ddist
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Joined: 3/31/2008
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 4:16:54 PM | | Honestly, I'm just wondering, let's say you meet the right girl and she wants to wait until marriage to have sex, will you be willing to wait? ............................. I appreciate honesty. And if you are willing, does that mean you'll propose sooner than you would have ever thought just because of that reason? | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 4:31:45 PM | | interesting question. I find that if people were able to wait till marriage that would keep things less complicated between the two that are together, and that the connection of why you two are together is because of the actual feelings and respect for each other. its not like there isnt lots of things that can be done rather then sex anyways. but i find that there is a large connection between sex and feelings, and that the longer 2 people like each other and feelings grow that the urge to want to express those feelings physically. which could lead to frustration for that person. which might in a way make them me willing to want to get married. as for me. I think marriage is something that should not be taken lightly and should be done in the long term. and to be able to wait until then, having very strong feelings and love for that person... even with the amount of patience i have would still lead to frustration of which even though i would want to respect her view, would still want to communicate the frustration to my partner. and maybe try to come to some kind of comprimise. | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 4:54:14 PM | | I agree with a previous poster that the longer you wait to have sex you can actually build a relationship on feelings and mutual respect not just hormones clouding your judgement. Although I think at some point you need to find out that the two of you are compatible physically as well. Sex isn't everything but it is a big part of a long term relationship...I mean you don't buy a car without test driving it...I wouldn't marry someone with out giving them a "test drive"! | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:04:00 PM | Maybe if I were 19 or 20, I might consider that if we both were virgins and wanting to head in that direction........but considering that is not reality for most of us, I would not wait until marriage, but then again, I do not even consider marriage viable at this time..... 
OT.......If you meet the right person, neither wants to wait, and struggle to keep our hands off each other, and why would you want to wait if you have discussed all the options, been tested and know each other is healthy, and wanting to be in a single relationship with each other..... 
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ddist
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Joined: 3/31/2008
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:06:59 PM | I am amazed at your answer..
How can you compare human beings to a car, clothes,... a stupid phrase that was invented by someone unintelligent, and some people repeat it, lol
Don't you have an original answer? something that comes from you? | |
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ddist
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Joined: 3/31/2008
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:18:14 PM | | Not at all love. Did you think i am the 44 year old virgin ? NOT. I am waiting for the right lady who is worthy of the Karrpilot's charms. And one who is rich and likes pilots. But that is another thread. | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:22:40 PM | Marriage is an institution, an unnatural one invented by man. I believe in waiting until we both want to engage in a natural, not institutionalized act.
With all due respect monogamy is unnatural itself OP; abstinence for the sake of convention and faith in arguable mythology is simply something I can't imagine anyone havng a natural alacirty for but of course there are communities with like minds for you. Since civilization has never been able to rewire nature I wish you the best of luck in your search for a guy off the grid. | |
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ddist
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Joined: 3/31/2008
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:26:25 PM | honestly no I would not. Sex is an important part of a relationship to me.. Its just as important as comversation and mutual interests. If I am not sexually compatible with a mate it will not work no matter how much I love her and know about her. Conversation and activities can only carry you so far. Sex is the glue that holds the other aspects of a relationship together so I would rather know if me and a person click on the bedroom before I am tied to them for life than have years of horrible of unfulfilling sex because I wanted to know her on a deeper level before I got deep inside her.
If I was a virgin as well as she was it would be different because we would have nothing to compare it to but I have had awesome sex and I can't go back. Instead of finding a deep connection with someone that might or might not be my match ok the bedroom... I would rather know for sure what I am getting myself into.
And OP why are you getting upset over the analogy? It fits... No one would sign the contract to a car without driving it first. It may sound good ok paper and look stunning but might not be the car for you... Same goes for a mate... On paper they may be perfect but once you "rest drive her" you see that she isn't right for you at all... Whether it be she is turned on by weird things or had no sex drive whole yours is overactive. I know people say well if your parnter loves you then they will compromise... Wouldnt it be better to just find someone who fits you perfectly instead of someone you have to modify or someone you have to modify yourself for ?
Ponder that... | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:29:36 PM | Well either OP has a typo on her profile or at one time did not believe in waiting until marriage to have sex...given she lists herself as single (not divorced or widowed) and has children. Unless we are going to debate immaculate conception.
Just an interesting observation. | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:35:02 PM |
And if you are willing, does that mean you'll propose sooner than you would have ever thought just because of that reason?
Is this something that you hope to achieve? Speed up things a little...
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:38:31 PM | first of all it all depends on how many miles the car has and if its been driven hard and as for the clothes well i only buy brand new clothes in my size so i know that no one else has had them on and my shoes have to be at least an 8 anything smaller just will not work. | |
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ddist
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Joined: 3/31/2008
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:40:42 PM | My first thought in reading all these "wait till marriage" threads is Yeah I guess you could say I waited ... it took marriage and divorce for me to truly get Fu.....well you all get the idea .....
hey red I think I need to be sent back to the dungeon today ..
Bad bad me ...
On topic.. I guess if the shoe was on the other foot and a guy wanted to wait and I was willing to go down that path again -- I probably would wait for the right man if I truly felt that deeply there is nothing I would not do for him.. But it would not be a rule I would impose | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 5:44:23 PM |
Unless we are going to debate immaculate conception.
Sorry but as a geek who knows random facts I just couldn't resist. It is biologically possible to have an immaculate conception. The phenomenon is called Parthenogenesis. While its never been observed as a natural occurrence in mammals, it has been performed on mice in a laboratory environment. | |
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| is anyone here willing to wait until marriage?
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:06:59 PM | | I've bought a car, clothes and shoes without testing them out first...it's called a compulsive buy. So if we wanted to compare, all were good to excellent purchases, so due to past experiances with buying before trying, no sex before marriage doesn't sound like that bad of an idea. On the other hand, I doubt it would happen, so I dunno truthfully how I'd respond. | |
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