| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:29:23 PM | Have any of you had your ADULT children fix you up on a date? Or introduce you to someone whom they think you might like and they might like you? What was/is your experience with this?
To elaborate my particular scenario. My daughter is 26. She lives in Lexington, Ky. which is about 3 1/2 hrs from me. (not an issue but thought I'd include it). She knows a lot of people in Lexington, of all ages. She's not actually trying to set up a date for me per se, but wants to introduce me to a few unattached men in a social setting, like a get together where she works. Being the time of year that it is in Lexington (horse races) everyone who resides there pretty much are in town for the duration. She knows me pretty well. She knows I like someone who can hold stimulating, intelligent conversation and can keep up with me in the sense of humor dept. and is not shy. She's not running around saying to these men, "you should meet my mother" ~lauugghhiinggg~ or anything like that though, in any way. She just thinks there's limitations here in this town and I have to agree with her on that point. Anyone have any feedback on this? | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:51:54 PM | Well ........... it is a no luck deal for me.
I have two daughters 26 and 28. They are step daughters but - since I “got them” at 5 and 7 they are just like any bio daughter any one has.
Do you think either one of them ever even think about fixing up dear old dad? - nope.
The 26 year old is a nurse. I LOVE nurses. She is around about 5000000000000 of them and yet still nope.
I have this nagging feeling they think I will get back with their mom someday.
Not only that .........
I have THREE nieces. They are mid 40s and all of them claim all the single gals they know are ding bats.
That is the same thing my nurse daughter says “you would not want to go out with any of them”.
All of them know how picky I am ............ I suppose that is the real deal lol. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:14:48 PM | ron9* - I'm SO sorry that all your relatives seem to have ding-bats as friends. ~lauugghhinngg~ And, my daughter KNOWS there's no chance for getting back with her father, hell, we've been divorced for 20 years.
I'm reconsidering my thoughts (now that I think about it) on just WHY she wants to do this now. Hmmm, she did tell me recently that her father isn't making great judgments with the women he's going out with at this time. ~giggling~ I wonder.........is she trying to help me avoid making the same mistakes he's apparently making? Not that I have but.....LOL .....maybe this child has an agenda here. LOL. She is NOW the parent. I thought it would happen, but not this soon. LOL. I'm now wondering if I do date anyone she knows, will she wait up for me and ground me if I come in past curfew? And give the guy a lecture? Now, it's all becoming clear. Sneaky little brat. ~tongue planted firmly in cheek~ I don't have any friends here who have had their children try and fix them up. I'm wondering........is my child the only one with this thought process??????? | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:02:19 PM | belle.la.donna- I don't know what's up with that......hmmm, maybe you should have a talk with your children. Or better yet, have 'em call my daughter. They can ask her what she's thinking......then get back to ME on it. She _SAYS_ (to me) that IT'S TIME that I get out and circulate.........(what am I, a newspaper?) and if she has to be a catalyst for that, so be it.....says she doesn't want me wasting away before my time!....What the---???? (makes me think of the "do women have an expiration date" thread here) But thankfully, her planned introductions are within my age bracket. If I see something going awry I'm taking the "reins" back in horse country. LOL Or should I not go? Maybe I can go.......then when I come back I can post here how it went??? What do you all think??? I'm in between a rock and a hard place. -bangs head on desk-
PeterC- Oh, Lord! I don't know what to tell you there. Maybe there are a few here that can though. I'll be watching for that. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:25:37 PM | I'd have to say.. no.. ! My kids respect "my" choices and decisions and left it alllllll up to me to meet men. They're.. 27.. 24.. and 21.. and I have also left their decisions on whom they date/meet.. all up to them. I'm not really sure I'd want them to "introduce" me around.. or me to introduce them around. I guess.. that's a personal choice that you have to make. I think they'd feel horrible if they did introduce me to someone.. it grew into a relationship.. then.. ended badly. I know I'd feel terrible if it was someone they had to see regularly.. or even do business with annually. Just a thought. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:56:33 PM | redarcangel- I see where you are coming from and what you mean. But don't confuse introductions with decisions on whom I date. ~grins~ She's not making any "decisions", she very well knows that I make my own and she would never attempt to do that. Without telling the whole boring story about her father and his dating......well, it seems to her that he's having a mid-life crisis. lol. The question was, did anyone ever have their adult children fix them up and if so how'd that turn out etc....
And as far as IF I did meet someone to whom she introduced me....and it did become "something" _that_ would be my decision. However, I don't go into relationships thinking they might turn out badly. She thinks that I do not get out of the house enough, and she's correct. But Lexington is a much larger city than where I am, more to do, more to see, more to meet. She's right on that aspect too. Boy, is she ever. Just like everyone who is here, on POF to meet someone, we are all widening our prospects (or whatever you want to call it) for whatever reason. Everyone who's eligible isn't on an Internet dating site. ~smiles~ | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 7:12:39 PM |
belle.la.donna- I don't know what's up with that......hmmm, maybe you should have a talk with your children. Or better yet, have 'em call my daughter. They can ask her what she's thinking......then get back to ME on it. She _SAYS_ (to me) that IT'S TIME that I get out and circulate.........(what am I, a newspaper?) and if she has to be a catalyst for that, so be it.....says she doesn't want me wasting away before my time!....What the---???? (makes me think of the "do women have an expiration date" thread here) But thankfully, her planned introductions are within my age bracket. If I see something going awry I'm taking the "reins" back in horse country. LOL Or should I not go? Maybe I can go.......then when I come back I can post here how it went??? What do you all think??? I'm in between a rock and a hard place. -bangs head on desk-
Please do post how it went...and I can show MY kids, and get em off their duffs..I need help....I'm not doin so well by myself.  | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 7:16:37 PM | Ha, I really had to laugh at this one. Sorry !! My son knows better than to even TRY to fix me up !! Not that he doesn't have good taste and he knows what I do and don't like ....... he just won't do it. Sometimes I think he likes the fact that I'm not deeply involved with anyone right now. Of course, even though he's 33 and his father and I split many years ago...... he still would like to see me back with dad. (Not on my life !!)
My oldest step daughter tried it once... failed miserably.... she finally gave up lol lol.
I must admit I was flattered when she did try... she thought enough of me and the man she knew to introduce us. We laugh about that many times and love to recount the date too. Oh well, good intentions.
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 7:31:00 PM | *pinebreeze wrote*"Actually. I'm quite flabberghasted that all of us are still single with the advent of this amazing medium, which puts us at each other's fingertips! Hmmmmm? Maybe thats the problem? har. "
^^^ I think you have stumbled upon the problem there pinebreeze. At monitor level is where a lot of "cyber daters" wish to stay. Maybe there should be a separate category for this? LOL ~scratched head~ | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/15/2008 11:34:42 PM | | i think it's great. go for it! why the big deal? have fun socializing and expand your horizons. most serious relationships still come from meeting friends of friends and family. if your daughter was worried about either you or a collegue, she wouldn't have made the offer. plus, it sounds like where she lives has more to do and you could also meet people on your own. she sounds like an extrovert. take it from another extrovert, we like to match make, but it doesn't mean she wants to get more involved after that point. just likes to make connections amongst people. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:30:56 AM | | I have two grown kids as well ...26 and 24 niether have tried to fix me up...tho my 26 yr old did attempt to encourage me to go out with a guy friend I know ! Great guy but just a friend... | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/16/2008 11:04:34 AM | -serenitycw - I'm going to go for it, and have fun. Thanks for the encouragement.
Yes, my daughter IS an extrovert, like me. We are both "never met a stranger type" of personalities......can talk to anyone. Yes, there is more to do and see there believe ME. It's just kinda like you get in a rut sometimes and need a kick in the butt. ~lauugghhinngg~
My work pretty much enables me to make my own schedule to a certain extent, so that's pretty good, being the boss has it's perks. ~chuckling~
-Redheadedhotmom- well, you gave it a "go" that's what counts. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/16/2008 3:27:36 PM | clasact, i'm so happy for you and your decision. your future man may be several times removed. you meet a friend, then another, then get invited to a party, then someone there you think a friend may like to meet is fixed up by you. later on, that friend invites you over to coffee and you meet one of his/her neighbors (who is also over for coffee) and poof--you go to a barbecue at the neighbor's house and meet the neighbor's single brother in law. it works in business and networking, so why not in the personal arena? just don't go out with your daughter's supervisor /boss or direct employee!
yay for extroverts!    | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:50:48 PM | | No, my kids haven't tried to do any matchmaking, but my granddaughter is trying her hand at it. I'm spending the night at my daughter's house tonight because it was the twins' birthdays. They just turned 11. My granddaughter informed me that the guy across the street from her is nice and he has a motorcycle and she thinks I should go out with him. I think she wants to fix me up with him hoping I might end up living right across the street from her. She's not wasting any time either. The guy's girlfriend just moved out last month. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/17/2008 1:44:22 AM | Clasact.. I read your profile after viewing this thread yesterday (Ahhh, you peeked! )
I think it is a great idea; one your daughter is extroverted, and two that you are receptive, and three that serenityCW has given you a 
If it doesn't work out, I will set myself up my personal Matrix chair, plug in, download the life and times of sammy davis jr. Put on my activated charcoal masque, some dapper dan, a tux, tap shoes, and sing out of the side of my mouth,
Pardon me, girl
Is that the Chattanooga choo choo?
Track twenty-nine
Girl, you can gimme a shine
I can afford
To board a Chattanooga choo choo
I've got my fare
And just a trifle to spare
i think she just needed to have a paradigm shift, which in turn set up the energy fields to recharge all the guys around her. (serenityCW) I love this!!!!
That ought to do it.. Let's ALL hope not..cause since April 15 ole' sam has taken my trifle. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/17/2008 11:33:23 AM | woobieizer--- You would DO that for me? Wellll, that HAS to be the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. Matrix chair and all, huh?~snickers~ It would almost be worth sabotaging my own "coming out" party, in the Bluegrass State (although, technically a Commonwealth) to see you perform this. ....~lauugghhhiinngg~ But, now that you have joined the bandwagon and given me a too, I'll will go ahead with said plans. And too, I don't know "jack" about horses but I am a quick study in new things. Always receptive to enlightenment.
Hey, maybe THAT's what I needed the ol' paradigm shift (around this town anyway)......... ~grins~
I always see light at the end of the tunnel..........LOL | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 4/17/2008 12:14:23 PM | | I think its great! Dont read too much into it, just go enjoy yourself, my motto is " you just never know, unless you try!!" I have 3 grown sons, and no they havent, are sons different than daughters in that respect???? Enjoy, and yes, tell us about it when you get back, let us whose kids dont help expand our horizons, live vicariously thru your adventures!! LOL, just kidding here....Have a wonderful time!! | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 9/3/2009 5:39:58 PM | I've set my mom up a few times.. She's in her 50's and seems most of the "good guys" that are available to here in the rural area (where she lives) are all married/taken..
So she ends up with half-wits by default. She's just too forgiving, so I take it upon myself to give her dating advice.. Yes, her SINGLE son giving his mom advice.. haha
I'd like to think I see things for what they are, and it's easier to gain perspective in the 3rd person..
I've always feared aging alone, so I can only imagine how lonely it can be at times for her..
So when she comes to visit.. I usually have someone her age to hang out with socially..
(hope this helps can some sort of perspective)
-Cole | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 9/3/2009 6:01:54 PM | ...Good for you Cole, knowing you have the support from your children means a great deal.
Actually it was my eldest daughter that suggested I try Plenty of Fish. She had heard some good things from co-workers and such and so had I so I thought I would give it a try.
But previous to that she did try to fix me up with her boss but I would have none of it.... if truth be known she scared me off. She built me up so much and I'm sure he had all these expectations....needless to say I kinda got cold feet and decided I wasn't ready.
And to give ya'll heads up...I did meet him when I picked her up from work about six months later......darn, I blew it haha
...maeflowers | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 9/3/2009 6:08:41 PM | Actually my brother's wife did the best job of anyone in my family of setting me up with a woman. It did not work out long term for several reasons but my sis-in-law was right on about my taste in women, both looks and personality
My daughter probably wants to see me stay single. My son thinks I will never remarry. He thinks I am too picky. My daughter-in-law and her mother introduce me to a lot of their friends, though. | |
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| Adult children introducing you to potential dates?
Posted: 9/3/2009 6:23:01 PM | My kids are aware of who I like and if we are out they will say things like MOM twelve oclock etc...
They are more interested in looks that me, Im more interest in substance so at times when I was talking to someone I liked they would say they didnt see how I could find him attractive. They both say I have horrible taste in men, at times I think they are right! | |
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