| the word "chemistry"
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:18:47 AM | | basically i hate it, it is such a cliche. the individualist in me screams when i see it. can we not choose another word instead? make one up there are millions to choose from, it won't screw up your love life, honest. i am going to use custard. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 3:36:04 AM | Thats kind of funny! If you are going to meet someone to find out if your custard is in sync, it could be messy. Probably not the sort of thing you would attempt in a coffee shop. But maybe that's me. I've always been conservative! 
Now I feel obliged to suggest another word. 'Music - in tune' | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:17:25 AM | | Yeah, it's mostly women that express the ol' "There must be chemistry" line...you hardly ever see men doing it. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:55:14 AM | Custard....ok so I guess now, we need some standards by which the quality of custard can be commonly measured. Do these work for you?
1. "Our custard was simply not of the same consistency"
2. "I had lemon custard while his was more like mustard"
3. "His custard wasn't firm enough and ran all over the table"
4. "She didn't use enough eggs in her custard"
5. "Our custard was only half-baked"
6. "Our custard just didn't gel"
7. "He thought we had custard, but it really was a flan" | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 4:43:17 PM | Very clever misdirection, weaselontoast. I'll resist the urge to comment on your handle short of saying it certainly provides for some interesting juxtaposition.
I agree with needless mincing of words that women seem to play. Choose at random 10 profiles written by women here and I guarantee you 7 or 8 of them will prominently mention chemistry (either explicitly or implicitly). The sex drive of a man is directly connected to his eyes. Is this really new territory here?
So it shouldn't be that big of a deal for a man (or woman) to want to be physically attracted to someone with whom we start a romantic relationship. Men are quickly dismissed as pigs when they don't approach an "undesirable" woman at the bar or pass on the profile of a similar gal. In turn, women feel guilty, want for a better phrase, that they also have this desire (shocker) and cite chemistry for the reason they rejected the ugly guy.
If you're not attracted to the person, then that's that. Obviously there has to be more, but don't hide behind euphemisms if you won't settle for anyone but Brad Pitt (or insert name of the male beefcake of your choice here) either. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 4:54:01 PM | | I think "Spark" is the closest thing to descriptive for me but that doesn't really do it justice. Also it's not always the same. Sometimes I feel absolutely nothing. Sometimes it's mild interest that grows into a more intense interest or not. And very occasionally (once or twice in a lifetime) there's that sudden raging fire that leaves me wanting nothing more that to be with that person every day of my life. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:15:55 PM | Ok, no mincing words, call "it" whatever you like. Bluntly, if you don't feel a hmmm, let's see.......a burning desire to get naked and jump inna pile then you don't, that's called "not being attracted"........if you do, that's called "attracted". You either are or you aren't, case closed. Call it custard, flan, synergy, the moniker matters not.
mjlaw82-paralegal huh? Watch out that the "wordsmiths" you are a slave to don't screw with your mind too much.....you are very young, you have time to run for your life! ~lauugghhinngg~ Don't 'cha just love those attorneys? I worked for some who would want to take this post to court........Chemistry v. Attraction. ~snickers~ | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:38:07 PM | | Take the redneck route and go with Yee haw. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 6:59:35 PM | Connection; spark; fireworks; body heat; in tune; in sync; chemistry; they all seem cliche to me!!! But, hmm, custard?? As in, "Let's meet and see if there is any custard" LOL! OP, somehow it just doesn't work!!!
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| the word chemistry
Posted: 4/19/2008 7:47:26 PM | Chemistry is a combination of physical and emotional/mental attraction between people. When you first meet someone, each person senses the physical aspect of the other, but the emotional/mental aspect isn't known yet.
Some people make the mistake of relying solely on the physical attraction. They reduce 'chemistry' to sex appeal alone. They then run the risk of going from one short-term, disappointing relationship to another.
You can talk with someone for months on the Internet and on the phone and suddenly when you meet them in person, that special chemistry you had together vanishes.
I prefer the word "intensity" - that butterfly, flip-flop, make my cheeks blush feeling.
Dang, I am giggling like a schoolgirl.
^^BG^^ | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 8:37:53 PM | I think we should choose to say the word "gas" instead. It would make it much more interesting.
"I thought we had gas" "there really wasn't any gas between us" | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:40:58 PM | | I prefer the idea of a double-click versus a single-click. And actually, you just need to not fail Chemistry 101 and you can go a long way into a relationship. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:53:38 PM | | LOL, I once used the word chemistry when initially chatting an ex BF and he replied, "Oh, so I should bring my science kit" and I said "Yeah, two parts coke, 1 part bacardi rum" LOL... chemistry?... WHY do we get sooo hung up on the terminology? Some even talk about "don't say chemistry, I don't believe in chemistry" in their profiles, they're so put off by it! Call it what you like, but if "it" isn't there, you really can't force things. Sure, some things grow with time, but you have to have something initially- attraction, rapport, warmth, spark... what's in a name, really? If you feel it it's good, and if you feel apathy or worse, then it's not gonna happen. That's all. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 11:00:24 PM | Ohhhh... lets get hung up on semantics shall we? You are right in saying that you could use any word to define what is trying to be described. However, you are still trying to define the same damn thing. And just as it won't screw up our love lives to say 'custard', it won't screw up yours to continue to say chemistry.
Be honest, it isn't the word that you hate but what it implies. The word isn't the cliche, it's the meaning. Therefore, by using 'custard' to label that feeling, you have now made custard the newest cliche.
Change the thought, not the word(s) associated with it. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:20:10 PM | Hahaha. So when I make a date with a man I should say to him "well, if there is enough custard between us I might want to see you again." hahaha do you think he'd even make a first date with me? How about using the word sadism? I like that one better. hhahaaaa | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 9:49:52 PM | | A friend of mine brought up the word twitterpated. I think that word is an excellent way to describe that lustful kinetic pull towards one another. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 6:01:39 AM | | i can't believe anyone replied to this. wearing my serious hat (a tophat for the milliners out there) i just hate the word chemistry, not what it implies which is rather a nebulous concept in my experience (after all ones mans custard is another mans blancmange). i use the word custard but you must each use your OWN word... | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 6:24:07 AM | | when sherbet gets wet it fizzes, that is chemistry...I can' believe I got involved in this either | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 6:26:39 AM |
Ohhhh... lets get hung up on semantics shall we? You are right in saying that you could use any word to define what is trying to be described. However, you are still trying to define the same damn thing. And just as it won't screw up our love lives to say 'custard', it won't screw up yours to continue to say chemistry.
Be honest, it isn't the word that you hate but what it implies. The word isn't the cliche, it's the meaning. Therefore, by using 'custard' to label that feeling, you have now made custard the newest cliche.
Change the thought, not the word(s) associated with it.
Bears repeating....... | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 7:11:17 AM | I hate that word too. It just means the person doesn't want to take the time to get to know another. And if they don't 'click' then it's onto the next.
...think "Spark" is the closest thing to descriptive for me... This is another phrase I hate. It reminds me of going to the mechanic. Men who want to see 'sparks fly' on a first date.......they are asking for a lot. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 7:56:06 AM | | I used to use that word, until I realzied that it was really silly to use one word to describe so many things. "Chemistry" is used to describe those feeling that we get when were attracted to someone. I don't know about you but there are many different ways that I feel when I am attracted to someone, and with each person it's different. I have dated men that have made me feel butterflies, lustful, intrigued, and then just plain smitten... but to say there is chemistry is just an unimaginative way to decribe how we feel in someones presence.. So I won't give you an alternate word for chemistry... I have many ;> | |
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