| "Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???"
Posted: 4/29/2008 6:46:35 AM | I've heard that women judge men by the shoes they wear. I do think that some women might do this, however I think this makes very little sense.
Perhaps you might enlighten me. I suppose that the shoes are up for review, just like the clothes. I also get that the shoes should match the clothes. Is it that, you think is important? Or is it something else? Let's not forget that clothes/shoes are not always indicative of the person/personality inside.
Personally, I'm a jeans/cowboy-boots or running shoes casual kind of dresser. It depends on the situation. I'm definately not obsessive about clothes/shoes. I do think it's very important to be well-groomed, more than wearing expensive trendy clothes.
But then what do I know? Ladies: your opinions especially welcome. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 6:48:51 AM | Well, as someone who has about 40 pairs of shoes, maybe I shouldn't be answering this question. LOL
I think it is much less of an issue for guys than for the ladies. Most guys I know are always in jeans, so tennis shoes are cool for casual. I think when going out boots or Dockers are more appropriate but that is just me. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:16:27 AM | I was in a relationship with a man who wore Nike running shoes. They were black with velcro straps. There was a little red mark on the shoe (check mark emblem). In retrospect, this should have told me all about him.
Easy on, fast and a runner. He liked game playing and running around with other girls. Every woman he had been in relationships with, were classified as "jealous stalkers and insane." I know how they lost their sanity! While one side of his face professed his undying love and comittment, the other side was kissing some other girl!
Best Wishes and yes, I do check shoes. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:23:05 AM | | Like you, I'm not obsessive about shoes or clothes. Dressing appropriately for the occasion in shoes/clothes that are clean and in good condition is fine with me. What someone wears means far less than how they treat others. The qualities that make someone worth allowing into my life can't be bought, even from the trendiest or most expensive stores. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:29:51 AM | Hey OP,
We are all judged every waking minute of our lives by how we present ourselves, so the challenge I pose to you is being willing to abide by the consequences of our decisions as far as appearances go.
For instance, I am a frugal man, a humble man, and a practical man - as such I dress simply, efficiently and inexpensively. I'd much rather have an extra $1000 padding my bank account than have a flashy pair of designer jeans when a pair of regular Levis will do. I don't wear $150 dress shoes when I can find an equivalent at Sears for $60. I don't buy $300 sunglasses with some gay-designer's label on it when I can get a stylish and simple pair at a pharmacy for <$20. It just doesn't make sense to me... 
However I know full well that it WILL matter to some of the women I encounter... For those that it's a cardinal sin, I don't mind losing out on dating them as we wouldn't have gotten along in the first place having such contrasting views towards spending... I just take my hefty personal savings portfolio down the road in search of a simple lady that does understand the value of dollar and has some kind of sense of financial moderation... 
I'm not saying one shouldn't have nice things, but the definition of "nice" vs. "gaudy, tacky, glitzy, over-the-top, etc." is widely open to personal interpretation... Give me a simple woman any day of the week - then we can retire 15 years early together!   I'm on track towards that goal, how about you?  | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:30:02 AM | | As long as it isn't sandals and socks--actually--skip the sandals too. Running shoes or ok--I prefer boots of some sort---and no dress shoes with jeans--guys you can not pull that one off no matter what! For me--I stick with high heels with a bit of sparkle! | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:30:42 AM | | Small details speak volumes about people. Two men can be wearing the same pair of running shoes. One has a pair that are clean and have perfect laces, the other guy's are dirty and the laces are frayed. Subconciously, most people will perceive that the guy that takes care of those small details will also take greater care of the more important aspects in his life. I know that this is probably not as true in today's world as it was 40 years ago, but our minds don't always make decisions on facts. We tend to base subconcious decisions on instincts. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:08:11 AM | | i'm a minger.i wear a pair of 17 yr old trainers which are faded and creased but still got life in them (probably literally!) i do have boots and shoes etc for other occasions but mainly my mingers during the day. like walking on clouds they are | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:23:04 AM | Some women do this for sure, but not all, by any means. I don't notice shoes or clothing much unless it is particularly garish or inappropriate. I laugh at women wearing high heels for a walk in the countryside and I think that open-toed sandals on men are mostly yukky, but beyond that, who cares.
However, since you think it's "very important" to be "well-groomed" I'm sure you put more than enough thought into the appearance of your shoes. I'd be interested if they were vegan and fair trade, but other than that, so long as they don't reek, like my brother's, and so long as a person isn't going to make a huge melodrama out of getting a little mud on them, they're really not interesting at all. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:29:23 AM | | if you want to see the power of clothing choice,watch a player at work.perception is a powerfull tool.i have girlfriends who have asked me how to avoid a player.i tell them to be carefull of the well dressed. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:36:26 AM | | Hiking boots with the big tread on the bottom.....I'll carry in mud and make black marks on your floor......get you down on it to clean.....see what happens...? | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:51:06 AM | @Tigerwoods - I am confused as to what the style of a shoe has to do with cost?
I am a smart shopper. I don't believe it is necessary to shell out big money to look good. My sunglasses were $10...my favourite jeans were $35...my favourite purse was $15...not a slave to the big name brands.
I think what it comes down to is appropriateness. I think runners should be for running. There are great looking, reasonably priced street shoes that look high-fashion without the cost. They make a guy look like he made an effort to dress himself...and that is all a woman is looking for when she checks out a guys shoes...is he a slob who cannot be bothered or a guy that values his appearance and wants to put his best foot foward? (ew, bad pun)
I'll take the latter, thanks. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:57:25 AM | I think type of shoes are important, for both men and women. I can pretty much tell by type of shoes.
I wear dressy shoes most of the time and find ladies with dress-shoes more attractive than flip flops and gym-shoes. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 10:00:19 AM | Hmmm.....I have a HUGE shoe addiction (over 100 shoes..lol..). However, it is nice to see a man who cares about his appearance/attire. No, he doesn't have to have "1,000" pairs of shoes or the most expensive. Just give your outter (i.e. hygiene, appearance, etc......) some attention, as I am sure you enjoy viewing a woman who does so as well.
We aren't talking about someone that is high maintenance. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 10:21:19 AM | > I've heard that women judge men by the shoes they wear.
It's called a Woman's Right to Shoes.
Sorry - couldn't help ripping off the title of a Sex and the City episode...
Anyway, OP, when you hit on a pair that act like chick magnets, to the point where women are stopping to compliment you on them, then you'll become a True Believer, too. I know it makes little sense, but some things are better left unexamined too deeply. It's not the shoes per se, but rather that they just 'fit' the rest of you and what you're wearing especially well. Ok, I'm guessing. It's like magic, I tell you.
<<<------- Runs off to post pictures of his shoes on his profile, now that you bring the issue up...
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 10:26:43 AM | I judge women by the hiking boots they wear, or the lack thereof. 
Just kidding ... or at least mostly kidding, I certainly do notice. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 10:29:18 AM |
BurnleyBabe asked for clarification:
@Tigerwoods - I am confused as to what the style of a shoe has to do with cost?
I am a smart shopper. I don't believe it is necessary to shell out big money to look good. My sunglasses were $10...my favourite jeans were $35...my favourite purse was $15...not a slave to the big name brands.
I think what it comes down to is appropriateness.
And I couldn't agree with you more my dear, the point of my post was against those that aren't satisfied with clothing unless it has a popular brand name on it. You can have nice generic brand clothes that are still stylish, but SOME people will still think you're wearing rags because you don't have "Dolce & Gabana" printed on your personal articles (since I'm oblivious to trends, please feel free to insert whatever hip designer is currently the rage these days ).
I wouldn't wear runners on a date; I wear my generic polished black dress shoes I bought at Payless. If we're going out dancing, I clean up my comfortable dancing shoes. If we go hiking, I wear my walking boots, etc. I dress for the occasion, but short of my leather jacket or my formal suits, I don't own a single article of clothing that cost me over $60, unless it was a gift from a family member at x-mas time...
I hope that clears things up for you, you and I are on the same side of the issue | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 10:48:18 AM | Not so much by what (name brand/expensive) but by appropriateness.if you are wearing tennis shoes on a date and we're not going for a long walk/sports activity, then is it appropriate?
Granted I wear cowboy boots when I wear some suits. Why? A. because I like the look, b.) i can pull it off, c.) they are appropriate boots (well cared for, polished etc).
Yeah, if she's wearing a set of berkies in January here, i'm wondering.... | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:22:06 PM | | I think it's more about the details. When a man cares enough to realize what shoes he should or should not be wearing with a certain outfit...is a sure sign that he cares enough about his appearance to impress you. Personally, the first thing I notice on a man is his teeth and second is his shoes. Now don't get me wrong...it's not about the name/size etc. it's about whether they are well kept or not. I've heard of men doing the same with finger nails/toe nails on women. It's all about the details. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:28:06 PM | I once worked for a woman who made a really big deal about the shoes her employees wore. I worked in the paint department and she still wanted us wearing decent shoes when we wore our uniforms off the grounds. However she did reimburse us for the extra pair of shoes as long as we didn't go out in public with the paint covered ones.
She said shoes were the first thing she looked at when she interviewed a potential employee. | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:34:54 PM | I was judged by my flip flops I wore on a date w/ a guy from POF ,but he cried when he got lost in the rain picking me up for the date!
He took me too a place nicer than I realized had I know I wouldn't have worn the flip flops. I had a limited wardrobe at the time.I think what it really came down to is the night didn't go as he wanted it to and he became passive/aggressive when he didn't get his way.Alternating from saying I was cute, sexy, smelled good to ripping me to shreds over wearing the flip flops! Ouch! | |
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| Judging me by the shoes I'm wearing???
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:48:11 PM | | There is an old movie where Robert Redford played a con man. He told his cohorts to check every prospective client's shoes first. If they were expensive, that told them there was money to be made (stolen) from them. | |
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