| Hows My Profile ?
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:22:08 PM | Your about me section needs to be completely expanded on and revamped. The opener, "Hi, so here goes" is not an ideal way to start a profile. IMO w/what you have right now, you could start your profile on, "I love my football" and scrap the beginning, at least for now, until you can come up with another way to open it, as well as expanding your profile, as the second poster suggested.
The section where you describe what you are looking for, or rather, not describe what you are looking for...describe (so therefore decide) what you are looking for. Uncertainty is not ideal in a profile. In addition, and more importantly, please consider deleting the part about how you are more comfortable speaking to women online. There are a few reasons for this, one of which is that if you are hoping to meet people (which I hope you are if you have listed friends, if not, you need to list talk/email), women viewing your profile may think you won't meet them, and they will want to. I understand if that is something that is easier if you make clear before the first contact, but there is no need to shoot yourself in the foot if you do wish to meet people, but if you do desire to only talk to women online, then make sure you change that, and then there is also no need to write it, as you are talking to women online anyway. Understand my logic? JMO... I am never saying to present yourself differently, but it is all in how you say things, if they even are necessary to say in the first place.
The last two lines of your profile are just better left unsaid. IMO delete those, posthaste. Seriously.
You never need to tell women to contact you, if they want to, they will, and you certainly don't need to tell women in your profile to reply if they message you. A reality of this site is that not everyone replies by declining politely or replying positively to every message they receive. It is something I practice on dating sites, but it is definitely not right for everyone, nor is it a right the person sending the message has, but it is courtesy and respect to reply. However, not everyone subscribes to this view, and you need to remember it is their right to do so. You haven't asked for advice on messaging so I'm sorry if it seems I'm trying to advise you on that, I'm trying to make the point that writing on your profile for women to message you is not attractive, and the remark about replying if you contact them, even less.
The other line is just taken as obnoxious, sorry, but you asked for the truth. You have barely written anything about yourself at all, so how exactly are you afraid of writing a novel? You need to write something about yourself that will make women want to talk to you, or else how can you expect them to? If you prefer to keep your profile the bare minimum, then just don't say it. It's just not necessary and comes off as very unappealing.
Try to take pics of yourself in different situations, and with a digital camera. Even if it's just a couple pics, try to make it an appealing situation to a woman your age. Try pictures when you're out, or even just outdoors (NO FISH but I think that may just be a phenonemon particular to North America, might be wrong on that one though).
Positivity in profiles is key. Negative will attract negative, and that is true for absolutely everything in life. Turn your profile into a positive statement about yourself. As is, it is a quite negative message you seem to be trying to send. The statement about your nights out being boring is an example of the negativity in your profile, try to replace statements like that with positives.
Good luck, have fun 
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