| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:54:24 AM | I'm sure the women might be able to outnumber the guys here. But I'd like to hear your stalker stories and what you've done about them?
I've had a couple, and just can't seem to shake them, they lie dormant for awhile then like clock-work re-appear out of the blue like nothing has ever happened and we're long lost buddies! At first I would just delete the number from my phone, but then I would forget the number and mistkanely answer the phone. So now I change the name to stalker1, stalker3 and so on.
It's not just POF though, I've met crazies in real life as well. Sometimes I think at my age all the GOOD ones are taken, and all that's left out there are the ones that don't get picked and nobody wants. Sorta like the kids who sucked when you were picking your dodge-ball teams back in school....lol | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:10:21 AM | I've never had a stalker.
I also think "stalking" is overused. I mean, I remember back in high school and college - if one of my girls had broken up with her boyfriend (or vice versa) - - hell yeah we would drive by his house and see if we could check out any activity through the windows from the street. It was silly and infantile - - but "stalking" - I think that is a bit extreme.
And, as far as exes - I don't think anything of it if they call me to see how I'm doing out of the blue, and vice versa. Just because I don't have contact with someone on a daily basis doesn't mean I don't think about them and want to stay in touch from time to time.
And if you're talking about someone who maybe you went out with once and didn't feel a spark with, though nothing violent or murderesque happened either . . . maybe they just had a different impression of the date . . thought the timing might have been wrong for one or the other of you, and then thought about you again at a later date and said to themselves, "Hey - maybe now would be a better time to try to date this woman." | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:26:24 AM | | If I have any they aren't very good. Because I don't know about them. Because any good stalker would know that I would like to know I have stalkers... | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:36:14 AM | I tried for a while to get a stalker, but could never get one. At this point I would settle for just even mildly obsessive fan. Heck, I would even welcome a badly misspelled message from some stranger with pictures of assorted private body parts.  | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:50:45 AM | I get the impression that the OP is obsessed with stalkers and since she has a blank pic on hear we can't see what would make a guy stalk her,
ya know, i almost forgot, i have stalkers every day trying to get ahold of me or talk to me, i'm just to fast for them to catch up with me.
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:53:37 AM |
I get the impression that the OP is obsessed with stalkers and since she has a blank pic on hear we can't see what would make a guy stalk her, Huh??? The OP is a guy, and he has 8 pics. | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:01:42 AM | LOL.......@ message #8
......and I agree K-lo you are a very optimistic person, and stalker is an over-used term. I guess the term "RELENTLESS" would better describe some people.
But for the most part if someone is interested they would let it be known, and if not I don't pursue things any further. I thought most people in general thought that way | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:02:27 AM | But I'd like to hear your stalker stories and what you've done about them?
I haven't had any. But to me to prevent it is to break routine if you are being stalked. There is also the sex part. Some people consider sex as sharing a part of themselves. They may not necessarily want marriage but when they give it you are making a connection that goes on with or without children. So with that considered unless you want the drama you can deter it be not having sex in the first place. Then I'd say that there are legal definitions of stalking. Then there are the public tabloid definitions of stalking. Whichever definition you have of either I believe sometimes obsession can be self-induced. And you may just have a women that is infatuated with you but is not actually stalking you. | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:06:23 AM | Ok, here's my stalker story - At the time, I was a bit weirded out - but didn't want to overreact. I actually made a game out of it- I'd tell my story to a friend and then ask "Sweet? Or Stalker?" - so I put it to you, POFers...
I chat and later meet this nice fellow from another online site. We meet at a park where we go for a walk and talk. We have much in common, and seem sympatico - so we agree we will meet again. Which we do. We have lunch one day the next week. All goes well. We 'hug' goodbye. All during this time, we are talking and emailing. I'd told him about my upcoming camping trip - as we had a mutual love of hiking, and the park (over 3 hours away) has the most amazing series of waterfalls, etc. . . So there I am, unpacking my car - setting up my tent (with the help of my 2 daughters!) and who should pull up to my campsite?! He decided that it' sounded so nice, he wanted to hike the trails himself'! Ok - little creepy, but I try to make light of it (no point in ticking the guy off at this point - I'm pretty vulnerable in a tent, right?). So we're chatting a bit, and he points out that I have a FLAT tire! (I had just driven over 3 hours on the turnpike!) So I proceed to say goodbye and take my kids to get my tire fixed. I wound up sleeping by the tent door with a knife under my pillow. . . So, 'Sweet? or Stalker?'
BTW- for the record, I did not tell him which campsite I would be at, etc. - there was no implied invitation - apparently he drove around (several hundred) looking for my car. | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:20:01 AM | ok.... i agree that the word "stalker" is overused... I think too many times people just dont have the nerve to say..."hey , youre just not the one for me" .. also are these people that you've just met or are these women that you've slept with and moved on.... too many people use that lable when "they " are actually the ones in the wrong.
When you are attracted enough to sleep with a person a couple of times and then just decide to move on, YOU have implied that there was a relationship, and if you have slept with them , and not explained that , it was just a booty-call and you just cut all ties without telling them then you deserve whatever you get.... | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:25:28 AM | I attracted a fawked up individual. I thought I was a good judge of character and this guy seemed pretty harmless. He was always getting banned from here and I thought those mean Mods but seems they knew something I didn't.
I gave him my phone number and we talked yep seemed like a great guy but he is a very sick man.I really don't know what I did to set him off? This nut followed me all over the internet... slandered me. And he did worse things. The fawker even made me cry (once).
The last three years have been hard on me. I lived through some serious medical issues and you know I thought I handled things pretty dang good under the circumstances but he would say the most horrible nasty things. Truth to tell he got me mad Grrrr and probably made me stronger!
I got an unlisted number, I changed my Internet provider. And I learned something...never give out personal information and don't think you know somebody from the other side of the monitor because you don't. | |
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| Stalker or sweet?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:38:42 AM | I don't think justwanttoknow's situation was sweet, but I wouldn't consider it stalker unless I was certain or at least pretty dang sure he caused the flat tire. Creepy, no doubt, but creepy, "That woman won't stop following me" and stalker aren't the same. (But we've alrady had definition of stalker threads.)
I have had no stalkers from PoF, but by the time I joined PoF I had already become way to anal to exchange addresses with people after three emails, so the guys I meet are all sweet, fun and know my friends are hotter, so stalk them. I've only had one stalker who originated from cyberspace, but he was from a chatroom.
I've had both female and male stalkers, and I think the female stalkers are scarier, in general; in my experience guys do the scarier stuff, but female stalkers skip the creepy stalker phase(when the stalker diary or the filing charges begins) and go straight to the psycho stalker phase. I've had to call the cops and file charges on more women than men. (However, the crimes are always less, normally just some vandalism or theft, but, I'm not shelling out a couple hundred bucks a year to replace windows just to keep a woman's record clean.)
Random rocks through my window: only by women, so far. Guys try to break in, but you KNOW before it happens, you're not checking email when you hear dog barking and then breaking glass.
Threats through/to my friends: more guy stuff.
Dumbest stalker story: The guy who crushed my motorcycle when I was at work(he had to take out the tree next to it, too.), waited even after I had stayed two hours late at work to make up for the time lost mid-day, followed me to the drug store, wouldn't go INSIDE the drug store but stood outside so the automatic doors wouldn't close and watched me buy my menstral items. Dude, you've killed my motorcycle AND it is that time of the month... bad plan.
Scariest would be the attempted break-ins or sexual assaults. | |
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| Stalker or sweet?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:42:01 AM | Having a stalker has become a status symbol nowdays. Maybe I should open up a stalker service for those who need one. My rates would be reasonable of course.
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| Status symbols
Posted: 4/23/2008 12:01:19 PM | They have paparazzi services in Austin, TX. You can pay a certain amount of money for a group of professional(but can't have too much business) photogs to follow you around all night doing the pap cat calls. They might have it in other cites, too. It's crazy. How retarded are those people to believe someone is famous by the amount of people following them around.
I think a lot of people want someone following them around. they don't want a REAL stalker, they just want someone obsessed with them enough to take off work and watch them eat lunch from across the street. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 12:14:09 PM | OP I think you just happen to have some very ANNOYING ex's. A stalker will be in your bedroom when you come out from taking a shower. WELL AT LEAST MINE WAS. Oh wait that was my husband..he was always around. Now thats annoying. lol j/k
Hey as long its not on a daily basis and they are not on your doorstep evey time you get home from somewhere I wouldnt call it stalking. Just think of it as making such a wonderful impression that they cant get over you. If it becomes over the top be firm. Tell them you dont want any contact and if they insist you will get a restraining order. That should end it real quick. | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:26:59 PM | hey k-lo, lol, the pic is blank and the way its wrtten it sounded like a girl posting it, maybe its a he/she
lmao
by the way, you are cute and a good poster
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:55:11 PM | Hmmm..these "stalkers" have your phone number and are calling you. You must of given them your phone number then right?
I've given my number to a few ppl and had them phoning ++ but once I told them I wasn't interested the phone calls amazingly STOPPED.
Have you tried that? Telling stalker 1, 2 and 3 and so on that your not interested?
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:57:06 PM | | I have had more than one stalker on here. And by stalker I mean women who couldn't take a hint and tried to add me on myspace, facebook, and even my yahoo messenger account, all of which I never gave to them. Some people do not understand what rejection means and choose to live in a fantasy world where rejection can be rationalized away, those people scare me. The absolute worst was one who showed up on my doorstep just before I was going to take my then girlfriend out to the club. I had a really fun time explaining that one.... not. | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 3:01:53 PM | Now thats scary prOx.
Actually 1 guy I dated just a few times called me out of the blue about 2 weeks ago and said to me "you live at-------------" That freaked me out a bit. I've been wondering if he's going to show up here. | |
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| Stalkers? How many have you gotten from POF?
Posted: 4/23/2008 3:06:51 PM |
Sometimes I think at my age all the GOOD ones are taken, and all that's left out there are the ones that don't get picked and nobody wants. Ok ... this is not a profile review, so I'll try not to make it sound like that.
I went in and took a glance at your profile and to be honest ... if I were a lady in your age range ... I would just click right on by.
If all you want is to "Hang Out" ... then I really doubt you'll get too many women wanting to contact you who are looking for a serious relationship. I know I won't even read the profiles of men who even just have "Dating" in there.
My experience with men who have down "Hang Out", "Activity Partner", and "Dating" ... are just all basically looking for sex. And most just want it on the first date ... right after you've finished your coffee. It's been my experience that the men who want the above mentioned ... usually have several women they are seeing and basically only see them in order to get sex ... sort of like some "busy bee jumping from flower to flower" and I want no part of that. They're "players" ... certainly nothing a person should consider taking seriously.
So at this point ... I don't even give profiles like that the time of day. If they don't have "Long Term" on their profile, then they might be considered a perspective friend, but for sure not a perspective "relationship". | |
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