| | dating and unemploymentPage 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | just a little survey here.
say you are on POF looking for the love of your life. suddenly,
without warning, you are laid off and will have to start looking
for a new job. would you put a hold on your dating search until
you found new employment? | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:19:23 PM | | Not necessarily, but I would sure as hell make the job search my #1 priority! | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:28:48 PM | | ^^ yep namrael ^^ very few potential mates have need of an unemployed seeker. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:32:38 PM | Say I weight 300 pounds and I have no front teeth.
Do I wait until I loose 200 pounds and get my teeth replaced ? Hmmmm?
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:37:06 PM | | Yes weight and wait and save up for dental .... shallow as people are ... you're not going to change anyone with ethical considerations of what they all "should" think in light of political correctness. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:41:34 PM | | Depends on how desperate you are for a job. If you have a few months worth of living expenses saved up and/or get a nice severance package you can probably afford to take your time finding a job, but I would think that if you don't have this and generally live paycheck to paycheck a job search should be your first priority or you'll lose your house/get evicted for not making payments, won't have food, electricity, phone etc and that's not cool. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:58:54 PM | An unemployed man=fat woman
If you are an unemployed man you are as atractive to women as an overweight woman is to men.
I'm just saying. Don't ask for what you can't provide. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:59:07 PM | That is an interesting question Op.
I have been fishing for the past few months but have not had any luck and I feel it has a lot to do with being unemployed. I didn't have any problem when I had a job.
I have spent that time looking for employment and am now working but I thought it was strange actually that I was being judged for not having a job.
When I would get to the stage of talking to someone on the phone the subject of employment would come up and I would get a lot of questions. I guess they did not believe my answers or wanted someone with a job because that would be the last I heard from them.
Maybe they thought I was married because I wasn't homeless. I dont know.
It did change how I thought about this whole dating thing.
Good luck to you! | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 9:03:03 PM | | Yes. I would hold off the search. If I were laid off or let go from my job, finding another job would be my TOP and ONLY priority. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 9:27:43 PM | | If I'm in "job finding mode" I really don't have the time, and wouldn't want to expend limited resources on romantic encounters, pleasurable as they may be. I'm still an old-fashioned guy, and I think the the first couple of dates, usually coffee or lunch, should be "on me." If I can't afford it I don't make the date to begin with. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 6:04:27 AM | | OP...Employment first, fun later. Find a job so you can pay your bills, then worry about love. Basic survival has to come first! That's my opinion though! | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 6:28:04 AM | It's all about priorities. Work / survival (keeping the roof over your head) first, play / dating later!
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Posted: 4/17/2008 6:34:22 AM | | If I were unemployed almost all of my social activities would come to a screeching halt until after I collected my first paycheck from my next job. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 6:39:16 AM | | If I was living paycheck to paycheck I'd put off dating for sure. Some people are not dependent on jobs, they are older, have other investments and assets so it wouldn't be any trouble to lose a job.... and for some, it means devistation as they have nothing saved and going to be in a bad position with no money coming in. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 6:45:22 AM | | You can do both at the same time, the net is a wonderfull tool for finding your next job, your main priority though in my opinion would be finding a job. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 6:59:45 AM | I don't know if I'd want to date a man who wasn't worried about finding another job to the extent that he WAS trying to date. That's a time when honestly, dating should be on the back burner until you get back on track, and your focus should be on finding another gig.
Personally when I was unemployed I lost too much sleep and worried too much about how long it was going to take me to get back in the job market to be any good dating. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 7:34:44 AM | | I would think that finding a job would be the most important thing. Spending money on a date when you don't have a job shouldn't be something at the top of the list to do. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 2:59:19 PM | | I think if you really like someone you should go after them jobless or not | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 3:09:51 PM | I would not date until I found a job unless I won the lottery or ws retired.
What would happen though if say you were dating someone that had a job and they get laid off? Would you keep dating them? I would until they proved they were lazy and not willing to work. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 3:21:44 PM | | I'm wondering if you were dating someone and they lost their job, would you break up with them till they found a new job? Would you leave your spouse till they found a new job? | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 4:48:14 PM | | Absolutely. I would put off my dating search for at least two reasons. First, I'd want to prioritize my energies towards finding employment. Second, I'd be a little worried that anyone I'd meet during such a transitional period wouldn't be a good long-term match. In other words, does he have a latent desire to rescue a needy woman? I don't want to be rescued! For me, unemployment would (hopefully) be a temporary situation, BUT my personality and self-esteem would be altered if even for a short period. So, I wouldn't trust that I was on solid footing to enter into a dating relationship. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 4:53:40 PM | | Would you stop dating if you knew that in the future you would be losing your job??? | |
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| dating and unemployment
Posted: 4/21/2008 6:59:45 PM | i would still search for dates and whatnot, but...
i can tell you from personal experience that women are not interested in men who are unemployed. I was unemployed for 8 months ( I am currently working), and when I told girls I was unemployed, it seemed to be a big turn off. I went on one date in that 8 month period and she wanted to be friends at the end of the date lol. so if youre a guy looking for dates and youre not working, good luck!
After I started working, it magically became easier to get dates. so ya, get a job and you will be better off in the dating world. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 2:21:12 PM | I would not stop dating, I'd look for a new job more than I'd date though.
This actually happened to me. I had a little bit more free time on my hands. So why not date. I did find work. But one guy harassed me about it, when I told him I am spending most of my time looking for a new job, he messaged me saying that I should not be on the site. I looked under the link here that says "unfit to date" and it says nothing about being employed or unemployed.  | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 2:27:38 PM | Depends on your gender. A woman could continue to date if she has everything else going for her. Most guys are understanding about that. But for a guy, work is who he is and it affects everything else.
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