| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:36:59 PM | I have had a crush on a certain woman I used to work with for sometime.We were pretty good friends at work,but I never pursued her because at the time I was married. I have'nt seen her in awhile since we both have different jobs now. I decided to go to her house last night to visit and reminise and maybe pursue a relationship with her(since I'm now a year into being divorced.)
Half way into the visit she asked me if I was dating anyone,we exchanged numbers,she walked me out and gave me a hug,then said "yes" when I asked her if she wanted to go out to eat sometime.
My question is would she have done any of these things if she was not at all interested in a more than friends relationship with me,or was she just continuing where we left off as friends? | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:41:27 PM | Sounds to me as if she is interested, but you never know. She could see it more as a friend thing.
My vote is to take her out and try to read her body language. If you are still unsure you could always ask her. Like at the end of the date (if you are still interested) let her know that you think you two have a good connection and that you want to go out with her again. If she's interested in you, you'll know.
Good luck! | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:09:08 PM | | Take her out and see where it leads. Can't hurt. Sounds like mutual interest. Most guys complain they can't get a date...you have one...good luck. | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:51:53 PM | You went a year without seeing or talking to someone, then you drive to their house with the intent of starting a relationship?
I'm not sure that I understand where you come up with the idea that she would want you. In my mind that seems pretty arrogant of you. | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:04:02 PM | si is eram, i'm sorry but i didn't see anywhere in there where op said that he went a year without seeing or talking to someone and even if he did he wanted to sort his thoughts out and gather his life back to where he was more comfy with dating again.
anyway, op, if she wasn't interested, in my opinion she would have never said "yes" when you asked her out on a date.
keep us up to date on how things go. | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:08:23 PM | | While you are out with her - remember to be open to her advances! Try and see where she is giving you signals before she needs to get a brick out and hit you over the head! She seems interested enough at this point to give you a chance - that's a good start! | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:14:51 PM | Half way into the visit she asked me if I was dating anyone,we exchanged numbers,she walked me out and gave me a hug,then said "yes" when I asked her if she wanted to go out to eat sometime.
IMHO ... if she asked you this half-way through, she is trying to qualify the buyer. yes, i think she's interested. if she walked you out & gave you a hug, i think she's interested.
but you need to call in a few days. if you don't, then you just lost momentum & showed your lack of interest. when you call you'll find out.
move forward as if she's interested b/c if you act doubtful, it looks like you're not interested in her. which, actually, are you? you said "maybe?" | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:58:37 PM |
Half way into the visit she asked me if I was dating anyone,we exchanged numbers,she walked me out and gave me a hug,then said "yes" when I asked her if she wanted to go out to eat sometime.
Dude, what else was she supposed to do to show her interest?
Rape you on the dinning room table? Hit you on the head?
Not everyone has a ManBat...
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 9:00:55 PM | Well, she's interested enough to have you over at her house AND accept a date with you for another night.
She's giving off the "I'm diggin' you" vibes, so I'd assume she was interested...but with some people, you just never know. Some people like to play games.
Go out with her and see what happens! You have nothing to lose, but a lot to gain. :-) Good luck! | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 9:04:35 PM | | Maybe the OP is just looking for an excuse to avoid the rejection opportunity... Or maybe he is hiding behind his wall from possible heartache down the road... Hmmm.... We can only guess.... | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 9:11:40 PM | | Just don't wait too long to find out. Like other replies go on body language, and tone of voice. I am one who speaks my mind, so when I am walking to her vehicle, I flat out ask if she would like to go out again. Her answer is your answer if she is interested or not. If not don't get down, and just say "next". That is what I do instead of dwelling. | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/27/2008 10:49:39 AM | | Your exactly right cow girl.Thanks for the defense.After an 11 year marriage(got married way to young at 19)and 3 children jumping into a relationship with someone I had feelings for just wasnt an option.I felt I needed to get myself and my priorities in order before I pursued a relationship with anyone much less with someone I care a great deal for.Her friendship means alot to me and I did'nt want to ruin that. | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/27/2008 12:23:33 PM | Just to give you some help since you didn't pick up on this one...
if she invites you back to her place for a drink at the end of a date.... it's more than likely not for just a drink :)
See, I just saved POF one thread in the future :) | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/28/2008 3:42:13 PM | | BigJohn you are a very witty,charming man!I can't imagine why a middle aged,balding,overweight,divorced,computer geek who answers advice on a "ask a girl" forum would need to join a dating site to get a date. Thanks for the sound advice.I am sure your very experienced with the dating scene. Oh yea,next time try coming up with your own material and stop ripping off Seinfeld skits. Hey,are you the real George Costanza? | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:37:15 AM | I think she is interested in a possible relationship with you!!
otherwise / having known u for the time-span u mention, she wld have declined, if she was not interested.
go-with-it. definately.
easy does it, ......she's willing to continue on.
all the best to u .
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:02:47 AM |
you're so money and you don't even know it
Well, thank you Vince Vaughn! Now, let's hope you don't leave voice mail messages like Jon Favreau - and we'll be all set! Meh, obscure movie reference - nevermind...
OT: She asked if you were dating anyone, hugged you AND said yes to going out? Um...hello?
I know it's common to want to double check to make sure you're not assuming too much when you really like someone, but in this case I think you're safe.
Good luck! | |
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:34:02 PM | hi,
not sure if OP still reads this...but i get the feeling she is interested...i would bet on this one...there is 1 clue give away if the OP desrcibed the scenario the way i'm reading it...
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| Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:41:11 PM | | I can't read another woman's mind, but for me, I wouldn't ask a man if he was dating unless I was interested in him. | |
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