| | Dating at 34..Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | I'm 34 years of age and I've never had kids. I'm trying to stay away from situations that are going to be high stress, but I tend to have to date a lot of single moms. I'm thinking its because of my age, although I have dated some 23-24 year olds and hit it off. I never really pursued it because thats too immature for me mentally. At the moment I started going on a couple of dates with a very attractive 42 year old nurse. I've never dated such a wide array in ages before, but at 34 it seems like now older and younger women are game relating to the dating scene. Anybody else find this age we're in a little confusing (30's that is) ? | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 1:59:31 PM | I usually am interested withing 10 year range.... I tend to hit it off with younger guys... some of the older ones have a lot of baggage, set in their ways and a bit bitter.
I've dated men with kids and men without kids.... I adore kids but, I don't adore crazy ex's! | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 2:03:18 PM | | Me neither, the crazy ex part that is. I recall dating someone I was really into and is was a huge turn off that she had a guy stalking her practically. We only winded up going on one or two dates. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 2:04:30 PM | OP, I can't figure you men out at any age!!! 
But I think that folks in their 20's tend to think they have more "time" to meet someone because they are soo young.
The 30's mindset is alot of "I better get going on this............BUT, I'm still kinda young to maybe be in a serious relationship"
By the 40's, well I'm like 7 years from that, but I would be a bit nervous that time is running out to meet a genine man to raise a family with..
Your a cutie, don't stress, just have fun, and be honest with these ladies you date.
Give that older nurse a chance, don't let her few added years become a factor unless there are some major differences in what you both may want..
JJ
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Posted: 4/8/2008 2:51:08 PM | Thanks, I'll follow your advice. I'm not too stressed, but the years definitely go by. Not entirely sure anymore if I want kids going on 35 years of age, but thats a different topic. Good luck to you too hun.
JJ ( my initials also) | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 3:23:49 PM | | Personally, I think it really depends on the person! I am 34 and yet the three men I have met on here have been horrible! They were no where near what they claimed to be and one was near my age and the other 2 were older. I have realized that most are on here to play games and I guess what can you expect from a free dating site? I think dating anymore period is confusing no matter what the age. If people were more real about what they really wanted... it would eliminate quite a bit of conflict. One of those " Say what you mean and mean what you say" sort of things. Just because someone is a single mom doesnt instantly constitute " high stress" .... If the children part is what is stressful to you as a person, then maybe you shouldnt date single mothers. Understand what I am saying? LOL Good luck on this site... From reading all these posts.... I think people are going to need quite a bit of it LOL | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 3:28:11 PM | Yeah...It baffles me that some men actually lie about themselves. I believe some women do the same, but I thing the women I've met have been pretty honest with me. Maybe women are trying to protect their emotional side more, I don't know. I'm sure a lot of women lie like rugs too on here. You are not talking to the right guys probably. I have a built in radar and if I feel like someone is mentally off balance I run.
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Posted: 4/9/2008 1:42:01 AM | | When I was in my twenties I tended to date older men, late twenties early thirties. Now that I'm in my thirties, I find myself dating men the same age or a bit younger. I'm not really sure why? I guess the older men used to seem more appealing because I had a lot of growing up to do. Now that I'm all "grown up" I guess I'm not looking for a role model anymore? Does this make any sense? | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 9:26:09 AM | | 23 year olds are more immature but they are a heck of a lot more fun. Very spontaneous and random and totally keep you on your feet. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 10:26:44 AM | I can't agree with you more!!!!!!!! How do you wade through the crap (lies) and find what and who is real. oh well.
As for the question, I think you just need to be true to yourself and honest with those whom you date. There are still plenty of woment out there who will appreciate that. I have found that I really started to figure out what I wanted and did not want as I entered my thirties. My friends say that too. Good luck OP, you sound like a really nice guy. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 10:28:15 AM | | should have said could not agree more with Cowgirl. sorry | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 7:19:21 PM | Yah, Nicki he IS a really nice guy  | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 8:48:00 PM | | I think it's great having a larger range to choose from. As for certain ages I think that is a judgement call only each individual can make. It is far more complex than a number but is dependant on so many variables. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 8:38:37 AM | I put on my email restrictions ages requirements 1-1000 then I just weed it out from there. I have met some (via email) dirty old men and some really young jerks but no Mr. Right | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 8:59:57 AM | The more mature you get, the more gray the dating range will become....... 
If you relate to another, why would age really be a factor unless one is planning on having a family and the other does not, or one is retiring soon, and the other just starting their career.....
Should it not be more of how you two fit together mentally and physically? Should it not be more the attraction that grows into great chemistry? Should you base your emotions and time spent together on just a date on a persons driver's license?
When I am out in groups enjoying some great activity, I know the ones I prefer to be with and do things around, and it has much more to do with maturity, financial stability, creative banter, and the ability to garner my attention in such a way, that I have little choice but to know them better.
Given that age many times will foster more experience and maturity, most of us will naturally gravitate towards those closer to our same experiences, but that range can vary greatly depending upon all the factors the make up the both of you......
Just my opinion.........   | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 9:39:21 AM | | With the advantage of a little more hindsight than you, I'd say mid-30's is almost the ideal age range to be dating. You can date almost any range you'd like. You're more mature and responsible than you were in your 20's and probably more attractive and in-shape than you'll be in your 40's. I say there's maybe no better time to be looking than at exactly the age you're at right now. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 1:46:49 AM | | 34 isn't all that old for dating these days, just a sign of the times . | |
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Posted: 4/13/2008 12:42:44 PM | | be honest with yourself and to those you date.if it's there you well know.if not be honest to the other person and move on.no need or time for games...unless it's a game you both enjoy together | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 10:20:37 AM | | I always had a 10 year range,younger and older. Something I found odd though was as I got older the women messaging me got younger. When I was 34 most of the women were around 30. I turned 35 and the women were 25 to 30,and a year later I had gals 22 and up interested in dating. At 36 I finally settled down with a woman who was 23. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:31:14 PM | Couldnt tell ya hun, I just wanted to say *Cool Username* I'm going to see Charlie Daniels Band with 38 Special next week.  | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 11:43:24 AM |
some of the older ones have a lot of baggage, set in their ways and a bit bitter.
This applies to some women too. I understand having a past, but when it gets to the point where they are waiting for me to be like their past relationships, then it causes unnecessary strain | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 12:59:22 PM |
When I was in my twenties I tended to date older men, late twenties early thirties. Now that I'm in my thirties, I find myself dating men the same age or a bit younger. I'm not really sure why? I guess the older men used to seem more appealing because I had a lot of growing up to do. Now that I'm all "grown up" I guess I'm not looking for a role model anymore? Does this make any sense?
It does to me because I used to do the same thing. In hindsight, I recall that the majority of these guys were not necessarily "grown ups", they just wanted arm candy or someone who wasn't challenging. I am finding men who are a bit younger to be more fun, open minded, good conversationalists, and not bitter or jaded as many (not all!) older men. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 1:31:53 PM |
I am finding men who are a bit younger to be more fun, open minded, good conversationalists, and not bitter or jaded as many (not all!) older men.
Are you sure it is an age thing or if they have been previously married before? I think its marriage or the divorce rather that makes them jaded and bitter. Some hold lifetime grudges and some learn from their mistakes and become a better person.
Both sexes I am not male bashing. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 2:03:06 PM | I a m35 years old, and have dates in all three ranges (younger, same, and older). I married a woman that was 15 years older than me. Personally, I found that once she got even older, she turned from a wife to a "mommy" to me.
I am not insulting older women, I am just expressing my experience. I am just getting back into the dating scene and am finding that things seem to be a lot different than they were (even 10 years ago) I have noticed that now I am looking for about 5 years over / under mine. (give or take... there are always exceptions)
I suppose, as stated many times, it is a personal preference. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 2:29:30 PM |
MSG#1~OP~Devilwentdown,wrote:older and younger women are game relating to the dating scene. Anybody else find this age we're in a little confusing (30's that is) ? I really couldn't answer this question. From the age between 29 and 40 I was joined at the hip with someone. But seems to me when women are in their 40's, they suddenly seem to start understanding what it is their looking for. That doesn't mean me or any other man they happen to meet is going to be what they are looking for. I don't think most people really know what they want till they are out of their 30's.Some people wait too late till they are too old to attract someone they want.Some people want so much that it's not possible to find. They don't really know what they wanted till they lose someone and can't have them back.
Just my $0.02 worth,no pun ment to anyone. | |
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