| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:07:06 PM | I am sure that some similar posts have been put up on this subject, but I couldn't find any, so I thought I would refresh it a bit. So here goes....
How long do you see somebody before you get his "total" attention? I know everybody is different, but for the most part, there is probably a pretty standard line so to speak. If you meet somebody and you click....things are great and you hit it off as friends....then best friends. Everytime you are with them it is great! So, How long does it take to get him all to yourself? I don't mean marriage or anything like there...just some commitment to be loyal and to be with only me.
This should be a pretty good thread. I look forward to your replies.... Thanks for reading!!!!!     | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:14:10 PM | However long it takes before you decide as a 'couple' to be together. It could be after xyz dates or months, no set time frame.
I causally dated someone for about 4 months before we ever got to the bf/gf stage. Other times, after a few dates, it kinda happened that we just didn't date other people. Sorry, I couldn't be more specific; but each relationship I have ever had was different. heck, my exhubby was my 'rebound' guy, lol, I married him and we never made a real commitment until I had 12 pregnancy tests that said 'positive.' lol. Live and learn, I was only 19, so I wasn't old enough to know better; now, I do. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:26:24 PM | | 128 days, 17 hours, 46 minutes and 52 seconds after the first eye contact or shortly after the 'exclusive' conversation, whichever comes first. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:32:32 PM | Cute! I said everybody is different...so therefore was just looking for some input. Thought it would liven the forum up a bit :)  | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:52:43 PM | | Wow, I was just thinking of some really creative answers to that question, "How long should it be?" Not forum appropriate. ha ha ha | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 10:08:07 PM |
How Long should it be?
I thought it might be about a weiner measuring contest....
My bad!
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Posted: 4/23/2008 10:11:41 PM | May have been a bit more interesting...but we all know.........ain't how long/big it is but how it is used!!!!! Longer/bigger isn't always better lol.... But I knew the title would be an attention getter, so that worked well    | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:59:21 PM | | There is no time line I can see. Everybody is differant. He could take 1 month, 3 months, who knows. What you see in him, he may not see in you. Start as friends and let it progress at his speed. Just be there for him when he needs you. Within reason of course. If he is smart enough to know how you feel, by your actions, then he may come around quicker. But time will tell! | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:03:43 PM | whisp66,
So many times I see the same general type of question asked, and I've also given the"this many hours,this many minutes" answer out of sheer frustration. If you meet someone you enjoy being with, will it really be so bad spending the time with this person? Our society is indeed strange. We drive cars which have great seats, tunes,climate control-basically the best environment we'll be surrounded by all day-yet we rush about and get into accidents like there's something horrible about enjoying driving in a soft,cool,cushy car. We get into interesting and enjoyable relationships, and, instead of enjoying where we're at with someone,and what we're doing RIGHT NOW, we're always in a constant rush to take that next step; even to the point of ignoring the wonderful present moments. I'd love to be able to say I'm completely innocent of this same thing, but I'm not. What is wrong with us? IMO, if it's so painful to spend the time with the person,they probably aren't the right one for you. Consider carefully, if you really enjoy the time you're spending,does "how long?" come to mind? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 1:35:32 AM |
How Long should it be?
oops...sorry I thought we were talking penises.
My mistake...carry on. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 3:34:28 AM | | Sometimes you have each other at hello, other times at goodbye! | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:07:55 AM |
oops...sorry I thought we were talking penises.
My mistake...carry on.
Yeah, I was ready with my answer, too. :) | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:21:34 AM |
How Long should it be? As long as necessary.
Actually the answer is "It Depends". Each relationship is different. Different dynamics. There is no one answer. So I go back to "as long as necessary". | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 6:23:03 AM | OK so its not about the wee wee.....its about the we we or you me
It takes as long as it takes, or till you decide its going nowhere.................. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 6:31:11 AM | You know the pic of the 3 girls on the home page that are crackin' up laffin?
Well that's because they just read your post | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 9:43:44 AM | How long do you see somebody before you get his "total" attention?
Depends on your methodology.
Whacking him upside the head with a castiron skillet is very effective, but can tend to leave a bad impression on either the guy or the skillet(sometimes both!)
Waltzing into his living room nekkid as a jaybird is also very effective, but mind you don't get yourself arrested on the way to his house.
Chaining the rear axle of his vehicle to a fixed and immovable object will gain you either a captive subject or a big mess...
OP, your question is impossible to answer definitively. My suggestion would be, if you don't feel like he's that into you( giving you his total attention) would be to quit trying so hard and start looking around at other guys,what is the point of being with a guy who isn't totally into you?
Define "great"...are you and he sexually involved? I gather from your phrasing that he is either seeing other women or actively presenting himself as 'available" in social situations? What about you? Are you also seeing other men or presenting yourself as available? Or is he dating a bunch of women while you sit meekly by, waiting to see if he'll OFFER you exclusivity? If you want exclusivity, ask him about it! If he demurs, then you can dial back the amount of attention you give him, and spend it on other endeavors,like meeting other guys who might be a better match for you. I don't mean "kick him to the curb" if he shies away from exclusivity, "kicking him to the curb" would seem retaliatory. Just shift your interest. Start doing other social things, and even dating other guys if the opportunity presents. If he just needed a nudge, that may do it. If he is "not that into you", then you need to move along anyway.
Cindy O | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:51:01 AM | What about love at first sight.
Anyone ever done that one.
Eyes meet, the deal is done on both sides, together as a couple. | |
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| How Long should it be?
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:15:22 AM | | I think when you meet someone who is to become a good friend, you know it right away. There's something that draws you to one another. Though I have developed strong friendships over a number of years. The strongest friendship I have developed over a 4-month period. I met my friend in a class in university, by the end of the term he was my best friend! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 12:37:05 PM | Ladyc4,
"Whacking upside the head with a skillet" used to be the leading cause of spousal homicide for housewives in Germany for many years, I wonder if the poor Fraus were just trying to get their husbands attention! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 1:54:14 PM | All us females know "Its the girth that counts". It all depends on how "meaty" your relationship has been. Whether it be "shallow"or"deep" seems to be the answer of how long it takes....Obviously, the deeper you go - the less time it takes........And if a sizable "girth" contributes to his assets, then perhaps it will take even less time.... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 5:55:17 PM | Long enough to get the job done.
(I'll bet the OP will stop and reread her thread title next time. ha ha ha) | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 6:29:32 PM |
I wonder if the poor Fraus were just trying to get their husbands attention!
I happen to have a bro-in-law who is half GERMAN, so I have absolutely no doubt that was EXACTLY what was going on LOL. No wonder my sis has so many of those "pampered chef" and other cookware sales parties.!..she needs to replace her skillets!
Cindy O | |
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