| Should I call her?
Posted: 4/20/2008 10:57:36 AM | | First time I joined POF I met this girl which it went well but the problem seems to be that I can't get a hold of her. We have chatted and talked a few times since which I have tried to make plans with her but her excuse is that she is either busy or tired. A few weeks before I moved to my house we chatted which she said she wanted to go out with me which I turned the tables on her saying I am to busy now and preparing to move to my house and that after I settled in to my house that we could go out.. She had np with it which she said she would phone but hasn't. My mom said I should phone her but I refuse to do so saying she should phone me instead. Basically I am making her pay and suffer now for playing games with me. Maybe I am being stubborn but I don't care | |
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| Should I call her?
Posted: 4/20/2008 11:00:30 AM | | I don't think she's suffering over it. I wouldn't bother calling because if she wanted to hang out she would have called you already. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:09:43 AM | HabsMan.... is it Junior High or Adulthood you're living in????
A few weeks before I moved to my house we chatted which she said she wanted to go out with me which I turned the tables on her saying I am to busy now and preparing to move to my house and that after I settled in to my house that we could go out..
Good grief! How is she suppose to know you're moved and settled? I once dated a guy who said he was moving into a new house he bought, and 3 months later STILL wasn't ''settled''. I gave it another month, then began seeing someone else. About 3 weeks later, he called.... I asked how it was going with the move and settling, and he said that was done MONTHS ago! I had to then tell him his contradictions made no sense, but it didn't matter as I had moved on. Wished him well and that was the end of it. If you REALLY like this gal, don't force HER to move on. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:18:08 AM | | GROW UP HABS~ People do get tired and busy...why should she be punished for it? You are not her boyfriend or husband...why do you think she owes you anything more than an aquaintence gets? Turn the tables...you sound very petty and chances are you won't get very far. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:18:17 AM |
I am making her pay and suffer now for playing games with me
So you play games with her to get even and run to mommy for advice?
Dude, you're 37, time to grow up and graduate jr. high. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:22:51 AM | | Did you ever think that maybe her "excuse" WAS NOT an excuse in the first place?? People get busy, it happens, it's called LIFE. You're not the one and only thing taking place in her life, so give her a break! You're acting immature with trying to "get back at her". As everyone else here said, GROW UP! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:33:12 AM | Basically I am making her pay and suffer now for playing games with me. Maybe I am being stubborn but I don't care.
Oy! Stubborn isn't the first word that came to my mind after reading those words up there. Sigh.
Anyway - to answer your question OP, please do this girl and yourself a favor and do not call her.
If all this is for you is some sort of tit-for-tat game playing tactic, why bother?
You say that you want to make someone pay and suffer for playing games with you - are you serious?
And why say you don't care when you started a thread to discuss the very thing you claim not to care about?!?
Have you ever heard of the pot calling the kettle black?
Should I call her?
No. Please don't. Just my opinion of course - to each their own.
JMHO
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:45:03 AM | Quit being a dork and call her already. It's amazing what two adults can learn about one another when you have a conversation.
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:51:48 AM | Maybe next Thanksgiving, you can sit at the grown-up's table.
This Thanksgiving? You can sit with the kids.
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Posted: 4/20/2008 11:55:58 AM | | Maybe you're being stubborn, but you don't care!!!! Then why are you bothering to post this???? | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:07:18 PM | | LOL; first of all you are NOT making her pay; This girl is either very flaky, or she has a ton of guys online. Move on and go with another girl. You dont' have a relationship, you've talked a few times, and again, this girl is not someone to count on. Move on friend. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:14:02 PM |
Basically I am making her pay and suffer now for playing games with me. Maybe I am being stubborn but I don't care
Sorry to burst your bubble, sunshine, but....she doesn't give a shit if you call her or not. Trust me on this one.... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:26:52 PM | She made excuses not to go out with you, she volunteered to call you and she didnt.
In my experience that means she has other priorities, no matter what they are, but it aint getting to know you or even wanting to see you.
I am sorry but I would just move on.
If you really really wonder then give her 1 call letting her know that you are now settled in and would like to go out with her.
If you dont hear from her or she has more excuses, just forget her and move on.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:39:34 PM | Getting "revenge" for being ignored is not only petty and childish, but it's a lose-lose situation. If you're trying to find the right woman for you, which I'm guessing you are if you're here, there's absolutely nothing to be gained from ignoring a woman you liked enough to try and make plans with.
Now, you've got a legitimate complaint that she's agreeing to do something and not following through, but that depends what she's agreeing to. Asking her if she'd like to meet up sometime and her saying "yeah, that'd be nice" isn't really a commitment to do something. If you make plans to do something, and then call her back a day or two before to confirm and she neither picks up nor calls you back... that can be frustrating. Either she's not into you, in which case she isn't calling back. But if she does get in touch with you apologizing, just make it clear that it's really not cool to agree to something but not follow through, and that it's better to not make plans than make plans you can't keep. If she gets the message, she's a keeper. If not, you're better off moving on. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:43:20 PM |  Nicky....thats funny...maybe he will be able to wear big boy pants by then too! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:00:45 PM | One word. COMMUNICATE. Personally, I see you as being a big ol' baby. If you dont care, why bother to ask? My guess is either A: she is actually busy and will explain if she cares or B: shes just not that into you.
You have a fifty fifty chance.
Playing these childish games.. how is that working for you? | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:08:23 PM | Don't call her. THAT'll show her! Yay, you win!
Hmm, won the battle, but lost the war. Better luck next time. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:17:42 PM | | I sure wouldn't want anyone playing juvenile games like you're playing, and if I ever found out someone was???? I would drop them like a rotten potatoe! I would never, ever, ever want someone to "punish" me like you seem to enjoy doing. Talk about a HUGE RED FLAG!!!! Yikes! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:20:08 PM | actually your being a child . a little boywho if he dosent get his way throws a tramtum. grow up little boy. trust me its you who is paying. with your sillyass games. your not hurting her. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:25:03 PM | Go ahead and call.
All she can do is say "no." | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:26:02 PM | | Some people are single by choice. some by misfortune and some by bad luck.but your alone by stupidity. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:36:05 PM | I have no doubt the op labels himself as a "nice guy".
Yes by all means op don't call her. That'll teach her. Teach her what i don't know since she is not your girlfriend and you are not in a committed relationship. Jeeze you have never even met in person. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:36:15 PM |
I have tried to make plans with her but her excuse is that she is either busy or tired. A few weeks before I moved to my house we chatted which she said she wanted to go out with me which I turned the tables on her saying I am to busy now and preparing to move to my house
Smooth move bowels...
She had np with it which she said she would phone but hasn't.
Maybe she doesn't have your number since you moved from mommies and can't call you...
My mom said I should phone her
And you dare to not listen to mom?
Basically I am making her pay and suffer
Actually, you are rewarding here so she doesn't have to pay and suffer if she did in fact hook up with the childish attitude of yours... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:46:59 PM | OP, I didn't read all the replies but..you are 34 and your mum says you should call her and now you are making her suffer and pay?
She isn't suffering..believe me...she isn't interested.. | |
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However that doesn't stop me from being nice about it. You certainly don't know what her situation was, then or now. She may have been dealing with her baggage & was in the transition of moving on... You on the other hand, made your intentions well known by playing games. Do you think you're in control? Do you think she was trying to control you? Absolutely not, she had np with you... Anyway you're letting your ego get the best of the situation. You get what you tolerate...
Analyze the experience & learn the lesson. Better luck with your next hopeful... 
