| have you ever??
Posted: 4/22/2008 10:58:42 PM | | have you ever broken up with a girl like by YOU doing the breakup up and regreting it later. even if you broke up with that person for another girl. Say if u were with that person for a long time and than decided that it was over. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 11:00:24 PM | Nope.
Sorry it didn't work out. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 11:47:55 PM | | nope. Despite that I broke off all of my relationships, the two most major (1 was almost 2 yrs, the other was 4 1/2 with the mother of my children), were the ones that caused the most pain was more of a mutual decision where I was caused the most pain but she wouldn't say the words "it's over", even tho in both cases she made it more than evident that it was (they both had a new relationship within a day, made official within a week) , the rest have been less serious and didn't really have any feelings hurt on either side | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 12:07:19 AM | | Well when the relationship doesn't "work out" it is not just due to a decision on my part alone. If for some reason I start looking elsewhere it would be because I have been given a seriously good reason to do it. One of the biggest reasons I would do that besides the obvious cheating on her part would be from her trying to manipulate me, usually trying to mold me into what she thinks I "should" be in order for her to be happy with herself and hide her own inadequacies. Especially if she tries cunning about it as I am pretty quick whit myself to be able to catch alot of those underhanded moves... I do have regrets about some of the things I may have done "bad" in the past, yet have no time for spending a second thought on being with someone if they are unrealistically going to try and hold them over me for the rest of my life like they never done anything "wrong" before.... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 1:03:10 AM | NO, if I have to be the one to end a relationship it's pretty much already in the crapper and we're both sick of seeing each other.
I have had experiences where I've run into ex- SOs; sometimes it's a pleasant experience seeing someone who was once important in my life, sometimes it's like a knife stabbing through the heart, but once it's over, it's over for good, or for bad, but definitely for ever. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 3:15:57 AM | | If there was any love left I'd have stayed. When it's over, it's over. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 5:30:46 AM | Nope....for me to actually end it...she has to do something pretty bad. As scoundrel says, when its over, its over. whoever he is, hes not worth a beauty like YOU worrying about it.
( when i say beauty, I mean the OP, not you scoundrel) lol | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 5:57:19 AM | nope. not in a serious relationship.
I did once when i was a child in elementry school, but that doesn't really count | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:42:57 AM | | nope haven't done this , usually the girl decides its time to move on in the expereinces i've had | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:55:03 AM | | so what's the question?? are you trying to figure out if he is gonna return to you? | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:37:39 AM | Geez, let's see if I can decipher a question out of this post.
I think you are asking if I have broken up with someone and regretted it later?
Yes I have broken up with women, no in general I haven't regretted it. There are reasons why the breakup occurred and those reasons applied to the situation at the time.
And I think you are asking the effect of a long term relationship has on the breakup and regret?
I think it takes longer to get over but for me personally I have a one way sign on my relationships. I rarely go back. There were good reasons to break up and I don't take breaking up lightly so I usually give it every chance possible before I call it a day.
Let us hope I actually interpreted the OP's questions accurately. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:43:05 AM | | What does this mean, that your boy friend broke up with you and you're hoping he will regret it? | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 12:59:28 PM | yeh, of course. There's always some aspect of the relationship that you miss!  | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 1:06:30 PM | A while back I discovered that a break up in the distant past didn't have to happen. She just wanted some space but I heard only that she wanted me gone. When she finally got her head right and wanted to work things out I had cut her off and had disappeared.
Kinda sucks but it's ancient history now and we're two different people who have had a decade of growth on our own and it just wouldn't be the same. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 1:14:25 PM | If a relationship doesn't work out... there's a reason.
We try to work things out... if there's differences or issues to deal with, we do what we can. But sometimes, it's just not enough, and you have to face the reality that it just won't work.
It's not necesarily anyone's fault. Sometimes, people just aren't truly compatible in the long run.
I would never just up and leave a woman for someone else either. That's called cheating. Sorry, not my thing.
Sometimes, the breakup IS someone's fault. I've broken up with women plenty of times if I catch them lying, or cheating on me. Heh, and especially the lady who abused me. Not much fun there.
They screwed up... and it's over. Period.
Basically, if things don't work out... they're done. There's no going back. After all, you broke up for a reason. And for the most part, that reason will always be there.
There has been a couple of exceptions. I've broken up with women who had issues that were getting in the way of them being in a relationship. And if somewhere down the road, those issues are dealt with... well, then maybe it's possible to give things another go.
But for the most part... when a relationship ends... it's over, and final.
Sure, I might think back fondly on some of the "good times" that were shared. And as wonderful as those memories are... you just can't ignore the problems which ended the relationship in the first place. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:24:13 PM | yep - but I was young and stupid .... still in high school - left the girl I should probably have married for the one that I did marry and ended up divorced from .... stupid me.....
here's hoping you wanted honesty.... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:05:15 PM | | In all my relationships I have been really mistreated. So no. I never have regretted it. But I'm sure some men have. This is the world we're talking about. Just about everything has been done. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:21:13 PM | | No. I believe in ending one relationship before starting another... | |
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| have you ever??
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:48:13 PM | | I don't do too many things without thinking everything through ahead of time. If I had come to the decision that it was the best choice to break up with someone, I don't usually have any second thoughts. That doesn't mean you don't think about the good times you had with that person, or that you don't occassionally miss their company, but at no point did I consider I had made the wrong decision to end it. | |
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