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Posted: 4/23/2008 5:21:05 PM | | I met my boyfriend on POF, and couldn't be happier. Like most people who have been in the dating scene for awhile, I met a lot of weirdos both online and through blind dates, etc. Online dating seems to give people permission to act like perverted slobs, but at least you find out right away, rather than 6 months into a relationship. I wanted to give up on finding love so many times, but there really is someone for everyone-even you weirdos out there!!! Good luck | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 5:54:58 PM | gina,
I met my last bf on here too. Believed he was absolutely wonderful. I'd been through the wringer with guys I'd met, and he was such a breath of fresh air. I fell madly in love with him....
But, he wouldn't get off the dating site.
And, he cheated.
Now, I just don't trust anyone until they prove to me in every single way they are who they claim to be, and that means getting off POF and any other dating sites.
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:47:12 PM | Well I’m glad for you ladies.
But what I don’t really understand is why all the women in POF are asking for a nice guy, respectful, kind.. blah blah.... BUT never ever take it, don’t give a chance to know him. You just close the door to happiness.. all by yourselves.
The lucky guys who receives the replies is one that is a hunk (according to you women), but if he is (and he knows it) he’s used to play games… the result..= cheating, disrespect, not serious relationships.
I think that is difficult to find a good man, because most of the women still are engaged with bad parameters. Most seek for nice face, nice car and full wallet, but at the end the consequences are worst…They end loving a life like that..
In my case POF has not worked at all and I keep guessing why women never reply to the messages at least to say “thanks but I’m not interested”.. WHY!?? LOL! I mean its just a matter of minimum respect!!
What do you think?
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:55:24 PM | Hey Gina!.....congrats to you,we are not all bad
We are all the "sum" of our parts,for better or for worse ,hopefully the better ones out number the worse ones!
All the best girl!
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:02:15 PM | | You're just meeting the wrong ones, Sharzi. I know when the time comes, it will be a treat to get off here. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:12:27 PM | The stories women have told me about guys on here
are simply unbelievable! And, they are not just
isolated cases! I can't imagine that the number of
crazy, insane weirdo women on here, anywhere
approaches that of the men! Or at least, I've
been fortunate, not to run into them! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:42:27 PM | | WHAT?!?!?? A good man isn't a rare breed!!! Women just look for love in ALL the wrong places. HappySeeker, I agree... but what can you do or say? Women don't wake up until they are way past their prime, used and abused; then they look for the qualities in men that matter. Incredible!! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:06:32 PM | Gina..
it is a case of buyer beware..truly, I wish you nothing but happiness, but, I thought I had found my soul mate on here as well, and he turned out to be nothing BUT a liar and a cheat, I have spoken to another lady who met him on here as well....and same thing there too..it even went so far as my sending him cash to come to Oklahoma from Georgia..and conveniently his car blew up..then i went to georgia for a week..and let me tell you..i wont do that again..so if there are any truthful guys on here....LOL they are hiding | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:21:26 PM | Women don't realize that car, nice face and wallet might finish sooner or later and that by exception, a guy like the ones they look the majority here will be still with them after the years!
LADIES! WAKE UP! DONT LIE SAYING THAT YOU LOOK FOR A SPECIAL MAN..!! OPEN YOUR EYES, THEY ARE PLENTY -TO -FISH HERE.. JUST LOOK CAREFULLY! INVEST in a good person..! | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:22:03 PM | with all due respect man, it has more to do with not trying so hard on your end than it does them not wanting you because you dont have a ripped six pack.
Try just talking to them before you drop the "hey youre cute" shit. you come on like a dog humping their leg. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:40:02 PM | Well, maybe you're right.. But the point is only in POF.... of course this applies also.
However, its always their choise Scrum, without caring how tactic you acted.. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:08:15 PM | There are plenty of good men out there.Women are often just way to picky.They often skip over mr.perfect for mr.perfect looking. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 10:14:57 PM | | Yeah Scrum, riiiiiiiight... LOL "hey you're cute" is way too nice and down to earth. They prefer things starting with that "B" word... and its kinda hard to talk to someone that wont talk back. But what you said does make sense, well the "with all due respect man" part made sense...................................................... | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 10:20:28 PM | HappySeeker wrote:
****** I think that is difficult to find a good man, because most of the women still are engaged with bad parameters. Most seek for nice face, nice car and full wallet ******
No so with all of us. I really could care less about cars, money or things. I'm drawn to someone who has similar values, likes, and someone who seems to be a nice guy. I will say that initial attraction is important as well. And who knows what makes a person attracted to someone else. For me, I have to see something in the eyes and in the smile. But the guy doesn't have to be gorgeous. I've dated men my friends thought were not in the least bit attractive, but they were attractive, to me.
Unfortunately, I have no had the pleasure of meeting what I consider "nice guys." They may seem that way in the beginning, but after about a month or two, they showed their true colors.
I just went out with a guy who I had everything in common with. He wasn't the best looking guy in the world, but I didn't care. I felt chemistry with him and at the end of the date, he went on and on about how much he felt for me. He couldn't wait to see me again and see where this would go. I heard from him one more time the next day, then he was gone.... no more calls, no answering mine.... then finally a text message a few days later that it wasn't going to work out... nothing else. I figured he must have met someone else, or who knows.
I will never understand telling someone there is chemistry if there isn't. I don't understand the whole lying thing at all.
So, finding a nice guy, one with whom you feel an attraction to or chemistry with, and you've got enough in common, it's a rare find.... and I imagine it's the same for men.
There is an old adage that says, "The good ones are taken." I'm sincerely hoping that's not the case.
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Posted: 4/23/2008 10:48:24 PM |
WHAT?!?!?? A good man isn't a rare breed!!! Women just look for love in ALL the wrong places. HappySeeker, I agree... but what can you do or say? Women don't wake up until they are way past their prime, used and abused; then they look for the qualities in men that matter. Incredible!!
The best thing I read all day. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:06:46 PM | because most of the women still are engaged with bad parameters.....
This is certainly the case, I want to see someone else rant about "I just need someone to love and care for me". While that has some bit of truth to it, other motives will soon prevail. For the gentleman that said "cut the you're cute routine", I see you are still actively using the site. Therefore you just proved the point you were trying to discredit. I think the notion of finding a good man entails the security of the nice house and all that follow it. If you really have trouble eating the notion that "some" women are engaged with bad parameters, I can prove it. So ultimately, those bad parameters deliver what they claim to have not wanted in the first place. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 11:29:48 PM | I just met a really nice woman here on POF. There were 287 replies (?) to my profile, and though some of these ladies were pretty nice; many of them seemed to suffer from emotional abuses/experiences in previous relationships. I feel for them, and I wish there weren't Idiots like those guys in the world.
My question is real simple: If you ladies are looking for the "right guy" a "nice guy"; the kind you'd be proud to take to to meet dear old dad- then why is it you will shuck the "nice guy" for the first "bad boy" that catches your attention.
Not long ago I put that to the test. I saw this wondeful woman that tripped all my triggers. We talked a little bit, mainly in passing, and I made it a point to dress conservately, act like I have some sense, and be the gentleman around her. It didn't take, as a matter of fact I immeditaley got the impression that she wasn't interested.
So I let it fade away for a few weeks~~
The next time I saw her; I came roaring up (loudly) on my Harley Road King, was wearing my leathers, and strutted in like I owned the place. When she saw me, it took a minute for her to realize who I was, and then I saw the change in her attitude towards me. I got the idea to be a "prick" and see where THAT got me. To my surprise; the more I pushed her away, the more she came back.
Now lets hear your take on that. Why is it you ladies love the men that hurt you the most, and hurt the men that love you the most....? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 1:25:56 AM | Well said Scrum_Reus "Try just talking to them before you drop the "hey youre cute" shit. you come on like a dog humping their leg" How many times I have heard so many compliments in a very short time and no real conversation or questions to get to know about me, although I have asked away. It just makes you wonder, are you interesting in knowing about "ME" or are you more interested in something else, but having said that, we women do tend to pick up fairly quickly what their intentions are and move on. I have a 3 times your out rule, sad I know lol, but I ask questions and if I dont really get answers after I ask 3 times, and they havent ask me one question, then to me thats disinterested on their part and they are "out"
Guys, if you want to know about a woman and come across as interested in her as a woman in her own right, ask questions, be interesting and interested, (absolutely as much as she should in you too) and be guided by what she asks you as its usually an undertone to what she wants you to ask her. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 3:33:39 AM | hehe nice post Gina - good on ya and don't take any negativity or doubts - a good man IS a good man.
100% girl *nods affirmatively*
But why are we guys such a *RarE* breed i wonder?
Sorry Sharzi but i feel you're being a little subjective and yet trying to generalise at the same time.
the only thing i really want , apart from Life of course, to be considered a 'good' man
(i used to out this on my profile)
but i agree with Mr., "Happyseeker" !!
putting the honesty down on a profile gets nil response from 97%ish of the women who browsed through my page.
Put a picture of me with silly green wig from Brands hatch on the starting grid of BSB complete with broll doll .... and - funny that! - no matter WHAT i write- i get a 92%(ish) response rate and a pretty full mailbox
At the end of the day its all about how honest one can be ...honest enough even to admit that maybe just maybe in this material world ...it's materialism (and not the spiritual elements!) that attracts and / or is perceived to provide all we are indeed taught to 'need'
Aaaah Eton College *sigh* hehehe
Flat screen TV ... D+G ...oh and the jose cuervo all thru the weekend!!
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Posted: 4/24/2008 3:40:01 AM | sorry i forgot to mention
i'm not simply talking 'needs' of a financial or life - security nature
it's in the syntax ... e.g.
cheeky confidence (a generally accepted atrractive trait)
is usually developed by a guy who is cheeky and confident
...unfortunately this usually becomes a skill ..and of course if you're a guy ... then possibly, "these skills are there to be used" ...and used ...and used
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Posted: 4/24/2008 7:19:07 PM | Hi there all!
Im my personal history (which I dont know if it is a good idea to tell), I was married with a beautiful woman, physically and why not, internally also. After all, she is the mother of my kids and I loved her as nothing in the world when I married her..
Before me, she was in a relationship with a rich, fat, ugly, aggressive, bisexual guy for 3 years. He change her for another lady and thats where i found her (I knew her before).
The Q is that this fat guy (which I forgot to say IS millionaire) threat her as sh..t, embarrassed her in front of everybody, disrespect her, cheated on her (with guys also), throw her food in the face in public parties, etc..
I found her, I gave her a treat of a Queen, a home, a family, love, respect, support for studies, confidence, loyalty, travels.. blah blah.. at the end she left me... she said that she doesn't feel good at my side (WTF!) after several years of marriage.. and... it seems she is still in love with this fat guy...
This is a close story, but its one of N! that I know where women prefer a guy that treat them terrible ... I just dont get it... Again!! WHY LADIES.. WHY!!!!!?????
Say the truth Ladies.. I wish I could read an honnest post saying something like:
"..Looking for a very handsome, attractive, secure financially guy with luxury car and nice body, I don't mind to be misrespected, cheated or mistreated, please contact me if you have those essential requirements!"
Well, I think that at the end.. nothing is going to chance...
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Posted: 4/24/2008 7:52:35 PM | | Sounds like my ex. I have met way too many liars and cheats since re-entering the dating world. I also found out that separated could mean since morning. Retired meant out of a job and looking for financial support.Split up means she is upstairs sleeping he is downstairs on computer.Interests means what they did 30 years ago not what they can do now. Not getting off the dating sites is a biggie but they just find another or change their profile. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:09:08 PM | Hey dancer.. I loved your post... no words.. wise wise words..
I cant deny there are guys like that.. but.. that's why we are here.. to fish.. but you are more brilliant.. get a clean, fresh and true fish.. don't fall in mistake..
And I don't understand what or who sound like your ex..
Ah.. besides.. I'm kind of tired of the dating sites.. so Im getting out.. when I find somebody that is worth it I'll find her even under a rock.. maybe destiny..(I hope lol)... | |
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