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Posted: 4/7/2008 9:49:17 AM | | what if one person feels that way and another doesnt. if its mutual then its a great thing but then its kinda like rejection if its not. can they ever feel the same mutually? on one hand you have one person put their feelings out there just to fall on their face..so naturally they are going to hold back their feelings from getting hurt worse. on the other side the other person is going to notice that and not like it but so i guess the qutestion is after that happens can it ever be the same or is it just something hard to overcome. | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:13:39 AM | | Hey, I think both people have to be in lust for it to work. That's the L word that was implied here, right? | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:46:18 AM | | I think it can alter the relationship completely if one person says "I love you" and the other person either doesn't feel the same way, or doesn't feel enough to say it back. I think if you're worried about the other person not feeling the same way, it's not yet right, and you shouldn't say anything and give it time. Too often early in a relationship people mistake lust for love and move too fast and make mistakes. When it's the right time, it'll just happen, so just enjoy being happy. :) | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:54:41 AM | I totaly agree with you on this. People too often jump head first into a relationship.
They actually confuse the two L .words. Then what do you have ,but more hurt.
Enjoy and let nature take its course.
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:55:08 AM | I totaly agree with you on this. People too often jump head first into a relationship.
They actually confuse the two L .words. Then what do you have ,but more hurt.
Enjoy and let nature take its course.
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 11:33:09 AM | | isnt their a timeline of some sort? i mean if 6 months go by maybe even a year..and they have the same feeling they had in beginning..isnt it time to look at the relationship isnt going anywhere? even with that if the person who had their feelings hurt if they dont hold them back then even if the other person does love the other one day...then it turns into well i love you but not the same way you love me...so just seems like its a pattern of never being on same page. | |
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 7 | |
| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 2:01:11 PM |
isnt their a timeline of some sort? i mean if 6 months go by maybe even a year
I must be missing something. Why on earth would you see someone for that long and still be involved with them if you dont love them or they dont love you? | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 2:23:12 PM | I`ve dated someone for well over a year and the "L" word has never come up.
Sometimes things are going well enough, you have things in common, enjoy the time spent and take it a day at a time, but you definitely would never assume those kinds of deep feelings in a partner if he hasn`t expressed them. I would never say "I love you" even if I felt it, unless he has told me first.
What has happend to me several times, is a marriage proposal right out of the blue when we have never even brought up a future or feelings. That has always shocked me. Why would a guy propose marriage before he said "I love you"? It just makes no sense to me. | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:48:44 PM | | ok well were they actually like your "boyfriend" or just someone u dated a year..dated other people and stuff...if its not obvious this is about me and a girl..whats odd is she say she got strong feelings thinks about me all the time other things like that...but she doesnt love and gives off the vibe shes nowhere close to that...i would think thats the next step. i have told her a unspecified time will pass and if its clear her feelings havent progressed then we would have talk about where relationship is going...anything wrong with that? surely u dont stay with someone for years hoping one day they will love u like u love them. | |
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medana
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Joined: 12/8/2005
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:51:27 PM | i use LOVE for anything. don't mean as much anymore. i will be more prone to say 'i am IN love w u' as a way of expressing he is special to me.
my advice - dont put so much weight on every word, really, just find other ways to express urself if that worries u | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 4:02:38 PM | The only way you are going to know where she is at is to come right out and ask her.
The times I was with someone for a long time and nothing was ever said, it was because I was holding back my emotions from becoming attached because I didn`t know where he was at and didn`t want to get hurt.
One guy I was dating a long time, he finally got mad at me and said " You never even said that you love me" I thought to myself " I didn`t know he wanted me to say it."
I was always afraid that if I expressed any kind of bond or emotional attachment, that the guy would just run. So I always acted real independant, and never let the soft side of me show. I was afraid that if I did, he would leave. Even if I did feel it for him, I would work at keeping it turned off.
I always dated exclusively, spent all my time with him, cooked, helped around his house, did things for him, really took good care of him. But I never asked for alot in return. Women are afraid to show their feelings first because alot of guys leave. The guys don`t want to get tied down. Alot of guys don`t like women to make the first move in that kind of thing. We don`t always know what to do. | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 4:05:55 PM | | I totally thought this was going to be about the Showtime series... How disappointing. | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 5:47:03 PM | | Yea I did too, The L word, that's the show about the lesbians | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:01:06 PM | I third that.
I'll fourth it too since this message appears to be too short. | |
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| THE L WORD
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:20:14 PM | | I have mistaken Lust for Love, and after saying that, the relationship ended, so I wait on the girl to say it first,or wait until its been 4 or 5 months! | |
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