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Posted: 4/25/2008 1:50:32 PM | Hey girls,
Ok heres my problem . . im txtin this girl we get on so well we like 2 peas in a pod we txtin bout 2 weeks now . . but feels like i know her ages we get on that well, but we talk on msn more than we txt . . she says i am the best and all . . as she has been ****ed around with emotionally by other guys . . so i said i would wait til she felt she was ready to do anythin tat was a the start of us messagin but how am i suppose to know she is ready . . when should i ask her out on a date . . i feel lik im going to leave it 2 long that she loses interest and if i say it now will i not look 2 pushey and scare here off . . . . . .i really dont no what to do!!!
PLEASE HELP ME . . .
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Posted: 4/25/2008 1:56:00 PM | | Rather than asking her on a date... suggest meeting for a walk or something... even if it turns into a date, it will be far less intimidating if you word it so it sounds casual... | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 2:03:14 PM | You see OP.... Say this exact thing to her.....
a) She 'll find you genuine for being concerned about her needs... more than yours..
b) She'll appretiate the fact that you don't want to screw things up...
Just be this simple with her.... she'll like you even more... if not as a bf now at least as a great friend.... NOTE... I said for now.... Let her decide when she feels comfortable enough and don't push.... | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 2:03:29 PM | ok that sounds like a better thing to do . . but do ya think i should wait awhile or ??? i dont wanna come off . . .lets say a Freaky Stalker  i like this girl | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 2:04:30 PM | He who hesitates is lost...
Don't wait to begin a face to face friendship with her... and good luck... | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 2:06:36 PM | | Sorry say what to her are u reffering to the message above yours??? | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 2:43:02 PM | OP...Psssst had some good advice as did NLove. Don't wait too much longer or you could be put in that friends zone but keep the first meeting low key enough that it isn't stressful for either of you. Have you talked to her on the phone at all? Maybe you could suggest that first and see how she reacts.
Good luck
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Posted: 4/25/2008 2:58:59 PM | | ok tnx 4 the help girls ill try it all | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:26:20 PM | | you need help? yeah, you need help writing in english.......(and spelling, and grammar, and...) | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:27:57 PM | | suggest hanging out sometime ..grab a bite, grab coffee, go for a walk, .....see what her response is. Be respectful if she declines ....and let her know that you are interested but that you will let her decide if and when she wants to meet up. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 6:46:19 PM | OMG!!! It's happened.
Two years ago, I was sharing a very large house with a young couple.
I came home to find the wife with two girlfriends, lined up and sitting at the kitchen counter, each with a laptop in front of her. Silence pervaded the house as they sent messages through Myspace to one another.
I asked them, why don't you turn around and just talk to one another????? You're sitting right here....face to face....human being to human being.
But they said it was more fun on Myspace.
Maybe sex is more fun through Myspace too.
I prefer the human touch.
Good luck to the new generation.
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Posted: 4/26/2008 8:13:31 AM | I'm glad I'm not the only one who had trouble reading his question. I speak English not text speak I guess. I was lost. But I gather from responses he likes a girl and wants to know if he should ask her out.
hmm...let me think...duh...YES
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Posted: 4/26/2008 8:29:19 AM | | she will let u know when she is ready. dont worry so much. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:23:16 AM | I'm glad I'm not the only one who had trouble reading his question. I speak English not text speak I guess. I was lost. But I gather from responses he likes a girl and wants to know if he should ask her out.
LOL for once we agree raider, I mean, if this is any indication of what kids deem to be "english" then man, as a society we're doomed!
Hmm just thinking, maybe he's an ESL student? *eg* | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:25:54 AM | PointLomaPassion, that's a funny story!! ROFL...
Scott guy, don't lay down and let her miss out on the MAN that you are. Waiting around for *her* to make all the decisions is terrible advice to follow. She wants *you* to take things to the next level... so, next time you text or type to her, tell her what you're about to go do(have something in mind) and ask her to come with. And do it quick.
Don't lolly-gag and wait around for her to feel comfortable or whatever... that's a joke. Take the lead - be a man. She's not interested in a push over, wimp without enough of a spine to take things to the next level. I can promise you that.
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:42:56 AM | Honestly, I couldn't and wouldn't date someone that didn't take the time to type something out in plain ENGLISH. Sloppy grammar sets a bad precedence. I may be messed up for saying so, but laziness in communication turns me right off. It gives me the impression that the person would be lazy in other areas of his life as well.
I honestly think that you and this girl are going to go nowhere. You should move on and find someone else. Women hold men at bay for a reason.
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Posted: 4/26/2008 11:21:15 AM | Texting and talking on msn as a start is good. If you want to meet her in person, just ask her. It doesn't have to be a 'date' and you can communicate that to her.
Meet for a walk, go to a local coffee house or something casual like that. Keep it simple and easy; non threatening. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 4:05:29 PM | English, man, english...
You'd get better responses if you learned the English language...f*cking kids, God I wish I could understand you...
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Posted: 4/26/2008 4:21:50 PM | | jesus that's a no brainer, don't mean to be blunt but ask her out. if you have no intentions of ****ing her around then what's the problem? you don't need to give her a huge speech, just ask her out before you miss your chance. go see a movie, go to a park, go do whatever and show her you're a nice guy for a change. if it works out it works out if it doesn't then hard luck. don't over analyse and don't do the 'when you're emotionally ready' talk, it's unnecessary. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:42:50 PM | OP Have you actually met this girl in person? Too much msn'ing and sms'ing can eventually do ones head in. Take it slow and don't allow your life to be consumed around chatting to this girl.
rentahusband.....there you go again
you need help writing in english.......(and spelling, and grammar, and...) give it a rest man, every thread you post in you criticize a person for not being as intellectual as yourself
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:53:40 PM | i agree with juliet.....if a person writes in here as if they're writing in txt msg then why should they be thrown in front of the firing squad. there's no rule stating that you're not allowed to abbreviate things. geez, i don't even have a cell phone but i still can tell what people are writing about.
now, scott, you don't want to wait too long. pssst mentioned about just asking her out for a casual walk or something like that....that's your best bet, like you said, you don't want to be too pushy. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 5:38:09 AM | Thanks guys and gals . . txt typing is just a habbit at this stage for me its not lazyness . .
Anyway thanks all for ya help . . i went ahead with some of the advice and asked her out . . but her answer wasnt a 100% yes . . she said em i have exams coming up and hav study but i guess i wont b studying 24/7 so ill let ya know . . but i Defo wanna meet up!!
Is it just me because i am getting a mixed vibe from this??????? | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 5:53:48 AM | Am i just reading too much into this whole thing . . should i just go with the flow since ive already asked her out?? . . should i just sit back and let her come to me now???
I have never had this lets say distance between a girl before this is the first kinda time i felt kinda lost . .if that makes any sense
I suppose i shouldnt let it get me down . . she seems interested when we text she puts x x x x 's when she has to go . . so i guess i should see if the date goes well.
This is mad ive never had a feeling like this . . never been lost of what to say or do with a girl | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:25:06 AM |
never been lost of what to say or do with a girl
Just bring your phone and make sure she has hers, text each other all night long and you
won't be at a loss for words.....
What flabbergasts me about this whole thing is that this guy has been talking to this chick
for some time now.... texting her..... and has yet to actually MEET her. WTH?
This is the new age of dating and it sucks dog shit. What happened to using this a a catalyst
to actually getting a DATE after the initial contact??
I'm too old for this crap. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:38:23 AM | haha i no it is ridiculous alright like a text should just be done to initiate another date ( or a phone call ) but its not like that for ppl my age its more texting than anythin else like a friend of mine is going put with his GF for a little over a year now and she texts him more than they see each other . . but anyway yeah im like itching to meet her . . she seems from messaging a GREAT girl but i wanna see her and talk to her face to face get to know her in that way!!!
But refer back to my question above this Comment please ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Thanks SCott | |
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