| sex or other physical pleasure?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:26:12 AM | a) Do you think sex is ever overrated ?
b) If so how? Why?
c) Which pleasure that appeals to the physical senses do you get drawn to the most or the second most if that is the case? (for example it could be non- sexual body massages such as back or foot, or eating, or sleep [survival value notwithstanding])?
I personally think it has a tendency to be because I don't hold the appeal of the want and the desire very highly in general. I mean, I don't like feeling left their wanting anything. The food might be good, but that doesn't mean I'm going to enjoy being hungry and make myself hungry just to get it. Actually I find it something to be kind of annoying. I'd take an awesome back or possibly foot message instead anyday. | |
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| sex or other physical pleasure?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:35:15 AM | yes.. sex is overrated..
nbr one.. i now wouldnt have sex with any girl.. . just to say i had sex with her..
is lust qualifies as a feelings? mm i guess it does..
nevermind then..
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eazk
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| sex or other physical pleasure?
Posted: 4/19/2008 1:39:04 AM | a. No...not overrated...definitely not overrated.
b. Bad sex...boring sex...no special effort sex...are badly misconstrued as sex when actually they're masturbation...a game you play with your sense and your mind.
c. Smart is sexy. Cute...an effervescent optimism, ranks right behind smart.
It's so much better when the sex orgam that is being stimulated by someone else is the brain.
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Posted: 4/19/2008 3:50:05 AM | Hmm.....some pple ,no doubt think its over-rated,but,for me,no,never............
(i think it lives up to expectations if you're with a skilled lover.....)
I don't hold the appeal of the want and the desire >>>Op,this is where we differ.........
Im usually drawn to a guy who can engage me in a stimulating conversation so long as i find him attractive,too....then,everything else follows........ | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 4:30:29 AM | my friends actually semi discussed this today, we all agreed that in that moment (the moment the toast finally popped) no man could ever get us as excited as that toast would. so food. food food food. and sleep.
it's goes 'food, a good nap, sex' lol. no one will ever message me now =p | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:02:43 AM | For me sex is only good when the mental turn on buttons are depressed...
So yes sex in the physical sense is overated...
A physical orgasim is nothing compared to mental euphoria... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:09:42 AM | | Sex is only overrated if you don't enjoy it and you have a partner you are not totally in love with and whom may not be totally into you! For me - there is no other qualifying activity that could ever equal sex! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 7:33:55 AM | Hmmm...interesting already to see the responses you've gotten. A nice variety is a sign of a good topic!
a. nope, don't think it's overrated. when sex is good, it's the most wonderful feeling there is.
b. I'm with eazk on this one. Bad sex is what gives sex a bad name. I've had lots of bad sex (when I was married)...and yes, I was happy to pass on it. It wasn't awful, but bad enough it wasn't a priority. But when you have a partner who is really into it with you and both of you want to bring the other pleasure...(and you know how)...wow...sex is awesome then, simply awesome.
c. Yeah...food. Food would come second. Not all foods, but chocolate, coffee, ice cream...certain foods bring me a lot of pleasure. Now, chocolate and coffee flavored ice cream???? Wow...not much beats that! Still...good sex does.
And by "good" I dont' mean hookups w/strangers. LOL The best sex, IMO, comes from a "regular" partner...someone I've been with long enough that we know each other's bodies already and how to turn them on...when we care enough about each other to make pleasuring each other a priority, not just getting off.
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| sex or other physical pleasure?
Posted: 4/19/2008 8:04:00 AM | i agree if its with somebody you love..
im all for it..
there aint no words to describe it..
but if it is.. for any other reason..
the girl better be dead gorgeous..cuz i wont eat chocolatay, bonbons.. and get fat for anyone.
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:07:54 AM | | Chocolate hmmmm, ice cream, calories not so hmmmm.Well sex burns calories and food adds them.Its like a moment on your lips, knocks inches off your hips. Its so long since I engaged in the sensual dance of love . I cant remember whether it feels better than other sensual pleasures I agree with the poster above, its like making a great cake. You need all the ingredients to be there and mixed properly .Love,caring,tenderness,sensuality,raunchiness, confidence,Good foreplay which includes saucy verbals, laughter, a little filth for spice,real attraction all mixed with an adventurous spirit, a little wildness and an appetite for fun.Good technique does not go astray either. Get thee a manual. Hmm KFC,Tom and Jerry's, sleeping, massages are good too. Decisions !decisions. Is it over rated, not if its done right no. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:30:06 AM | | As the iconic Mae West is noted for "When I am good, I am really good...when I am bad, I am even better". | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:36:59 AM | | Not overrated. It took me some time to really find my sexual stride, as it were, but especially now that I have, I love it and place a great deal of value on sexual intimacy. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:46:15 AM | I agree sex is usually overrated, after it is done I most of the time think it wasn't a good idea.
My testosterone always tells me I want it, but it is usually lieing to me. Now if you are in love on the other hand that is a totally different story. The intimacy you can feel when making love to someone you truly care about can be absolutely mind blowingly amazing..... | |
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| sex or other physical pleasure?
Posted: 4/19/2008 10:58:55 AM | I once dated this guy who just blew my mind away with how the wheels turned in his head. I often told him I was so turned on by his intellect that if I could screw his brain I would.
Touches excite me. Words excite me. Breathing in sync so close that you can feel eachothers warm breath on your skin excites me. Tickling and power play excites me. This all turns me on more than the act of sex itself. That is an out of body experience in a way and wonderful all its own but in itself is completely over rated. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 11:13:11 AM | | I agree with a lot of what the last post said. That said, I have always thought that it is overrated. If given the choice, I would rather have the fun, passion, laughter, touching, ETC, that go with a great relationship that make that sex great. To me there is tooooooooooo much pressure put on sex. Is his package big enough does she give a good enough BJ so on and so on. I think all the pressures we all as humans put on relationships and sex may be the biggest reason I like to be single. Lot's less stress in my life than people I know that are in relationships. | |
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| sex or other physical pleasure?
Posted: 4/19/2008 11:21:53 AM | | Sex is over-rated, making love is not. When you find a guy for whom sex is icing on the cake, I expect your attitude will change. When you find they want all of you, particularly your brain, sex becomes mindblowing and you will surprise yourself. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 11:35:52 AM | IMHO sex is underrated....
not just sex for the sake of bragging, keeping count of partners and the like - but in a relationship:
it's a great stress reliever
it shows how trusting you are with your mate
it's certainly as close (physically) as you can get to somebody
physiologically it's good for you (us)
it feels good (or should, as I read some of the responses here)
We've labeled sex in so many negative ways (she's a whore / slut 'cuz she "put out" on the first date) that too many of us weigh every encounter accordingly . . .
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:05:26 PM | I think it's only over rated if you've a partner that's not ringin' your chimes. If you've got the right one, pretty much every single time can be terrific, whether you orgasm or not.
For myself, I'm drawn to the person as a whole - not just one part of him. His voice, his brain, his skin, his eyes, smile, touch, laugh, scent, etc..... every bit. | |
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