| Attraction and Nervousness / Dourness
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:37:10 PM | I've always wondered if females feel that nervousness, dour feeling , that comes across as disinterest , when there's actually an attraction . There's a sub-theme refering to this in the movie "The Village", I think it was from the man's point of view ....and I forget the writer's reasoning for this behavior was, but I remember it was very poignantly real
I just read another thread where a female expressed that she tends to do this when she's interested in someone ..... so I guess it works both ways . Problem is, sometimes that 'ice' never gets broken , especially if both parties are playing it that way.
So, if I'm attracted to a woman and feel that she's possibly in that 'mode'.... I guess I'll just jump right on that ice and hope it's thin !!! Comments??? | |
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| Attraction and Nervousness / Dourness
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:45:56 PM | | Take baby steps. Every move you make should be reciprocated. Then take another step. Don't jump right in. That would scare a shy girl. IMHO. | |
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| Attraction and Nervousness / Dourness
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:19:27 PM | | I'm not even talking about a neccessarily shy woman. Sometimes it seems more like pride.... like ; "I'm not going to open up.... he's gonna have to open me up". Actually, my biggest philosophy is that 95% of all human emotion is based on insecurity... even egotistical-type pride . I forget that even a vibrant, beautiful woman can and does have insecurities . | |
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| Attraction and Nervousness / Dourness
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:24:09 PM | You are right. Everyone has insecurities, and sometimes those who look the most secure are the least secure.
Opening up is not easy. It takes lots of courage to do that, to put oneself in a vulnerable position.
If I am not terribly attracted I can losen up much more quickly, if the stakes are higher I am more cautious... and takes me more time to open up.
Is that what you are talking about?
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