the perfect relationship, but I do think we will ever find it. I think the perfect relationship comes when we are looking at what we can do to make our partner happy, not ourselves. It is when we care and love them so deeply, that what makes them happy, what is best for them, becomes more important than what is important for ourselves. But this seems so hard, so impossible at times. We all want to feel good. But what if we all actually did this? What if we all actually felt this way about each other? Wouldn't we all feel good because the one who says they love us is actually thinking of us, as we are of them?
OK, WAKE UP PEOPLE. I didn't mean to wake you from dreamland. Real life isn't like this, otherwise the divorce rate wouldn't be over 50% and none of us would have to be here. JMO but relationships fail because we are looking for THEM to make US feel good. When the seemingly successful way would be the other way around. "
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Crazy as it is this is exactly what I had in my last relationship. I wanted to make him the happiest man on earth. Unfortunately you come crashing down a million miles an hour when you realize it's monstly one sided...sigh When you don't THINK alike your fighting a loosing battle....and I lost... It takes two to make a relationship work and you have to have some BASIC things in common AND thought process on what are common courtesies for another human being...... | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/10/2008 4:56:05 PM | I want a crazy a$$ woman who won't dictate my life...but share it.
I want a silly a$$ woman who gets my jokes and laughs like she means it.
I want a happy a$$ woman who doesn't care what others think.
I want a funny a$$ woman who just figured out that my meter is peaking.
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/11/2008 7:37:07 AM | LOL!! I hear ya skunk. ^^^
I just want someone who can keep it real!! Stupid games??!!?. I am comfortable enough in my own skin, I don't need that. You know. Be yourself and let me be me.
I do not agree with BD. I, like corb have been there. Trying to always please them. You sorta loose sight of yourself and your happiness. I know that we are not promised tomorrow and be happy in today.
ok, nuff said.........just in a mood!!
Going to give the dog a bath........
Letting it GO!! haha
~~~Tee
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/16/2008 11:20:06 AM | I know one thing I don't want in a relationship.....my last next ex....would pull
one of these stupid" sitting in judgement acts" with me. It was moronic on my part
to even be in a relationship with someone who was so judge"mental".
I had, and have, nothing to hide or gain in that relationship other than the relationship
itself. I thought I had found the "One".But she painted all men with a broad brush and
she was using a paint by numbers set. Yup...It was water color....
Guess that's why I'm not into artist at all.
Does my stripe down my back look straight?
Now where did I put that coloring book?
Skunkster .....just struttin' by!
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/19/2008 9:32:04 PM | I want my dog back!
My dog would always be exited when I got home. She would always want to play, even on bad days. She didn't care what my mood was. She always met me at the door. She would always want to play, and to lick me all over. She never asked me any questions. She was never suspicious. She trusted me. And I never wanted another dog.
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/20/2008 12:04:57 AM | I want everything ...
Isn't that simple enough?
I want sparks, candle light and fluttering hearts. I want long conversations, belly laughs and deeps sighs. I want passion, friendship and love.
At first.
Then.
I want all that + commitment.
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:57:11 AM |
I want my dog back!
My dog would always be exited when I got home. She would always want to play, even on bad days. She didn't care what my mood was. She always met me at the door. She would always want to play, and to lick me all over. She never asked me any questions. She was never suspicious. She trusted me. And I never wanted another dog.
So where is my dog?
I dont know about anyone else but to me, that read nasty.  | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/22/2008 12:06:25 AM |
IT is an analogy. Dogs dont care what kind of mood your in, whether you have made mistakes or not, they love you anyways.
I have yet to find a woman that will do this, but I would enjoy it if I did.
Human love is alot more conditional, and withheld when you dont do or say just the right things.
It was just myway of saying I want someone that will love me on my bad days as well as my good ones.
I am just a man, therefore not perfect. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/23/2008 7:34:40 AM | IT is an analogy. Dogs dont care what kind of mood your in, whether you have made mistakes or not, they love you anyways.
I have yet to find a woman that will do this, but I would enjoy it if I did.
Human love is alot more conditional, and withheld when you dont do or say just the right things.
It was just myway of saying I want someone that will love me on my bad days as well as my good ones.
I am just a man, therefore not perfect.
Wheresmydog believe it or not there are women out there that are just what your looking for. They are just looking for someone to love and for you to love them. Hard to find YES...but we DOOOOO exist. None of us are "perfect" and if anyone gives you the attitude they are then run...... Find someone you can talk to about anything on earth, someone that is not looking for money or possessions.......just a nice man...... but that also goes for the ladies. Some of us are "looking" for the same thing..... | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:56:40 AM | The world of today is not perfect! Relationships of today are getting harder and harder to understand! People of today have been hurt by past relationships which in return make it hard for them to trust again and or give freely of oneself.
We are either too busy ( by choice) to try and forget about the past and pain of a relastionship gone bad. Or to flip the coin the loss of a loved one and the pain is sooooo deep you us a relationship to cover the pain and not deal. I could go on and on but, the bottom line is..................................
Today we don't think of what we are looking for in a relationship that we just go with the flow and because of that people get hurt ( not mean they are out to do that ) but, they get hurt along the way of the other person just trying to heal from there past.
I think if we all take the time to look into our soul we will find what we are in search of and then and only then will we find it. I know for myself I have been on an on going search and at the same time I also feel I have learned along the way and know what I'm looking for. And with that being said I will tell you............
A man that is true to himself and can love from within his heart mind and soul! A man that is all the way over any past issues ( hard to find now of days) a man that will accept my faults as I accept his.. but, the bottom line is............. WE all have to be willing to take the time to learn one another no one is perfect but, also no one is better then you either!!
I know each and every one of you will find what you are looking for but, it all takes time!!!
Good luck and hugs,
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:51:38 AM | Great post giggles,
I am more of a go with the flow kinda guy. When I fall in love, I just know im in love and just go with it and never look back. I might get hurt doing that, but im willing to take that chance. Because if im not hurt from doing so, its well worth it.
I hope you find your special someone giggles, you have a heart of gold in my book. | |
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:24:59 AM |
A man that is true to himself and can love from within his heart mind and soul! A man that is all the way over any past issues ( hard to find now of days) a man that will accept my faults as I accept his. Your right Giggles!!
I think many gentleman fail to resolve their past issues or open up to tackle them as most Ladies would. I think that Men are not to good at multi-tasking (we know of a certain gentleman that fits that catagory).......but once he has his ducks in a row, you'll be rewarded for your patience and love.
Take care,
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:24:48 PM | Thank you Anvilghost!
I speek from the heart and past events! More should look inside themself to find what they are looking for but, until that day comes for them. They will be a lost soul!
It saddens my heart to see and hear others do this to people but, it is a true fact in today's world!
I know in my heart, mind and soul you too will find the women of your dreams and when you do!!! Watch out world!!
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:30:19 PM | Correct Mr. Sneaks!! But, this is also true for women alike!
This qualit is very rare and hard to find now of days but, I believe and will be there to rape the rewords of a certain gentleman when all of his ducks are in a row.. Just a matter of time!
You have been my rock when I needed a friend to talk to and I want to take this time to say...... "I THANK YOU!" I also want to add......... People of the forum, this post along with many others are a great tool to use! You build wonderful friendship and also many shoulders t cry on when needed! We are the largest support team for each and everyone of you!
Use this to get your answers to your most deepest queston but, also too you build trust and friendships like no other and with being said.... You just made the chances for yourself even better to help you heal and find the one and only special person for you!!!!
Hugs,
Take care,
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| What do you want in a relationship
Posted: 7/3/2008 5:55:54 AM | | A little hard for the 2008 to find this type. I dont cook and would hire someone to clean , but I will love you for the rest of my life faithfully | |
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