| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 1:14:20 AM | I've had a few partners my history that were so compatible (sexually) with me that we never developed the other aspects of the relationship. We never really talked to each other. EVER! Each time, the relationship eventually died.
Have you ever had such great sex with someone that it became a problem? | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 1:26:24 AM | ~NO~
But Dang Girl....Where Are You Meeting These Men?!? Hook Me Up :P
I can't say that has ever happened to me.
It just goes to show, that there is so much more to a relationship than just having sex. | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:12:57 AM | ""It just goes to show, that there is so much more to a relationship than just having sex.""
Like she said.
Or vice versa. | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 3:05:57 AM | | thats why sex should not be important or stuff like this happen | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 3:49:41 AM | | Nope. For there to be great sex there has to be a great relationship. This is for me personally. I don't believe this is a necessity for everyone. I have to really love the man and be happy in the relationship for the sex to be really great. The more I care about him, the more of myself I'm willing to give, emotionally and physically, and the more exciting and free is the sex. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 6:43:29 AM | | I know exactly what you are saying OP! I left a man because I knew I was loosing myself in the experience and not developing the relationship past the encounters! It ended up that the only reason we were seeing each other was to have sex!! I mean sex for 4 or 5 hours - incredible lover - knew all the right moves - but sadly that's all the relationship was about! I thought he was a perfect man for me - handsome - intelligent - articulate and again wicked lover - but the connection was all about sex. Those other great things went to the wayside! The package was there - I was only getting a portion of the package! Although good - not complete! | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:44:29 AM | | I look forward to being able to suffer this “problem”. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 7:25:50 AM | Never had a problem with other aspects of a relationship even with great sex. I cant see two people being together if the sex isnt good. I'd say the only consequence of having really great sex with someone is that it makes the relationship last longer then it should in some cases....... My ex and I technically broke up after 2 and a half years, but it ended up lasting 4+.....lol | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 8:04:30 AM | OP I completely understand what you are saying. Why is it so hard to find the complete package...great sex with everything else......
I have a question, for those who have had the great sex thing.....has the amazing mind blowing sexual relationship set the bar so high, that it's ruined it for future men? | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 8:04:49 AM | | ive had this happen to me,but i never used the word problem when describing the relationships.i think i did use the word ideal though. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 8:08:24 AM | Uh no. lol Not a "problem" unless you want more, but mind-blowing sex is good too.
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 10:46:53 AM | Hmmm, brooklyn is def in the house!!! When can I see some of this "mind blowing sex" lol  | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 11:01:24 AM | There is nothing wrong with great sex! It would be nice to have the whole package! Life is to short, so enjoy life as it is, one day at a time!  | |
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N*Love
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Joined: 2/22/2008
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 11:12:59 AM | yes once...
although it was great ... there was no building blocks ...
and I had experience in which one man had "all the blocks" except "sexuallity" and that one went sour as well...
I started resenting both men... in this case... for not being that "perfect match" for me.
I wasn't happy I left.
And the cycle continues. | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/10/2008 1:29:18 PM | When I was younger, having just good sex seemed to be enough to satisfy the time and situation, but was never enough for long term.
Now that I am older and experienced, I want it all........good sex, great partner, bright and someone that I enjoy waking up to as much as going to bed with....... 
Good sex and a good partner is wonderful.......what is not is when you have someone that you care for and is a good person, but not very good with sex, and leaves you wanting for more and to fill in that gap.......
So.....it comes down to this many times.......do you want good sex but little substance......or great substance but little sex........OMG.......I need both......
Just my opinion........   | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 4:13:20 PM | Well, yeah.
Some relationships I've had were built on sex, and we had great sex for 8 months. Its still going though, but Im not surprised if it ends soon though. There isnt much conversation, just great passion and chemistry. I say its a fair tradeoff, as other guys I've had that were great conversationalists were not that great bedwise. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 5:07:16 PM | | I never considered having over-the-top, fabulous, all-night-long, passionate, hot sex a problem!! | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 5:18:03 PM | | Well, I have only had a few lovers that the sex was so right and compatible but, the problem in the long wrong seemed to be a lack of other forms of communication. it is sad because I want everything with the next woman that I commit to, ya know? | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 2:13:19 AM | | In my case I believe most Americans are way too hung up about these issues. I believe sex is a daily bread, not a treat, and that it is the glue that keeps a relationship healthy and strong. My advice: if you find the one element, work on the other key issues like companionship and respect. And if silence is comfortable between you and yor partner, so much the better. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 3:24:18 AM | The sex wasn't the problem. It's that you didn't get to know each other well enough BEFORE the sex.
Of course, since you never bothered to develop that aspect of the relationship... you probably weren't compatible anyhow. That's usually how it works. | |
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| Good sex a problem?
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:36:37 AM | great sex cannot be a problem. chances r u had nothing else in common w them. because if u did, something like that NATURALLY flows, u dont have to feed it or structure it or worry about it - it just naturally WORKS.
just because sex was great, didnt mean was mentally compatible, love, sorry to burst ur bubble. i know u wanna believe that, but chances r it didnt work out because it just didnt work well enough to survive | |
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