| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:14:15 AM | I have been on POF for a little over a year now! I am sincere about meeting someone ,and willing to give to make a good relationship work. I have been fortunate to have met some really nice guys with everything going for them...but!.. yes, the infamous but?....bad teeth, visible decay, yellow and missing teeth.....but! ...Yes...another But!... these same men pull up in new vehicles, motorcycles, own homes, businesses and have jobs! Why will they spend the money on a toy, but not on a good dentist? This has been the case at least 4 times in that last year for me.
Is it rude to ask people over the phone if they have a hygenic mouth?
I can't date a man I can't kiss! So tell me people what gives?"?"? | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:37:19 AM | Try kissing with your eyes closed.
It's taken me a lot of time and money to get mine the proper shade of "Starbucks amber" -- you know, that color when you've added just the right amount of half-and-half? -- so it's not so much neglect as it is different, er, tastes in what looks 'right'.
VVVV - Yea, I'd like to see that transcript, too! Did you say coffee?
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:40:48 AM |
Is it rude to ask people over the phone if they have a hygenic mouth?
I dunno if it's rude or not, but I will pay to see the transcript of that conversation.
I can't date a man I can't kiss! So tell me people what gives?"?"?
So, don't date them.
Meet them for a coffee and if you find that you are not attracted to them then say that you are not seeing that it will develop any further.
And, if you meet someone and you like everything BUT their teeth, then pass them the number of your dentist....
Who knows, they might decide to have them fixed and you will live happily ever after.
There is no rule that you have to kiss every dude you meet, you know that?
I dunno... I did not really meet anyone whose teeth were gross...
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:57:41 AM | Out of curiousity which is it you object to, an unhygenic mouth or an unattractive one, because they're not the same. There's a difference between someone who doesn't brush his teeth, etc and someone who is missing teeth and/or has just not had braces.
And you shouldn't blame it on the men TOO much.. i think for both men and women this is mostly related to how they were raised (ie whether they had parents who made that a priority). | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:23:09 PM | | We don't all make our decisions based on our up bringing , the men I am questioning are grown- ups with choices, buy a boat, truck etc?... or get my teeth fixed. Do they want ladies to kiss them?...or just admire them from afar in their shiney cars???? | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:28:05 PM | OP you want to fight? What's up with that? If he is investing in the wrong things then perhaps he is just not good for you. But does that mean you should try and bring him down. There are women who I don't agree with their attitudes and decisions but I'm not going to try and bring them down because of it. It doesn't do anything for me. But if you want someone to agree with you. I'll say yes OP there are times when I think some people prioritize incorrectly.  | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:29:26 PM | Uhhhmmm.... you can always put it in your profile that a nice smile is really important to you.
I dunno what else to say... am cranky but not in a menwithbadteeth bashing mood.
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:31:18 PM | Or some people just may not realize their teeth are in bad condition? You know, some people brush their teeth, go on with their day, and don't realize it?
It's hard to say you can't notice missing teeth but seriously. Not everyone pays attention to it. Kind of like body odor. Just because you have it doesn't mean you notice it. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 12:38:23 PM | | Totally misunderstood here!... no men bashing intended! Only an opinion of the men as to what the theory is here? As I have said I have met gentlemen that have alot going for them, yet the choose to neglect their teeth. Dental and physical health is a priority to me! The question here is ....when talking on the phone prior to meeting is it rude to ask a man what he teeth are like? Men seem to have no problem talking about other health issues! They talk about how they have lost weight or go to a gym. I guess I need to know more? How do I do that? ....We all talk about jobs, family and homes. Is is rude to ask how they take care of their teeth??????? | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:50:14 PM |
Is is rude to ask how they take care of their teeth???????
I don't think its rude to ask. Now if he is self conscious about his mouth for whatever reason then it may be different. You seem like you know how to approach a guy without being abrasive. That is why I thought perhaps you wanted a different response. But I'll say some women who come across that way can build resentment from some guys. And some wont ever let you know if you can't figure it out. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:17:04 PM | | So after meeting a man, and liking everything about him!....except for his teeth do I tell him so?...and what do I tell him?...he is great!.. but the teeth?....or do I suggest he visit a dentist and then call me? Advice boys! Please !..I do value your opinions.My reasoning here is ... just yesterday this was the case. I met him for coffee, his looks, disposition ,attidude, personality, everything was right!@...and then the guarded smile (he is self conscious of the teeth, I know it!)...and said nothing. I smile and said nothing, we talked about everything else. I left the meeting thinking.....Great guy!, I could see this working, but what's with the teeth???? | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:19:50 PM | Someone already asked but you didn't answer op.
Is it cleanliness your disliking or the fact that maybe braces would have been a good idea when they were younger?
If you are including people that needed braces there are a couple different reasons for not having them done later in life.
1. If they had a bad over/underbite the jaw would likely have to be broken first and reset so that the braces could be done. My mom had to have this done and she says its a toss up weather or not she would do it again. And all of you who had them growing up know how painful they can be, now imagine a broken jaw on top of it. Mine were so bad I couldn't eat anything solid three weeks out of a month.
2. Another reason for it could be they are comfortable just the way they are and do not see it as a fault.
3. I'll throw in a third reason. Phobia. They are simply terrified of the dentist and will not go.
If thye don't brush thier teeth ok thats gross, missing teeth aren't that great either but depending on how bad the damage is the boat might be the cheaper of the two costs.
As far as how to tell them like another poster said just put in your profile that you value a nice smile, somewhere on the top so the skimmers are more likely to catch it. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:29:10 PM |
I have been on POF for a little over a year now! I am sincere about meeting someone ,and willing to give to make a good relationship work. I have been fortunate to have met some really nice guys with everything going for them...but!.. yes, the infamous but?....bad teeth, visible decay, yellow and missing teeth.....but! ...Yes...another But!... these same men pull up in new vehicles, motorcycles, own homes, businesses and have jobs! Why will they spend the money on a toy, but not on a good dentist? This has been the case at least 4 times in that last year for me.
Is it rude to ask people over the phone if they have a hygenic mouth?
I can't date a man I can't kiss! So tell me people what gives?"?"?
Maybe as a first date you should meet for a teeth cleaning.
On the second date you'll feel better sitting in his home trying to figure out how to get possession of it. 
** couldn't help but have some pretentious fun with the topic**
Of course that is a very rude question..... Do you douche every day?
How does that question make you feel? | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:31:56 PM | | My issue is not with crooked teeth, or natural imperfections, my concern is with yellow, visible decay, and missing teeth. This is caused by neglect, and causes bad breath and other health issues over time. Not to mention it is very unattractive. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:32:25 PM | | It's not to say your priority if right, wrong or indifferent, it's just that it's yours and you are the one that has to own the consequences. Similarly, a lot of men I know exclude all women with a BMI over 20, needless to say they are still alone. I would venture to say that everyone reading this post, if they are honest can say they have criteria though not the same as yours, but are deal breakers none the less. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:37:56 PM | That's not very nice! How does healthy teeth have anything to do with his house???
...and if you(My I) want to talk about female odour bring it on!....if a woman smells or tastes bad it is because of poor health , virus , infections, and medications. Douching is not recommended by any doctor if you are healthy. So!...no I don't need to douch because I am healthy and smell good!!!! | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:55:42 PM | | To Noisy Neighbour, read the previous, this is not a man bashing session at all I was faced with a situation and brought it up to discussion and advice. , of other men. I asked a valid question on how to address a situation. Please contribute ,stick to the topic and your intelligent opinion would be appreciated., otherwise find another thread. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 2:16:24 PM |
Why will they spend the money on a toy, but not on a good dentist? At a guess, the experience of going to a dentist is not enjoyable at all. First of all you have to make a phone call, schedule an appointment, turn up on time... Then you have to lie back, passive, accept judgement, let someone else be in control, allow someone to cause you pain without fighting back... It's not exactly 'manly' to care so much about your health or your appearance that you would be willing to make efforts such as this to maintain a small aspect of it. And go back to the part where you have to lie there passively whilst some bloke in a white coat hurts you. It's not appealing. I bit a dentist once, but I was a child and could get away with it. I hate the passive aspect of it and I'm sure the average man hates this more than the average woman.
It's certainly not as appealing as buying a new toy which will distract you from the need for dental work. There is logic there, it's simply logic that places a lower priority on health and appearance and a higher priority of dignity and being in control than the average woman might do. That's my opinion anyway. | |
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