| The "Diamond Solitare"
Posted: 4/6/2008 9:51:00 PM | Here's the question:
For the Guys: You are dating a woman, do you buy her a Diamond Solitare, only when you plan to get engaged, or maybe just cause its her b-day / holidays, and you wanted to do something to show you care? (you have unlimited resources, money is no object in this thread)
For the Ladies: A man you are dating, gives you a Diamond Solitare, does not propose, its just a gift. What finger do you wear the ring on? (After all you are not engaged.)
Or is it just taken for granted that once a diamond solitare, comes into the picture in a relationship, thats ultimately where the relationship is going? (engagement / marriage)
NOTE: This has nothing to do with the current events in my life, just something that has been rolling around in my head for quite awhile.
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:13:38 PM | A Diamond Solitare?
Have you been reading the forums?
Guys here don't even want to buy you dinner! | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:24:07 PM | Or what about the men who put the solitare on your finger, not because they are ready to get married, but because they want to show others your off the market, your their possession... but yet not truely commited you? | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:27:56 PM | That could be another instance for this case, insecurity!!!! good thought Curves!!!
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Nextdoor..... The question state : "they are dating" not looking for dinner or a first date.
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:54:48 AM | sounds like you are dating based on gifts...
my advice is to be sure you have it appraised first. | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:56:47 AM | If a guy bought me a diamond, I would give it back.
A: I don't wear jewlery, and if he knew me well, he would have known that before wasting his money.
B: I don't accept gifts like that unless we are very very serious for the long term. Buy me a gift card for $100 to the bookstore and you will win my heart forever. (ie: goes back to paying attention to who I am) | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:15:22 AM | wear it on any finger, except the ring finger of the left hand, if you're not engaged...
and no, being given a ring doesn't mean that you're engaged, unless the person asks you to marry them....
.....i feel there must be a real question here that i'm missing somehow; i'm just stating the obvious... must be time for me to do the dancing banana thing  | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 7:19:54 AM | @Chatty Cathy.....
Solitaire - def: a precious stone, esp. a diamond, set by itself, as in a ring.
Didn't want to be accused of being stupid
OP - I think if I opened a ring box and a diamond solitaire ring was inside it would be hard to think anything other than he wanted to get married. If it wasn't for marriage then I would want a full explanation of what it meant. If I felt that he was giving it to me for the wrong reasons or that it was too early in the relationship for such an extravagent gift I would give it back. I can buy my own diamond.
I would think a guy could avoid this awkwardness and misinterpretation by just choosing a different type of ring.....garnets are nice. | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:25:27 PM | Well I have a different attitude
than every other woman here. I would be happy & say thank you, I personally don't want to be married , but if i had a long term boyfriend , I would appreciate a gift like this after we had been together for a long while. I would wear it on my left had ring finger, as it is the only finger I can stand to wear a ring on. | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:35:37 PM | A really good plan in nearly ALL such situations is to ask the guy involved instead of the forums. . . .
Just me.
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:33:37 PM | | Diamond solitaires are almost exclusively given as an engagement ring. Unless you want to cause much confusion, get her a ring of some other stone - sapphire, ruby, emerald, anything. Or if you must go with diamonds make it earrings, a necklace, or bracelet. | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:38:16 PM | Not really answering the question:
my best friend was given a diamond as a pendant from her bf of 10 years, for her birthday, she gave him back the present, saying, the first diamond she will accept from him would be as an engagement ring. It was a pretty profound statement as he's been ready for quite some time to marry her, but, due to circumstances (family - on her part), it is not feasible as of present (really hoping it works out, and soon). I think it broke his AND her hearts just a little..... | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:47:51 PM | | I wouldn't worry about what finger to wear it on.....I'd be too busy planning to hock it for something I wanted....like...maybe...downpayment on a motorcycle LOL! | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:48:06 PM | Diamond Solitares should be reserved for engagements. If you must get diamonds, there is always earrings, necklaces, and bracelets.
Personally...I would love a loaded gift card for Quik Trip. With gasoline pushing 4.00 a gallon, that would be an extremely thoughtful and useful gift that is never forgotten.
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:48:39 PM | Diamonds? Do you mean to imply that people still place value on those?
I out-grew materialism many years ago, and I wouldn't be able to get serious with any woman who was so materialistic.
The only diamond I'd ever consider would be those thousands of tiny industrial-grade chips found in a tile saw! | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:00:52 PM | u wear it on ur right hand same finger as engagement...or around ur neck on a nice chain that is whats proper
kathi | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:12:51 PM |
A Diamond Solitare?
Have you been reading the forums?
Guys here don't even want to buy you dinner!
Give em a lump of coal "Hey, baby, some heat & pressure in a few million years, you got one heck of a ring!" | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:17:39 PM | | I recieved one on valentines day, and asked what it was for, because I was not going to be engaged, that was not in our future, I had no intentions of getting married, and I just didn't think I could accept it. He said it was just a ring, he wanted me to have it, and I said well, I won't return it, won't wear it on my left hand. I wore it while I was going out with him, on my right hand, but haven't worn it after we broke up. So basically it didn't mean anything. | |
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| The Diamond Solitare
Posted: 4/7/2008 7:06:04 PM | Well thanks for all of the responses, naturally I dont know what it is but people want to bash or degrade ....... whatever
Chattycathy1
<div class='quote'>It's "solitaire". If you can't spell it, you can't wear it
MrVitaix
<div class='quote'>sounds like you are dating based on gifts...
Woobytoodsday
<div class='quote'>A really good plan in nearly ALL such situations is to ask the guy involved instead of the forums. . .
In the original post, please note
NOTE: This has nothing to do with the current events in my life, just something that has been rolling around in my head for quite awhile.
Please to tell you all, that since I prefer silver to gold the stones on my hands only include pink sapphires and tanzanite.
GrandmaBooBoo. Canoist, and cotter …… too funny, thanks for the laugh
and to
Burnlybabe
Sxyvirgo
Girosity
Jennifer1064
Blueskies123
Kathareeene
Jnh456
Lady678
Thanks for sticking with the subject, I appreciate the responses. Actually this all happened to a friend of mine, right around Christmas.... similar to the valentines story that told JNH456 told and think it ultimately had something to do with the comment that TightCurves made early on.
 to all you haters
LOL
Me
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