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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:03:52 AM | | Every Friday night I end my evening at the same kareoke bar. And every Friday night I run into the same guy. We talk, flirt, touch, and exchange a little kissing at my car. We have a really good time together and I like him. This has happened every Friday night for about 7 weeks. BUT, he's never asked for my number and hasn't asked me out or anything. So what's the problem... Yes, he buys the drinks, and no he's not married. Help!!! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:10:25 AM | | maybe he's comfortable with what you have already and as long as you continuely let him get his way he won't stop. Maybe you should ask him for his number. or better yet ask him to go out to eat someitme. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:37:42 AM | My famous three step plan for expressing your thought is needed here.
1) write a note
2) string it to a brick
3) throw it at his head
If you want him to be sure of what you are thinking, then this may be the only way he'll understand. Men don't understand subtlety.
If he's willing to have a little make out session, then he should be willing to go to the next step. If not...find another make out buddy. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:33:53 AM |
We talk, flirt, touch, and exchange a little kissing at my car.
Keerist, that is just *so* not fair. My best case scenario is that the bartender slips me a shot of Jaegermeister (kinda the house thing). Where's this kareoke bar? ;-)
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:38:10 AM | Maybe the guy is waiting for you to make more of a move...
Next time try this.. After you are done kissing grab a piece of paper, write your number on it and tell him that you have had a great time and he should call you sometime. If he doesn't then he is happy with what is currently going on. If he does call you, go out and have a great time!
Don't wait for him to make the next move, make it yourself.... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:51:22 AM | | Jared...refer to my post. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:41:47 AM | | OK have to know. How do you know hes not married? Did he tell you that? Maybe hes got a gf? Maybe he just wants to fool around but nothing serious? | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:48:28 AM | I agree with redcassandra. Skip one week and see if he misses you. If he does ask where you were, just tell him you had a date but it was nothing serious, and that you wish he would take you out but he never asks. And redcassandra, yes you need to get a life lol. Go out and have some fun. The forums will always be here.  | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:56:46 AM | | He's shy and wants you to wear the pants. At least wear them until you take him home, tie him up, and dominate him. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:57:09 AM | | I think he might be waiting for you to make the next step. You should think about proposing a date, at somewhere he is likely to feel comfortable (the karoke bar does have some suggestions in itself, if you both like the place and relax there). | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:08:55 AM | First off...what are you hoping for? Sex or getting asked out on a "real" date???
Based on the assumtion that your hoping for some dates...
Ask him what else he enjoys doing (beside going to a kareoke bar of Friday night)
If anything he lists sounds like fun, then say "That sounds like fun, I could enjoy that!"
Or better yet, just come out and tell the guy....
We hate the "chase"...We don't pick up on your "hints"...Help us out a little!!!...PLEASE!!! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 2:09:25 PM | i'm gonna disagree with the dudes here... at the point you guys are making out on a weekly basis there are no hints needed :)
Either he isn't interested in you on a more serious level and is just enjoying your weekly play time or he's playing hard to get and letting you come to him. I'm calling BS on the 'he's shy' excuse or it wouldn't have gotten as far as it has, multiple times. I'm also with the person that said how do you know he's not married? It also explains why it never goes further.
But yea, if you really want him, find out what his interests are and ask him out. If he's interested he won't be offended. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 3:33:58 PM | Maybe he is a closet queen and is just testing you.  | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:25:20 PM | | Magic 8 Ball says "Married." | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:41:22 PM |
Every Friday night I end my evening at the same kareoke bar. And every Friday night I run into the same guy. We talk, flirt, touch, and exchange a little kissing at my car. We have a really good time together and I like him. This has happened every Friday night for about 7 weeks. BUT, he's never asked for my number and hasn't asked me out or anything.
Well, neither have you asked him... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:05:17 AM | | Thanks for all the advice. To answer some of your responses.... I know he is divorced because we have some mutual friends and they all confirm that issue. I also don't think he has any girl friend because no one sees him with anyone and we stay out pretty late on Friday nights until 3 sometimes. BUT, I am beginning to think he just wants sex. I do believe if a guy is interested he'll make it known, so I guess he's "just not that into me." I'm going to put him on the back burner for awhile. I want a relationship that includes sex, but I'm starting to think maybe he just wants sex and thinks if we simply continue like this he'll get it. I am very attracted to him, so maybe he's picked up on that too and his hopes are rising. I will skip some Friday nights and move on to others. I'll keep you posted. Thanks again... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 10:06:55 AM | | Next time he's kissing you at your car, invite him to your place for a coffee. If he wants sex, say no, if you want sex, say yes. Easy. But you'll never know his intentions if you don't move to the next level. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 10:30:38 AM | | The problem is you won't ask him out. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 10:58:24 AM | | No, I won't ask HIM out first. That's not going to happen. He's supposed to be the "brave one", let him do the asking. Besides, we've talked about going to Vegas together, the beach, etc.... so he should feel quite safe asking me out. The more I piece everything together, the more I think he's just trying to score. Pitty | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 11:10:45 AM | OP, you're almost making it sound like you've been on dates with this guy, dates where you're at the same place at the same appointed time, and dates which have ended with the awkward flirting/kissing/goodbye thing at the doorstep (car)... except that you state on your profile that for a first date you'd like it to be "a place where we can talk without yelling to be heard and in a relaxed and unstuffy atmosphere. So dinner in a quite place is nice, or walking in a park, or if the chance arises, a walk on a beach or boardwalk would be nice." He's obviously picking up on your internal conflict. You can't expect him to know what the proper way to resolve this is.
Besides, it's a well-known fact in the non-karaoke world that those who regularly go to karaoke are brain damaged in some indefinable way, so what can you expect? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 1:00:37 PM | No, I'm sure he's a he based on what often pops up while we're kissing at the car. And no, we haven't been on any dates. We both just go into this same Kareoke place on Friday nights (probably to run into each other) and spend the entire evening together in there, and then sober up in one of our cars or standing up outside the car with some kissing and sparking.
Anyway, thanks for all your insights, i'll let everyone know what happens ... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 2:34:22 PM | | It's time to buy a bottle of wine or something like that and invite him to your place. The thing is simple, you both want it. So go get it. Otherwise keep suffering. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 2:41:07 PM |
1) write a note
2) string it to a brick
3) throw it at his head
LOLOLOL ..I love it .... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 3:36:13 PM | I know that women are all supposed to be liberated and go around kissing whosoever they like, but I think it's self-spiting (and a bit tacky) to play kiss-tag with a guy for nearly two months when he won't even ask for your number. I know it's offensive to some women, but the question of why someone would buy a cow when they're getting the milk for free...well...you're basically letting this guy milk you in a parking lot once a week, and he hasn't exactly expressed any interest in bringing you back to his barn. Old adages ring true.
Stop letting the guy milk you, and maybe he will consider buying the cow. | |
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