| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/1/2005 9:56:57 AM | Gosh, I love men. But they do not handle ANY KIND of rejection well AT ALL.
I think that all people need to be respected. But I have yet to find a way to communicate to a man that I am not interested in him without hurting his feelings. I usually write and thank the gentleman for writing to me and spend my time trying to come up with a true reason why he is not a feisible companion i.e. distance is too far, or something that would not reflect negatively on his education, looks or personality. Perhaps I am wrong about doing that. So guys, how do you want your bad news?
A. Just delete me because I really don't care.
B. Tell me a lie but do not tell me you don't like me or that I have faults.
C. Just tell me the truth "You're too hairy" for example. (Right!)
D. Say: "You sound like one hell of a nice guy, just like my dad, but no thanks."
E. Just say "No thank you." and leave it at that.
If you have other suggestions, feel free to post them. I just really do not want to hurt a guys feelings just because he is not my idea of my kind of guy. I just wonder if it makes any difference in the long run to most men.
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/1/2005 10:51:37 AM | I know this is for the guys, but, I thought I'd give my 2 cents worth..
That is a good question. But, the right answere would depend on the person and the circumstances. And in online dating we can't possibly know how anothers going to take it since we don't hardly know them.
When I say to a fellow in person that I don't feel any chemistry they often are surprised and reply something that means.....that because they do, that I must. They often feel I am in denial, or a commitaphobic, or that I am not giving them enough chance. It is hard to give them more chance when it will likely just lead them on further.
As a women I prefer they don't respond if it is online. In person I would need the truth, so I could start liking my wounds or not get any in the first place.
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/1/2005 2:24:36 PM | | I'd go with C; with all the times I've been rejected, the rejection part doesn't really tick me off as much as the "why the hell did I just get rejected?" question that emanates in my brain. Would be nice if some girls would grow a spine and just spit it out, but then that would be too easy because then I'd know what part of me is lacking, and I'd be able to work on it and become a better person, god forbid that ever happen! | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/1/2005 7:21:40 PM | C or E for sure. Just the facts ma'am - the straight up truth is how I like it. I also understand that a hottie like you has a lot of mail to get through so a "No thanks", "Not Interested" or the like would go a long way.
I think it's great that you made this thread...there seems to be an overwhelming theme to the guy's responses. Take care and good luck with your search. | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/4/2005 5:48:19 PM | I'm more of the blunt type. C. Comunication is gold. Often I find with other relationships in the past the other was just too timid in coming out with what they really felt; giving me no idea what the deal is and leading to a heck of a lot of frustration on both parts. I'm not saying to be rude or insensitive, although a blunt response could come across like that, but just don't be ambiguous or leave something up to interpretation. It will be misinterpreted.
K.I.S.S. Keep it simple. Simpler the better IMO. | |
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