| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:04:15 PM | I am not the type of woman who sleep around and I have noticed that when I tell men that I will not sleep with them right away they walk away. Is it really a bad thing if a woman wont sleep with a man with in the first few dates? Are there few little women out there today that make men wait or even men who make women wait? It seems that so many people today are so wrapped up in getting some that they lose track of what trying to find a last relationship means. Am I alone in all of those or does anyone else get the same problems when they do not say yeah I am a person who will rock your world right away.
Confused! | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:17:55 PM | I am not the type of woman who sleep around and I have noticed that when I tell men that I will not sleep with them right away they walk away.
If they walk away because you won't sleep with them right away it is because that is all they want...
Is it really a bad thing if a woman wont sleep with a man with in the first few dates?
Depends on who you're asking...I'm sure he would say it was bad...
Are there few little women out there today that make men wait or even men who make women wait?
Yes we are all sluts...  | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:45:01 PM | Several weeks back this guy came on to me like a tornado, told me how much he liked me, and thought I was the greatest thing since cars... He wanted to meet my son, and BOND...(creepy), then decided the third date we'd be hitting the sheets...
I called and said ya know this is going way to fast for me, need to slow it down... Wouldn't mind seeing ya, but I won't sleep with you now...
He had a HISSY, said I wasn't interested in him, and that this always happened, except AFTER he bedded the girl...
Yeah, well what ever dude...
I think if you want to wait, and a guy doesn't, it says a heck of a lot of what he REALLY was looking for...
I don't sweat it, I don't need any guy that bad if he doesn't know how to respect me as a person... | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:56:44 PM | | Trust me I don't sweat it. Just wondering if anyone still cared a little about morals out there. It is just really sad that men and women alike feel that if they are not getting laid then they are not worth much. I have basised a relationship off of sex once and yeah I got a kid and the man left for me for another woman. It took me a long time to realize that the relationship as just that. So now I avoid it until I know enough about the person and I know that it is possible to have a lasting relationship. I just wish people would stop handing it out like candy because that is how people come to expect it. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:50:50 PM | Not all of us guys are like that though.
To me, Sex is an added bonus of the relationship. Sure, its always amazing for a 20 year old like me, but there are so many other things that are involved in a relationship. Some guys are just to damn shallow to realize that, and in turn makes guys like us look bad... | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 4/19/2008 12:02:43 PM | | I honestly don't think there is a time limit on when to have sex, but have found if your speed isn't as speedy as his he loses interest real quick. I did date a guy that made me wait and I really thought..whoa..this guy must really like me.......NOT....he went back to his ex. So if things click and no action after time.........too long perhaps is another red flag in my book. | |
|
| |
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:20:29 PM | | Microchip perhaps she doesn't expect anything more from you than a good time. You two just don't click, but she is having fun. It doesn't always mean that she is open to it all the time. She just is comfortable with you? And if a guy is that way "he is way too cool"? LOL. Just trying to look at things from different points of view that's all. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:46:32 AM | How do you find these guys?
I'm socially aware and active in a wide variety of sets and I don't know anybody* who thinks or acts like that. As much as I like sex, it is the last thought on my mind in early dating. I'm far more interested in developing easy raport with a gal I'm interested in than anything.
I once experienced "every" guys dream (or so I thought) wherein a very sexy lady came straight to my home, sight unseen, expressly for sex. I can't describe the disdain I felt for her at that moment or my honest surprise at my own reaction to her.
People (in general) are not programmed for that. If you find a guy who is...RUN. If you only encounter guys who are, maybe you need to take a look at you're doing to attract and encourage them. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:29:40 AM | | I know I take what is given to me by women. I don't force. so if a woman doesn't want to do me I understand. I think though a lot of guys are afraid of getting stuck in the friend zone. I get stuck there often and the only relationships i have that are romantic the sex came pretty quick. Not saying what you are doing is wrong and that the guys are right for walking away. But it does get frustrating, not getting laid because you want to take it slow then watch her end up getting all over some other dude because they don't want to ruin their friendship with you. Just a thought anyway. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 6/19/2008 3:39:37 PM | You know what I don't hear from even one of you?
Have they been tested? I am from the Detroit metro area. Aids wiped the gay community about 15 years ago then through users and hookers broke thru to the straights. Heterosexuals are dying as fast as the gays did then. It is hitting epidemics proportions. Teens are the fastest growing groups. I hear of many dying BEFORE 21, and their babies are dying with them. I have heard teens tell each other that there is a cure for aids so they don't have to worry anymore. I raised three teenage boys thru the worst of it so I did my homework. I have taken their friends and GF in for testing when they asked me to.
There are 1o forms of syphillys and gonorrhea that are totally immune to any known form of antibiotic. Get them and you are going to die a horrible death. Some of them have mutated into fast moving forms and will kill you after just a couple of years. Genital warts are found in about 80% of the sexually active people, male and female.
Guess what? The economy crashed in Michigan 8 years ago and we lost 400,000 jobs in the metro area. Those people who don't want to know if they are infected have taken jobs in other states and cities and they brought their families with them.
I don't care if you guys think I am too slow to get into bed. I don't care if you want me to think those wonderful women that you have been with in the past were too pure to bed hop with other men and you were just so charming that they gave in only to you. BULL, if you haven't been tested, and you are too foolish or chicken to find out, then you are walking time bomb and I don't want you.
My choice not to be promiscuous is a tough one for me. I have the same feelings as the rest of you. I guess for some people closing their eyes and hoping they are blessed and lucky is something that gets easier over time, but some of you are going to die. I am not willing to take that chance. Testing should be an act of LOVE. You should not want to kill someone out of neglect. Consider, they test you when you give blood and some men in the Detroit area carry their blood donor cards.
It's just not that hard and it's a whole lot of smart.
Go figure | |
|
| |
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 7/22/2008 5:14:06 AM | I totally agree with you. I want more from a man than just a roll in the hay. It's scarry enough to just start dating again after years of marriage but the thought of sex is even scarry. Friends first then lovers. | |
|
dakind
|
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 14 | |
| |
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:05:12 AM | | If a man tries to tell you that he wants to jump into bed... and you say no and he walks away... all he wants is to surf sheets. It's ridiculous now days the way people jump in and out of bed. And i'll admit, on here 9 times out of 10, the men who contact me aren't really looking for a date. They're looking for tail... You're not alone. I've lost many a 'date' out of my stance. But ya know what, they weren't what i was looking for anyways :) | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 11/13/2008 10:51:15 AM | | I think it is a matter of attraction, it it looks good, etc etc. I have been on dates with women and felt an attraction right away, others I have not,and it has just been natural chemistry and conversation that takes it to that level. It just depends. I think it would be honsest to say some people are looking for that while others are not. If dating could work to the way that we all wanted it. (LOL) I would have to say that yeah 3 or more dates and meetings, by then you should have developed and attraction for that person by then, and things should just take thier course. I can see a womens perspective and say that if she sleeps with a guy right of the bat, that he would think of her as a slut,whore,etc etc, and relationship goals would change. The women can also think of the man in this manner as well. So playing it safe would be to wait but within limitations. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 1/5/2009 11:39:03 AM | Keep doing what you are.....there are way to many men out there that only want to have your outer beauty and to hell with whats inside. Its the inner beauty of a person that counts...yes there has to be some physical attraction....but that comes with getting to know what is inside that person!  | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 1/5/2009 1:49:02 PM | | I believe that if you love yourself then you will know if you want sex or not.. If you tell the guy that you don't want it and he gets mad, well then forget him and move on, there are plenty of guys out there now a days that only want sex, and that is very sad. For me I wait about a month or two before I let them have me, if they really want me they will wait, if not then I will move on. That's life now and we just have to deal with it.. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 7/25/2009 1:10:01 PM | I think that some women come off wrong when they tell a man that they wont sleep with him on the first date . The woman should say wait and see if we hit it off first wait about 3 dates then tell him yes or no . If he has a high sex drive and you dont care for it why keep going your only going to hurt each other and why do that. | |
|
| Does it really matter how fast a woman will get into bed?
Posted: 8/16/2009 8:55:10 PM | Well I would agree that it shouldn't be something a woman spits out hey heck no. But that only seems to work when you meet the person in person rather than online. When you meet someone online you tend to speak a lot longer before you go on a date. So sex will always come up in a converstaion long before the first date. And when men bring this up like that rather than waiting for the first date they tend to bring on the response their self. That or the ruin their chances of ever meeting the woman because they came off like a man who is only looking for sex.
More and more online the NSA people have me the internet their way of finding other people who are looking for the same. Problem is there is no way to separate the two so it makes it very hard for women to figure out what a mans true intentions are becuase they can not read their non-verbal communication when talking.
Online dating is a double edge sword. It is great because you can meet people you wouldn't in your normal spots. But at the same time it brings a lot more issues of honesty. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
