| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/12/2008 7:52:40 PM | Have you or Would you go on a date if it was your birthday?
Have you ever taken someone else out on their birthday?
If someone were to take you out for your birthday, Where would you go? What would you do? Would you expect any special treatment?
Or perhaps is it just another day? | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:00:49 PM | I had a second date on my birthday. I tried to make it another day, but he insisted he wanted to celebrate it with me. Since it seemed like we had alot of chemistry, I went. It was actually quite memorable.
And no, I wasn't expecting special treatment, but he was very sweet... | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:11:26 AM | I would love to go out on my birthday. If it was a first date with a new guy it would be sweet and fun without any heavy "meaning" to it being my birthday. Meet for drinks, share an appetizer or two, laugh, talk and a great goodbye kiss would simply make my day.
.....and it's coming up real soon, maybe I'd better get busy finding a date. lol | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:35:19 AM | | If my birthday was on a day where it was easy to get together with anyone, I would try it. However, my birthday is December 25, so that's day is out for a heck of a lot of people. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:35:27 AM | Eh. That's a no for me. I'm a big birthday person. I throw parties for my friends on my day and celebrate another year with people who know and love me. I don't want to spend what I regard as my day in what could turn out to be an awkward time. I'd rather be comfortable around people who are equally comfortable with me. 
And if he asked me out and said, oh by the way, it's my birthday, I would give him the option of another day and, if he still preferred to go out, then I would do something special for him. Special and appropriate for the level of our acquaintance, etc., because after all, it's his birthday!!  | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:46:03 AM | Birthdays are just another day unless you are a child. I call my Mom on my birthday and Thank her for giving birth to me. I find it silly when grown adults makes a big deal over birthdays unless its a big one like...21...50. Then the family and friends can do something special but a regular 43....just another day. When I was married my husband got a BJ on his birthday | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:57:59 AM | ^^^^^ Yeah, celebrating the day you were born is sophomoric but holding your man's d!ck while he pees isn't. Right. Got it. Thanks ever so much.  | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:16:21 AM | Let's find out -- my b-day is tomorrow (April 14). 
I'm having lunch with my family and dinner with the POF gang (neither one was my idea....LOL).
I'd rather be with friends and family than on a date. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:31:37 AM | I'm a leap year baby..................so being I only have one every 4 years its spent with those I care about. Would not go on a first date on that special day....................
'
God I hope I am here for a couple more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:26:49 AM | | I probably wouldnt go out on a date with someone on my birthday unless I had known them a long time. I usually spend my b-day with friends and family members alike. If I were to go out with a date on my b-day I surely wouldnt expect a gift but rather a day for a new beginning with them, that above all is a much better gift than one that could come gift wrapped. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:28:11 AM | Yes, I would
Yes, I have
It depends on if it's someone new in my life or if we've been dating.
Otherwise, yep... it's just another day.... | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 12:24:35 PM | I didn't date anyone ON their birthday, but a few days before it. It might as well have been, though.
We met on here, but I won't mention her handle.
Her birthday was Monday or Tuesday. We met up the previous Friday at her request because she told me that saturday and sunday was completely booked to prepare for her birthday party for the following weekend.
She was nice--not exactly the date from Hell, but I wasn't feeling her: She talked mostly the entire time (we went out to dinner; great place to talk). Also, when she addressed something I said, she was completely off: I asked her what she was up to the rest of the night and told me her plans for saturday and sunday. Or, when I said there's to cheating than just the physical--I'll expand on this later if need be--she told me "Yeah, I know what you mean. I caught my last b/f in bed." Both of these items are important, but neither answered my questions.
Anyway, she wanted to see me again, but I didn't. She asked me before we went our separate ways if I was going to call her later. I told her that I would.
I was in a difficult spot because I didn't want to prolong the agony, so to speak. At the same time I didn't want to rain on her birthday parade either. I waited until the Wednsday following our date before I told her that there wouldn't be a second.
The point is, I would try to avoid dating someone on or right before her birthday. It's tough enough to try and let someone down easy. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:49:07 PM |
.... When I was married my husband got a BJ on his birthday
Who from? | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:59:19 PM | I had a first date on my birthday. We had met previously for lunch and had spent a great deal of time on the phone and e-mailing. I was still a little nervous because I thought a bad date would probably seem worse on one's birthday.
There were a couple of times I think when we both felt like teenagers because we liked each other and wanted things to go well, but it was a pretty good date, even after the police showed up to investigate the middle-aged couple talking in a vehicle in the grade school parking lot. Yup, we looked like master criminals.
Prior to that we had a nice dinner and saw a movie we both enjoyed. I think whether one thinks of that as a special day or date depends on how one perceives birthdays in general. I think when I was a kid I had the notion that people HAD to be nice to me on my birthday and I have never totally grown out of that. The date was probably more special as a result. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:31:53 PM |
Have you or Would you go on a date if it was your birthday?
Sure, why not?
Have you ever taken someone else out on their birthday?
No
If someone were to take you out for your birthday, Where would you go? What would you do? Would you expect any special treatment?
Or perhaps is it just another day?
It is just another day to me...I do something special for myself on my birthday (or close to it), so I don't need anyone else to. Dinner or whatever we would have planned had it not been my birthday is fine with me. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:49:10 PM | | I like to make people happy, even if we're not dating. Once, after volleyball, this guy mentioned it was his birthday. So I bought his milkshake for him, and he was SO HAPPY. I think it's easier to make people happy when they expect nothing from you, though (the stakes go up when you are dating and you try to make it "the best day ever"). | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:58:51 AM | I have standing plans for my birthday every year so unless it's someone I'm fairly comfortable with I don't think it would be fair to drag him to a big party where he didn't know anyone. I'd totally be open to going out with someone a day or so before my birthday. It wouldn't effect my actual birthday at all if the date didn't work out.
I find it interesting that some people look down on adults that celebrate their birthdays with family and friends. Where does that attitude come from? | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 8:25:35 AM | | ^^^^Sometimes when people are critical about something, it is because they wished their circle of friends and family were either the type to do it at all or cared enough about them to throw a party at least for the 5s and 0s. It is a lovely way to make sure that you see your loved ones at occasions other than weddings and funerals, lol. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 8:33:00 AM | I agree that celebrating regular birthdays as an adult seems a bit childish, especially when each one is over top. That said, I also believe we should celebrate our love for your friends and family whenever possible and a birthday is as good an excuse as any to show people you care about them.
on topic...
Why would the date have to know it was your birthday? | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 8:35:35 AM | I agree that celebrating regular birthdays as an adult seems a bit childish, especially when each it's over the top. That said, I also believe we should celebrate our love for your friends and family, and your own life, whenever possible, and a birthday is as good an excuse as any to show people you care about them.
on topic...
Why would the date have to know it was your birthday? Do you exchange driver's licenses or something? | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:40:46 PM | I'm surprised at the people who think their birthday is just another day. I always figured my entrance into the world was IMPORTANT...and like to celebrate.
Since I tell random people on the street that it will soon be my birthday, and since at pof it is public info..I would think anyone who asked me out on that day would know, and would at the least give me a birthday toast.. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 7:52:09 PM |
Why would the date have to know it was your birthday?
Think about it. If the person mentions it (ad nasuem), he/she kinda thinks it's a big deal. Sorry to disappoint you, but the world doesn't in fact revolve around you. Sometimes, other people express an interest in something that you don't like. And when these instances occur, you actually should acknowledge them with something more than an acusatory, "is that really what you're excited about? That's like totally beneath me," response while sticking your nose up at them.
Anyway, back to the original discussion. It's the same thing as going out on a date on or before some other important day: big entrance exam (mcat, lsat, gre's, etc.). If the date goes well...great. But, if it doesn't, then having that extra piece of baggage, let's call due to want of a better term, just makes things more complicated and tense. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 7:59:59 PM | | I did. I went on a date on my birthday, but never mentioned it. It was my gift to myself and I had a nice night. To mention it to my date would have felt cheesy to me. | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/14/2008 8:35:53 PM | Was offered 3 different birthday dates. One on my 18th birthday. Stood up.
Second one on my 21rst birthday. Stood up.
Third date on my 24th birthday. Stood up.
I don't want female company on my birthday anymore. From now on when I celebrate my day, at least it'll be with someone I know will be there.
Me.
Ah, but alas, ever the slobbering, sniveling, heartless "mandrills-with-penises" we all are.
*shrugs*
Then again, what do I know ?
 | |
|
| Of birthdays and dates
Posted: 4/15/2008 10:31:46 AM | | I always go out for my birthday. It's always been my thing. I don't ask for presents and I rarely ask for anything in my life. So my birthday is the one day I feel justified in asking to be taken out for a nice dinner and enjoy a relaxing evening with someone I like. I have been doing this since I was 16 and have only missed one year (37) since then. | |
|
Home
login 
