| Why cant we have a "poke" button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:26:50 AM | Or something simular. I know this isn't facebook, but i think it would be nice to be able to just send someone a wink or something just to let them know you're interested.
Dont get me wrong, it's not like i have nothing to say or write but sometimes profiles are not very informative and all you have to go by is the picture which is what gets our attention in the first place. Instead of sitting there and trying to think of what to write to someone when all you really wanna say is "i like your pic" there should be a button that just gets their attention. That way if they feel the same they will respond, and if they dont you didn't waste much time or babble about nothing when all you really wanna say to the person is "hey".
Does anyone agree? | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:36:07 AM | I would agree a "POKE" button has it's advantages...but also feel we should have a "TASER" button as well. The SHOCK value in having a TASER button might teach the miscreants and ner'-do-wells some manners.  | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:49:59 AM | | adding someone as a favorite is just as similar a s the poke or wink button . I have added people and by this way they then email me and we have talked , in fact doing this i have gotten to know a great guy who lives close ... | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:57:13 AM | I use the Favorite button for that.
Especially if they have restrictions, that way they can contact me even though I cannot contact them.
Some peeps get upset about favs, but they've worked quite well for me.
If dating were easy we'd all be doing it. Oh, wait a minute. We are all doing it, so why isn't it easy? | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:01:11 AM | "Poke Button"? Well that sounded like something else entirely than what you meant. I was thinking, being men, we shouldn't have to wear a silly button for you to push to just ask us to take you home and...poke you. Lots of other things are just as direct.
Tee hee. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:10:01 AM | Poking sum1 to check if they are dead?
yeah, I know that feature in facebook, I personally don't like to be poked by people, I prefer sum1 to say 'hi, I like such and such'. That shows that they have communication skills which is important for me in a relationship. I like them refine in their words. If sum1 sends me a msg like 'wanna have sex', well, how I love the direct approach and know what he's in for. That's not for me, I'll block him.
With the poke feature, it would take me longer to find this out, thus wasting my time. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:20:18 AM | The poke button would be ok...A taser buttom (lol)...there would be plenty of men using the taser button , too...(lol)
(a)Poke button
(b)Taser buttom
(c)Puke button | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:23:34 AM | I have been thinking about a poke or wink button for awhile. I would love it if POF implemented this.
Reasons:
a. Most people are intimidated by first contact and don't know what to say.
1. I usually ask women who contact me why just the " Hi how are you" emails and they have stated its hard to know what to write or whats the point it may get deleted.
b. Would reduce a lot of email clutter.
c. If someones interested and winks back then writing an email will be easier.
1. Who wants to write a well thought out email to have it constantly deleted?
I use the friends thing as well for this but a wink would be more formal than adding someone you don't know to friends. Most people think its wierd!! haha, I disagree though. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:37:01 AM | Adding someone as a favorite is pretty useless when that person has 300 other admirers and the number is always changing. At some point they dont even notice anymore because it's not like they are notified every time somoeone adds them.
Yellier pretty much sums it up, why take so much time trying to write something witty or use some cheesy pickup line when you dont even know if the person will respond. And a lot of people dont know how to make the first contact and are not sure what to say to someone they know nothing about. Wouldn't this make it much easier?
It's obvious that on here 95% of the time the person will only talk to you if they like your picture. So sending someone a poke/wink/nudge or whatever you wanna call it would basically just be like saying "i like your picture" without actually saying it.
In the end, what's the harm in having such an option? Those who just wanna message can still just message... those who dont care for this option can ignore their pokes/winks, etc.... and the rest of us who are not so great at making the first contact will have another option to approach people with. Everyone wins right? | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:40:29 AM | Not only is this precisely what the Favorites option does, there are all sorts of threads started by cranky types who resent being faved if they haven't given permission. (As if I could tell you whether you like me or not!) They won't respond any differently to a wink.
Faves have the added function of making it easy to follow someone's activity in the forums. And, of course, the pleasure of reviewing one's e-harem at leisure.
But what really strikes me is OPie's main complaint. She wants to be able to express interest without the struggle to form a sentence or two. She wants, in fact, to make some stranger start the conversation, the very same task she can't be bothered to attempt. That is rather less than attractive.
Cheers!
Vulf  | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:48:15 AM | The poke button would be ok...A taser buttom (lol)...there would be plenty of men using the taser button , too...(lol)
(a)Poke button
(b)Taser buttom
(c)Puke button
Adding to this:
(d) B*tch-slap button
(e) A$$ kick button | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:49:09 AM | shildvulf, this button can be like the IM, you can turn it off if you dont like to use it and those who wish to use it can use it and those who feel as you do about it can disable it from their profile if they wish to do so.
Bottom line, a lot of people would love to have this option... and there is nothing wrong with having it. I'm still waiting for someone to tell me why this is not a good idea... | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:51:22 AM | A "poke" or "wink" feature is somewhat useful, but we already have "features" for that.
Email: Just tell them you're interested. Yea, they could just delete your message, but they could just ignore your poke. Either way, if they aren't interested it's not the end of the world.
Favorites List: For some, this is a method to indicate you're interested. Some like it, some don't. Some assume if you put someone on your favorites list that you'll follow up with an email. A vast majority of people who get put on favorites lists usually don't receive any messages, and then wonder why the person bothered.
I've been put on favorites lists by a few that didn't know what to say in an email. Depending on who throws me on their favorites list, I may send them a message (or not) if they don't initiate contact.
I'd be concerned though. If they are too shy or intimidated to say a few words in an email to introduce themselves, what would happen if we started communicating? How much communication can I expect out of them?
I was on a website once that had as it's main feature a function where you click Yes to someone if you're interested, and they'd be alerted that someone was interested but not who, which means you'd have to go through profiles clicking Yes on people you were interested in. If both clicked Yes to each other, they'd find out and be able to send messages to each other. Kind of interesting as the whole idea was that you'd only match with those who were likewise interested in you.
I think that'd be more interesting than a poke button. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:54:29 AM | " A taser buttom (lol)...there would be plenty of men using the taser button , too"
Oh...did I forget to mention this...Men WILL NOT be given use of the TASER BUTTON as it is a women ONLY feature.  (**smiles**) | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:57:34 AM | I raised what seemed the central issue, OPie. Maybe you would address that?
Again, you want to "poke" somebody to avoid the effort of putting words together to express your interest, like a person. You want to force the other person to start the conversation, even though you are the one who is interested.
If I want to talk to you, then it's my responsibility to introduce myself to you and start talking. If I walked up behind you, "poked" you, and then stood there waiting for you to introduce yourself and start the conversation, just exactly how delighted would you be? And what would you say?
Cheers!
Vulf
There are already features in the pond I never use, so that option is kind of beside the point. The point is that you want a button that helps you be lazy and rude. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:00:51 AM | Shieldvulf,
When I read this thread, those were my thoughts exactly.
On the internet, we don't need to develop social skills  | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:28:23 AM | This reminds me of an ass pincher in a club I was in years ago. She did the "drive by" pinch thing and then wave thing. Poke ,pinch...blah. Why could she not just walk up and and say hello?
The act of introduction is a flattering thing. It says that you are interested enough to strike up a conversation cold. Coming from a woman it is even more flattering because it bucks convention.
I would not be in favor of the poke. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:37:21 AM | Idea of the poke button:
step 1:
I surf the vast majority of profiles and see someone that interests me. I am either busy ruling the world or just too lazy to write some thing. So I click the wink, nudge, hey, or are you interested button.
step 2:
She clicks on a link,like the My Matches button, and sees all the people that winked at her. Same kind of layout as the my matches.
She either writes a message or winks back. Most likely she will wink back and the guy will write a nice email.
Again, you want to "poke" somebody to avoid the effort of putting words together to express your interest, like a person. You want to force the other person to start the conversation, even though you are the one who is interested.
I recieve emails a lot and my emails are deleted a lot. So to me communication is ineffective if the person doesn't like your picture or what ever. This just saves time in a busy world or some one is too shy.
**I have read countless profiles saying sorry about not answering all emails--just too many.**
I'd be concerned though. If they are too shy or intimidated to say a few words in an email to introduce themselves, what would happen if we started communicating? How much communication can I expect out of them?
I used to think that and go on to the next person but to be honest people warm up to others at different rates. Some one shy on the internet doesn't mean shy in person.
If I want to talk to you, then it's my responsibility to introduce myself to you and start talking. If I walked up behind you, "poked" you, and then stood there waiting for you to introduce yourself and start the conversation, just exactly how delighted would you be? And what would you say?
Well, with people getting so many emails most of the time emails are left in the void. So a wink would be great cause you can see who is interested and if no attraction to any,select all, and no thank you messages are sent out automatically.(mclovin)lol.
A woman poked me in the market the other day and i turned around and said hello. But turned out to be an old friend. Was one of those spear to the back pokes.--aha.
off to eat lunch hopefully I made sense--lol. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:47:44 AM | | Well the reason many dating sites have a wink option is so they can claim to be free ..asnd for those to stingy not to pay for emailing pourposes. Social networking sites use it too. I just go and email if I am interested or save to favorates so I can email them when I am not posting blogs, forums or recording music. | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:14:53 AM | | the favorite button wouldnt be useless if people used it well .. knock off the person you are not intersted in contact the person you see you are interested in . dont use it as way to have a 100 people you wouldnt chat with but just want to show LOOK how many people want me ... | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:36:07 AM | Yes Tattooed Smooth,
Poking is a major trigger for me also. Battles have been fought over it. Many deaths. Hey! How about a "Hose Down" button? | |
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| Why cant we have a poke button????
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:58:41 AM | I think that feature on facebook is silly and ignore it.
If you are that timid to start a conversation, I wouldn't be interested anyway.
And, FYI, anytime someone adds me to their favorite list I DO get notified and I do have the option to delete myself from their list. I don't pay much attention to that either most times. | |
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