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Posted: 4/8/2008 10:38:29 PM | Do the men here find that there are women here who are blatantly aggressive behind the scenes?
What thoughts occur when reading a PM from an aggressive female? How do you see them?
I'm not speaking about asserting independence, but being truly sexually aggressive. How does it make you feel?
Just looking for view points from the men in the forum. However, women feel free to join in, but please, everyone, don't turn it into a bashing thread. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 10:50:29 PM | Depends on the situation. No means no. I never imagined myself being in that position, but yeah... it was awkward. There are times and places.
PMs here? Were I not attached to someone and there had been some kind of meaningful exchange over a period of time, sure. Off the bat, I would just assume it was a guy pretending and would feel safe putting money on that. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 11:23:16 PM | what crazytimes said. This is the internet...all girls are potential guys, and all people underage of either sex are potential FBI agents.
Early sparked aggressiveness by a supposed woman surely is flag of either of fat guy in a basement or OMFG AIDSSSSSSS | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 11:53:04 PM | Uhhhmmm... Can you post an example?
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Posted: 4/9/2008 6:38:30 AM | > Do the men here find that there are women here who are blatantly aggressive behind the scenes?
No.
Not even in front of the scenes either.
> What thoughts occur when reading a PM from an aggressive female? How do you see them?
"...female sexuality is distinguished more by its flexibility than anything else. . .a woman will express her sexuality only when it suits her purposes."
- Meredith F. Small
I'd be wondering what her purposes are. I don't see women being into sex for pleasure, so I'd definitely want to know what she was up to. In two words: suspicion aroused. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 6:49:53 AM | "I dont see women being into sex for pleasure " Say what????????????
Do you think shes into sex for pain??????????? | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 7:02:27 AM | | I haven't encountered a woman here who has been sexually aggressive, at least towards me. I am inclined to say unsolicited sexual aggression, words or acts towards me would make me feel uncomfortable. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 7:11:03 AM |
"I dont see women being into sex for pleasure " Say what????????????
Yeah, I'd like to know what that meant also.
What else would a woman enjoy sex for? There's not much else to sex BUT pleasure...at least if we want any part of it, that is. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 7:44:00 AM | There are, no doubt, aggressive males AND females here that's for sure.
But I guess some of it is down to the general anonymity of the Internet. Here, people can get away with things, up to a point. More so than they could say face to face.
I also think that some women are trying to "match" men here using our own tactics. One obvious tactic being aggression.
But I suppose this phenomenon is more wide spread than that. Here in the UK for example, we have coined the phrase "Ladette". This literally means a lady acting like a bit of a lad. So that means consuming huge amounts of alcohol, getting into brawls and trying to sleep with as many people as is feasibly possible. All things usually associated with men.
So some women perhaps ARE trying to play us at our own game, but to be honest, it's a game in which I don't see any winners whatsoever. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 10:06:05 AM | Sexual aggression from a woman is ok. I'm confident I can handle them , most of them at least....  | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 10:11:23 AM | Do the men here find that there are women here who are blatantly aggressive behind the scenes?
Haven't run into one on this site yet. In real life, I've never run into one that I was interested in.
What thoughts occur when reading a PM from an aggressive female?
I'll let you know when I run into one that I'm interested in.
How do you see them?
as a work of fiction.
I'm not speaking about asserting independence, but being truly sexually aggressive. How does it make you feel?
I don't know because it's never happened to me with someone I was interested in. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 1:06:20 PM | Do the men here find that there are women here who are blatantly aggressive behind the scenes?
Very much so.
What thoughts occur when reading a PM from an aggressive female? How do you see them?
I see them the same as I would anyone being aggressive. How would you like someone getting in your face, IRL? Don't you just want them to get the f*ck away?
I'm not speaking about asserting independence, but being truly sexually aggressive. How does it make you feel?
I start wondering why she can't be sexually assertive, why she cannot just say what she wants, and has to try and deny me a sense of choice in the matter. It makes me consider if she is aggressive in every way. If she is aggressive outside the bedroom, I can't introduce her to my friends, because they will hate her, I can't have kids with her, because aggression is the best way to f*ck up a child, and if she ever gets seriously aggressive with me, I'll walk out, and I will never come back, no matter what.
It's really something that puts up so many problems for me, that it's not really worth thinking about her for another second for long-term, although she might be good for a roll in the hay.
The last time a woman was sexually aggressive with me, I turned her down, she wouldn't take no for an answer, she got violent, and had to be escorted out. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 1:12:52 PM | I've never gotte any PMs from sexually aggressive females, and the only sexually aggressive females i've met IRL were either extremely drunk, or extremely psycho.
Suffice it to say, 99% of women are somewhat coy with their sexuality. when a woman acts completely opposite, its a red flag "Warning: NORMAL WOMEN DO NOT ACT THIS WAY, PROCEED WITH CAUTION"
Generally i'm not one to take advantage of intoxicated women, but it's hard to resist, I must admit. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 1:40:55 PM | If she's homely, my first thought would be, wow, she's got balls.
That's hysterical!
Haven't run into one on this site yet. In real life, I've never run into one that I was interested in.
I'll let you know when I run into one that I'm interested in.
I don't know because it's never happened to me with someone I was interested in.
How about this....even though you're not interested, how do you feel? Like murdering her, like running for the cops, like walking away, or flattered EVEN THO (yes, we know, you made that clear) you're not interested?
I agreee that a lot of women aren't used to making moves so some of em come out like a bull in a china shop, but if a woman was assertive and made her interest known, would you scar her for life over it, or would you politely show flattery and tell her it's not mutual, so that when she did meet one that was interested in her, she wouldn't be so jaded she missed the opp? | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 2:29:05 PM |
How about this....even though you're not interested, how do you feel? Like murdering her, like running for the cops, like walking away, or flattered EVEN THO (yes, we know, you made that clear) you're not interested?
Well, how would you react to a guy who made unwanted sexual advances towards you that were aggressive to the degree that was expressed in the original post?
I agreee that a lot of women aren't used to making moves so some of em come out like a bull in a china shop, but if a woman was assertive and made her interest known, would you scar her for life over it, or would you politely show flattery and tell her it's not mutual, so that when she did meet one that was interested in her, she wouldn't be so jaded she missed the opp?
You used the word "assertive," which, based on the original post, is not what this thread is about. If she was assertive, then I would politely show flattery and tell her it's not mutual. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 2:36:41 PM |
Well, how would you react to a guy who made unwanted sexual advances towards you that were aggressive to the degree that was expressed in the original post?
I'd be turned off either way - even if initially attracted it'd be a 180, but everyone's different. I'm sure I experience it more often than men do also, where as it's not the norm for most men to experience. I wouldn't assume that you'd react the way I would...that's why I asked. Some men here have said they'd be ok with it.
You used the word "assertive," which, based on the original post, is not what this thread is about. If she was assertive, then I would politely show flattery and tell her it's not mutual.
Yeah, I was saying some are over the top aggressive, but was more interested in what you'd do if it was direct but not offensive. Fair enough. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 4:32:00 PM | | Don't know haven't seen one of those yet. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 4:49:34 PM | | It is great. Wonderful change! | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 6:46:33 PM | I'd be turned off either way - even if initially attracted it'd be a 180, but everyone's different. I'm sure I experience it more often than men do also, where as it's not the norm for most men to experience. I wouldn't assume that you'd react the way I would...that's why I asked. Some men here have said they'd be ok with it.
I would react similarly to how you'd react; maybe harsher. It wouldn't be pretty; I would humiliate her. What, just because I'm a guy and she's a girl, I'm supposed to be desperate and grateful that this ugly duckling would make obviously unwanted aggressive sexual advances towards me? Fuçk no. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:02:16 PM |
I agreee that a lot of women aren't used to making moves so some of em come out like a bull in a china shop, but if a woman was assertive and made her interest known, would you scar her for life over it, or would you politely show flattery and tell her it's not mutual, so that when she did meet one that was interested in her, she wouldn't be so jaded she missed the opp? Being assertive is very different to being aggressive. An aggressive approach would be like "Get your coat. You've pulled." I imagine that an assertive approach would be more like "I'd like you to call me sometime. Here's my number." or "I've had a great time with you. Would you like to come back to mine for some coffee?" 
I believe that aggression is more of a demand, that forces you into the position of rejecting someone's advance, flat out, while as assertion is more of an open-ended question, or a statement, that while indicating interest, allows you to answer yes or no, without any definite commitments to what comes next.
Kind of like the difference between a date who pushes you for sex, and a date who gives you the idea that he wouldn't mind if it happened, but if you're not up for it, he won't try and maul you. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:10:47 PM |
I would react similarly to how you'd react; maybe harsher. It wouldn't be pretty; I would humiliate her. What, just because I'm a guy and she's a girl, I'm supposed to be desperate and grateful that this ugly duckling would make obviously unwanted aggressive sexual advances towards me? Fuçk no.
Well, no - it was just a question (I assume) to see if men reacted differently. Chillax, dude. Based on the answers in this thread, it seems a lot of men have no empirical data on this topic, so that's why the curiousity. lol | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:17:07 PM | a few have been mildly assertive
none have been blatantly aggressive
I prefer subtlety
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:25:06 PM |
it seems a lot of men have no empirical data on this topic
LOL!
The few advances I've recieved here have been politely assertive and much appreciated. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:31:31 PM |
How does it make you feel
Horny.  | |
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