| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:10:22 PM | | I was dating someone from this site. He stated we were in a committed realtionship. I removed my profile--he did not. A friend of mine found his profile still there and still very active. What would you do? | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:30:57 PM | | I bet that really hurt. Now it's the days when you can cyber cheat and cyber discover cheating. Well, one thing that's a plus - you didn't have to walk in on him with someone else (not that I ever have). | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:37:34 PM | Author Thread: committed relationship and?? he still is on POF Track this thread calgalmagic
Joined: 4/11/2008
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---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Ok, I guess I can't ream you a new one for joining on 4/11/2008, since you explained you had removed your profile. But anyways, who cares.... | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:40:07 PM | | Just let me tell you what I would do...I found out I had been seeing someone for 6months gave me the same line only wanting a commited relationship thing was he was seeing someone else at the same and she and he met on pof...I never even heard of it..oh he still operates on here. has one or two profiles ...leaves the pic off...sends it to he is talking too. even changes the state from ind to ky ..this guy is a real preditor...stole blank checks from me and this other woman...she called me because she found my ph# on her caller id...seems he was to stupid to block it when he used my phone to call her and I ran to the store. That's not all he takes precription meds and money in jars you have lying around the house...get rid of this guy your seeing ...if he is still on here he is still looking ...they want there cake and to eat it too. | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:41:29 PM | | tell him to remove it or get lost. If he has friends then they have his email and they can email him. Its obvious he's playing games. This isnt' a hard one; its about trust and respect. | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:43:50 PM | I did and he said he was just looking. Then he told me I should be taller,richer and younger. I am glad this relationship is over. I needed to know others opinions. I have been told that you date and you still looking is ok. ( but it was a committed realtionship for us)/ | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:43:59 PM | | Ask him about it. He could just enjoy posting to forums, he could be looking for friends. He could be jaded enough not to want to delete a profile in case he needed to use it again. You won't know until you ask him. | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:22:24 PM | If you are in a committed relationship, his profile should reflect that if he does truly just enjoy posting in forums.
The fact that he didn't tell you about it worries me more than the fact that he still had a profile.
I would drop him. | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:34:21 PM | Sounds like someone I knew. Trust me ...not worth the grief. More than likely is talking on the phone or even meeting too. So how much respect is he showing you?
You are worth so much more than standing under ............ | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:39:42 PM |
He is very secretive. When he doesn't get his way-he threatens ! He is now back on as 2 different users. One with a picture and one with out. Beware ladies
That by itself would have ended the relationship. I do not respond well to threats. But I'm very happy you ended it. You're much better off without the jerk.
Unfortunately what happened to you is prevalent in an online dating world. It's easy to find your guy under another handle/profile and yet he swears he's committed to you. And after that people wonder why we're not trusting??? | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:40:48 PM | | So when he first threatened you you didn't see that as a red flag?I know there must have been other things that he did that caused you concern like did he ask you to remove your profile from here?You said he is very secretive and that didn't cause you concern at the beginning?I think maybe you had a little nagging feeling in your gut about him but chose to ignore it but that is your female intuition so pay attention next time ok lol.tc | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:03:43 PM | If the relationship is good perhaps all you runaways should consider to grant benefit of doubt first and not let your own insecurities create monsters, which will come when called and nip you in the butt...LOL
People can initialize to date other's they may meet on facebook, or while shopping.....
OP you did reveal later he told you he was looking for something else so that changes the entire original scenario.
If he is not happy with you , then there is nothing you can do to change that except to find someone better. | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:15:36 PM | | I am still having fun with the forums..... I know what I like and appreciate who I have . Not looking to cheat. Looking to pass time and read the imput on the forums. As for him,its his choice. If its meant to be It will be.......What a great attitude I have ...... | |
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:19:19 PM | I met someone here a while back too and he had told me that if we were exclusive, he would quit the personals. When we realized we weren't going to be seeing anyone else, he decided he wanted to stay on so we could "encourage other people to take a chance" at the mingles and meet people. I kept asking him to quit and he wouldn't... made other excuses about how he hasn't been online, etc. It made me feel very insecure and that's not good for any relationship.
Fact was, he was continuing to be active on the site. He never got off the personals. And he wasn't the first. Every guy I've ever met on a personals site, never removed their profile. When I'm in a committed relationship, I completely delete it... and not just hide it or change my status. The only time I stayed on was with this last boyfriend and I made sure everyone knew I was in a relationship. He on the other hand, was flirting with other women and I found out from them that had they given him a chance, he probably would have asked them out.
I don't trust it, will never trust it, and frankly, no excuse is good enough for me. All that garbage about how they'd miss the forums or they have friends here.... yes, they have friends of the opposite sex who were either interested in them or he was interested in them. It's a dating site... and if any guy stays on here, he's playing with temptation.
Next time I will not be so naive. I will be sure the guy sits right at my desk when I remove my profiles and I want the same from him. Course that doesn't mean he can't put it back on again. I really tire of the games.
OP.... I hope you don't trust it. Anyone who really cares about you won't want to hurt you, mislead you, lie or mistreat you. Him being on the personals will only make you feel insecure with the relationship and if he doesn't want that, he will make sure he removes the profile so you aren't.
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| committed relationship and?? he still is on POF
Posted: 4/15/2008 6:14:25 PM | | Committed relationships or the beginning of a mutually discussed and agreed upon, committed relationship and Fishing online, do not constitute that he's committed as he indicated. And I'm not talking about the forums. If he has a profile UP and running with no changes to indicate as such, then maybe he's looking to get another in line if this one doesn't work out. This goes for the women too, not just the men. It's the hazard of the medium. Been there done that and this man has been on here for a year as of April 7th and is now whining about how he's tired of being alone. Just an observation is all. You just have to decide IF you want to continue on, on a dating site. | |
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