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Posted: 4/7/2008 6:58:03 PM | Last weekend I went to a ball game with a girl I've known for a while. Nothing romantic, just old friends who haven't seen each other in years. She is off a divorce that happened about a year ago (initiated by her husband who kinda moved out and in with some other woman), I'm still reeling from the last dating experience (and I'm still not sure where the girl and I stand). Anyway, as we walk around the ball park, we bump into some dude. They talk and when we walk off, she goes "Well, that's funny, that's my ex-husband's boss. I bet he is on the phone with my ex as we speak telling him that I'm on a date with a tall good looking guy".
A half an hour later she gets a phone call and she looks all puzzled by who it is. Then they talk for a bit and when she hangs up she says "That was my ex. I didn't even recognize him at first". After the game we go to a good drunk food place, have our dinner and the dude calls AGAIN. She calls him back asking what the hell he wants. He says he wants to meet her in 20 minutes by the ballpark. Mind you, it's the same guy who threw away their marriage for another chick. Today I got an email from her saying that over the last week the dude called her so many times, she had to change her phone number.
I hate drama especially when I end up causing it. And I guess the better question is - what the .... is wrong with that guy?!? | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:02:48 PM | he's jealous simple as!
its that 'I dont really want the person but i dont want anyone else to have them' thing that happens! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:02:51 PM | | It's the old I dont want you but I dont want anyone else to have you syndrome. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:03:40 PM | | see it must be true lol | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:04:12 PM | This one is easy...
he's allowed to have fun; she isn't. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:04:32 PM | What they said^^^
Also, any boss who would get in the middle of his employee's personal life like that, needs to have his a$$ hauled into HR pronto. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:11:40 PM | It's the old "do as I say, not as I do" syndrome. Isn't it funny how sometimes ex's become very attractive again when someone else is interested in them...
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:13:48 PM |
It's the old "do as I say, not as I do" syndrome. Isn't it funny how sometimes ex's become very attractive again when someone else is interested in them...
Well, the funny thing about all this is - I'm not even interested in her that way. I was a few years ago. But not anymore. And I still cause drama. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:17:53 PM | That's what happens to us overly handsome types. It's a curse.
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:20:09 PM | | Well you may not be interested but you just may have got yourself right in the middle. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:27:27 PM |
Well you may not be interested but you just may have got yourself right in the middle.
And I feel pretty bad about it. It really was nothing but a hang out type of a deal. She just got a new job as a recruiter, I happened to be back in town for the home opener, she had company tickets. We talked about business and all that stuff, caught up with what's been going on in the last few years. And then this kind of crap... | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 7:50:00 PM | | I agree completely. I don't need the drama that he's going thru and I definetly don't want to be part of it!! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 8:01:02 PM | Did I miss something in the story? How did you actually cause drama? I think you were just there during drama. She still has unresolved issues with her ex, they definately need some closure on that relationship. Until that happens any situation shes in, with our without you, could lead to similar silly behavior.
She should take some responsibilty for her part as well. She wasn't obligated to answer his call let alone return his call. She didn't have to ask "what the hell he wanted" she already knew. Hopefully she will put him in the past and you can enjoy her friendship without drama distractions.
Oh yes, about that boss of his...tsk tsk tsk! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 9:16:53 PM |
Well, the funny thing about all this is - I'm not even interested in her that way. I was a few years ago. But not anymore. And I still cause drama.
From the original post, it sure did not sound like you were the one that caused the drama. It sounded more like she is the one that initiated and fed into it #1 by tellling you details of who that was and #2 by answering the phone when she knew it was going to be her ex-husband as she already stated.
hmmphhh. reminds me of why I love my life and being drama free!!! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 9:27:23 PM | That's not drama! Drama would be the ex showing up in person and trying to punch your lights out while your friend screamed and cried and then the cops showing up to sort things out!
All you did was witness your friend dealing with an ex who is a heel.
You sound like the one making a mountain out of a molehill. FYI: it's common to witness bad behaviour when friends are going through a divorce.
You sound a little conceited when you talk about it all being about you and your presence. The ex probably would've reacted if he'd heard she was out with a "Barney Rubble" type too!
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Posted: 4/7/2008 9:43:26 PM |
You sound a little conceited when you talk about it all being about you and your presence. The ex probably would've reacted if he'd heard she was out with a "Barney Rubble" type too!
I realize that... but I was in the Barney Rubble's place. The last thing I want is to create problems for a friend because somebody saw us together somewhere. I know it wasn't me personally but ultimately I was the one who was seen with her and made the guy flip out. We were kinda laughing about it when it happened but we didn't think the guy was gonna go as far as bugging her enough to make her change her number. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 9:48:59 PM | [qoute]
From the original post, it sure did not sound like you were the one that caused the drama. It sounded more like she is the one that initiated and fed into it #1 by tellling you details of who that was and #2 by answering the phone when she knew it was going to be her ex-husband as she already stated.
Now that you mention it... it does makes sense. However, according to her, they hadn't spoken since the divorce. She even showed me her phone and his number showed up as as a number that wasn't in her address book, so I can see how she didn't know who was calling her. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 10:17:08 PM |
Well, the funny thing about all this is - I'm not even interested in her that way. I was a few years ago. But not anymore. And I still cause drama.
Well, it's good that you see something funny in all this...
You don't need to be interested in her in any way, other then friendship; it was obviously your presence that made him jealous enough to call. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you; you aren't her lunatic ex that appears to be stalking her.
You don't cause drama...life is drama...
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Posted: 4/8/2008 4:55:44 AM |
She calls him back asking what the hell he wants. He says he wants to meet her in 20 minutes by the ballpark
Her first mistake was in calling him back. It only reinforces his behavior.
Did she meet him like he demanded? If she did, again wrong. She is just as much into the drama as he is if she did.
I personally would tell him to fudge off, and never answer another phone call, and act as if he didn't even live on the same planet.
Of course, if they have children, there has to be some communication, but even that can be handled through a third party. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 5:36:58 AM | he never thought she could actually go out with someone, have a good time and have that person be a good looking guy, someone who likes her.
So, since he never thought she could get on with her life and she has proven she can, he doesn't want her to so he is trying to stop her.
Been there, done that.
The difference with me? I didn't let that man manipulate me. He didn't want me, he's not going to get me back. His loss. Someone elses gain.
She will, in time, realize her screw up. Her loss. Your gain. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 11:23:58 AM | Sounds to me like SHE was the one causing the drama, not you. Why did she feel the need to announce it was her ex calling every time? Why did she have to add that her ex's boss was "probably on the phone" with her ex? And that bit about how she didn't recognize her ex on the phone at first??!! BULLS***!
Personally, I think she was being very, very rude. Even if I'm out with a guy who's just a friend, I have enough respect to put my phone on silent or shut it off. And I certainly don't give out those kind of details to anyone, because it isn't anyone's business but mine.
It sounds to me like she's the kind of person who actually likes a little drama in her life, and you were just a little pawn in her performance. If I were you I'd distance myself from this person a little bit. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 1:02:44 PM |
I realize that... but I was in the Barney Rubble's place. The last thing I want is to create problems for a friend because somebody saw us together somewhere. I know it wasn't me personally but ultimately I was the one who was seen with her and made the guy flip out. We were kinda laughing about it when it happened but we didn't think the guy was gonna go as far as bugging her enough to make her change her number.
Kind of full of yourself, aren't you? lol...... It wasn't YOU! It was HIM.... This isn't about you at all....
and you seem to be the only one making a drama scene about it, STILL.
It's about the ex not being able to deal with her being out with ANYONE. Could have been a tree stump.... no offense.....
However, according to her, they hadn't spoken since the divorce. She even showed me her phone and his number showed up as as a number that wasn't in her address book, so I can see how she didn't know who was calling her.
Doesn't matter. Once again, this isn't about you.....
The ex's boss is a boob for passing information about your friend to the ex.
The ex is an ass for not letting go.
This thread is a waste of time because the only drama is happening here.
Seems to me since she changed her phone number the event is over...... | |
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