| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:50:56 AM | | I don't understand women, OBviously! Some will post pics in their negligees, bent over, either facing the camera or away from it, proudly displaying their provocative poses and suggestive attire, but then go to the extent of saying that they are NOT looking for sexual encounters, and may even get pissed if you allude to their attractiveness, and it's effect on your libido; even in a respectful and non-aggressive way. Why do they go out of their way to show how very sexy and coquetish they want to appear, and then shoot us down if we allude to that? I just don't get it! Is there an intelligent female out there that can logic this out for me? Any guys who feel the same way and are equally vexed? | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 5:25:24 AM | There is nothing wrong with stating you are not here for sexual encounters and if a woman wants to show herself off more power to her.
What really gets me to roll my eyes however is when they drone on and on about it over half the page, **** and moan about getting sexual requests everyday yet they still post those provocative pictures. I just assume they are natural head cases, general idiots and move on. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 5:27:31 AM | You never heard?...women are from a different planet (different species also) and so its very difficult to understand them, not even in the next 3000 years to come.
They still remain a mystery to mankind, guess we just have to deal with it or turn gay!
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 5:57:06 AM | You are missing another angle...
When I first signed up, I had a pic of my butt as my profile pic. The reason was not to be a tease...it was to weed out the losers. I want to be able to have a sensible conversation on here. Only about half the men on here opened up the conversation with "Nice a$$" and various other suggestions.
So to those that think all men are dogs, only half the men are.
Take care,
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 5:58:51 AM | Sex and sexuality are part of a relationship and so we all, in some way, want sex. When we post our photos, we're trying to give a sense of who we are. Maybe we think we are sharing these sometimes-sexually-provocative photos with someone who might become our "significant other". The photos are a way to say "I embrace my sexuality". But when a woman posts them and then responds negatively to any reference - respectful and nonaggresive, even - perhaps she is trying to make the point that she IS sexual, but not with strangers. The photos are a glimpse of what might come if you reach that stage in your communication/potential relationship.
Is that naive? Entirely! And it certainly comes across as a mixed message, but that's my sense of it. For me, I believe my photos are playfully sensual - that's my attempt, in any case. I receive all sorts of responses, some blatantly vulgur. But so do women fully covered in non provocative poses! I figure if we put ourselves out there, that's just part of it. But women get that so much, maybe what you're getting is an automatic defense response. It's a shame if that's the majority of responses you're getting. I guess your choice is to change your approach or just move on. Eventually you'll probably stumble across a woman whose response will be in tune with your thinking. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:09:25 AM | I wonder if some women do that just to see if they are attractive; to sort of feed their ego; get responses from men, but have no real intention of letting them close to them.
You can tell when guys do it; asking if "size really matters". It suggests that the guy either is well-endowed, looking for attention; or encouragement that his smallness is irrelevant. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:34:20 AM | | Thats an easy one..Lousy or no personality.They have to attract the men somehow.Women are always criticizing men who pose for photos without shirts on yet the same ones parade around with their breasts hanging out and their asses half showing.How bout the ones who post pictures of themselves kissing other women lol..cmon..get real.Its possible to look your best without shedding half your clothing or,hinting at some possible threesome encounter. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:39:02 AM | Who knows???? I have yet to figure out women and I'm sure most men would agree with me. I have always said God has a sense of humor, hence he created woman to keep life interesting for us men . But on the same token, I can't imagine life without women. Damn, that depresses me thinkin about it
I agree with you fmouie................I think a lot women do post provocative pix to stroke their ego's and have no intentions of letting anyone in. Some women take compliments well, others not so well or even get pissed if you mention anything about their pix. It's all confusing and I think I'll have a  | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 6:45:46 AM | It's pretty simple: because men are VISUAL creatures and this is a competitive market- like ordering off a menu, so the entrees feel the need to be attractive and show "assets".
I used to have some pretty revealing cleavage on site, but tired of the comments and toned it down. My mail dropped by volumes, YET besides the droolers I ALSO lost the eye of the guys who were appreciative yet respectful and seemed to have substance! "Librarian" girl didn't sell as well, LOL.
Now I have some cleavage (*slam*... sound of door closing as readers run to look, LOL) but it's much much less- just a HINT. Ultimately I decided that I wanted to represent ALL sides of me- my brain, humor, playfulness and show all assets including a pretty face and my cleavage. The "girls" are a part of me just like my huge heart beating beneath (THAT's why they stick out so far! LOL) and my intellect. WHY hide my sensuality? I'm not dumbing down for a man and not acting cold, playing "rules" games, so why hide the physical. I show cleavage many days at work (at the church!) so why not be "me" here?
It is indeed a good "filter test" as the man who can see beyond the boobs yet appreciate them is the one for me- I'm a multi-faceted gem and seek to be seen from all angles, not just one, so men who are blinded won't get me, just as those who don't appreciate the wrappings as well as the package.
And there's my opinion... with that and 50 cents you can buy a candy bar. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:05:31 AM | | That's some good response, jhawkgirl. Perhaps the confusion is more reflective of men's innate horniness and illustrates a personality deficiency that kicks in whene'er I see a female openly display her pulchritude. It does seem like mixed messaging, but, perhaps it's the reception and translation of the messages. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:11:06 AM | It's the same reason some women wear short skirts and low cut tops out to go grocery shopping. It's because she feels good dressing like that and it's also for attention and there is nothing wrong with that.
Everyone loves attention... it's human nature and it starts from the moment we are born (probably before that, but I'm not getting into that debate in this thread). Babies cry for attention. Children misbehave for attention. Teens act out for attention. As adults, I think we subconciously or even conciously try to figure out what will get us that attention we crave. As single people, we are not getting attention from an SO (hell some of us didn't get it when we were in a relationship either! LOL) so sometimes we crave it a little more than our coupled couterparts.
Now, I'm not saying that only single people crave attention.... not by any means. The amount of married people on this site looking for attention can attest to that, but rarely will you find a married person with any kind of a pic on here either.
Luv Travl said:
she is trying to make the point that she IS sexual, but not with strangers.
Yes. Just like the woman you see in the grocery store provocatively dressed. She is showing off her sexuality but that doesn't mean she's going to go into the public restroom and screw the next guy that gives her "the look". She does it because she likes to dress like that and also because it gives her an ego boost to catch the married guy that is shopping with his wife sneaking a peek at her.
jhawkgirl said:
because men are VISUAL creatures and this is a competitive market
C'mon guys.... you gotta admit she's right about that! LOL Do you stop and have a look at a profile quicker if the pic is a little more racy than the one beside it?? Maybe not always, but I'm willing to bet it happens more often than not.
Like jhawkgirl, I too have a "cleavage shot" and I own right up to it with the caption I have there. If anything, that has gotten more laughable responses than crude ones!! LOL Oh... and the "Librarian" look actually inspired naughtier mail than the cleavage shot!! Go figure..... | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:30:49 AM | There is a difference in showing off your sexuality/ being sensual, and just being a trashy tart.
If you gotta have the goods out to get noticed, it's not saying much about the person, in my opinion. I know many women who can dress provocatively and not show skin or have their tatas pushed out for the world to see or their asses hanging out of their pants, and they can be sexy as hell. It's all in how you present it.
I think men get tired of women giving it away for free rather than having a chase to see what's behind the woman, from time to time. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:44:27 AM | I agree completely with Skye. Good people have a sensual side but still remain moral in character as their core. I make no assumptions of anyone based upon a pose in a profile photo one way or the other.
I think you just have respect for everyone regardless and find out the person that exists behind the profile. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:54:32 AM |
Is there an existing thread that I missed? I didn't have the time to peruse the 1000's of posts here to locate a similar one.
Actually, you do not have to go through 1000's of posts, one by one...just use the search feature and try putting in "revealing photos" or "sexy pics" or other similar phrases, and search using the thread title feature. :O)
But to answer the question...I don't think it CAN be answered in one vague or simple thought! I think SOME do it because they actually lack self confidence (their bods are all they feel will attract someone) and SOME do it because they are over confident! And still others probably just like the shock value of it!
I do know that I have met some of these people locally...women....and the ones who have the most revealing photos, are actually quite tame. They PRESENT themselves to be self confident and proud...but when it gets down to the wire, they are just scared as the rest of us! LOL
Personally, I do not like provacative photos on a profile. Men OR women. When I see shirtless pics of guys...I cringe....and to me, it is the equivalent of a lingerie shot of a woman. My personal opinion, only. Save some things for the imagination, or for the meet! | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:01:05 AM | A woman could be covered head to toe and still considered provocative by the male species. There is nothing provocative,revealing or suggestive about my photos on my profile but I still get slammed with unwanted sexual innduendos.
If it states they are not looking for sexual encouters on their profile then respect that. If they are half naked in their photo and say they are not interested in sexual encounters then respect that as well. It is their choice to dress as they choose.
It is your choice to put your libido away. | |
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:14:39 AM | Thank you for the heads up on this post thread, JHawkGirl...yes, very interesting topic.
To begin with, the 50 cent candy bar...where? What size? Really? Is it chocolate? I can't recall the last time I saw a candy bar with a price nearly that low, even without tax.
Here's a thought on the matter, from humble lil' o' me: In the end, does it really matter why?
Yes, it's a great question, but isn't it a woman's prerogative to be, um, wishy washy? I know that's a highly scientific term, and I apologize udderly. Boobs is boobs, whether it's the mammary glands, or the older, more classical definition. (Boob, blunder-er, ass, stooge, goof.) ((my grammer is me own, and I do not apologize for my style!))
Here's my skinny on it. A woman shows the goods, gets a bit steamed that a man takes it as a sign, or an offer of bedroom dancing, and converstation ends. Man becomes confused, as we poor cousins to the chimp are all to commonly known for becoming, and reaches out for clarification, and, really, a sharing of the pain. Good times.
If I were to suddenly be turned into a woman, while still knowing the maleness of what I was, I do believe I'd go to one of two extremes in dress, and, probably, alternate between them constantly: wear next to nothing, just enough to not be arrested, or cover myself from head to toe in thick layers, showing not even a hint of curve. I assume, of course, that I'd be a much more fit and attractive woman than I am a man...you know, Angelina Jolie, but with sex appeal.
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| Why do women post provocative, yet state that sex is not their desire?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:35:25 AM |
A woman could be covered head to toe and still considered provocative by the male species. There is nothing provocative,revealing or suggestive about my photos on my profile but I still get slammed with unwanted sexual innduendos.
I agree. Here's one example of an email I just got today..
"u look like u would be one CRAZY and LOUDD f...k.."
I don't have revealing pictures up, yet its not uncommon to recieve messages like this. Respect what their looking for.... if it doesn't say intimate encounter, you can't assume thats what their after just from their pics. | |
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