| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:01:37 PM | This phrase ("Young at Heart") is an instant negative for me when reading someone's profile. I interpret this to mean something like " I know I'm old because I'm counting the years but I can still behave like I'm young a little bit if I try" or something like that.
I see this a lot in the 40 - 50 group and I shake my head. I know this 91 year old guy who skis 60 to 70 days a year and hits the 2000' double black diamond run on his birthday just to prove he still can. Now THAT guy is "young at heart" and he is loooooooooong past 50.
Why is everyone (or some people anyway) in such a hurry to be old?
Do you consider 40, 50 or 60 to be "old" ? What's with these numbers anyway? - they're kinda irrelevant aren't they? Shouldn't we just go like hell until we drop? | |
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| Young At Heart
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:20:43 PM | I think people say "young at heart" because some people seem to think human beings loses value as they age. It is an effort perhaps on their part to say, even though my body has aged, my heart has not. It still holds joy, love, and laughter, and I , as a person, have value. I do not dismiss people for saying this.
I usually just say " I was born a brat, and I'll die a brat!" | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:57:27 PM |
I interpret this to mean something like " I know I'm old because I'm counting the years but I can still behave like I'm young a little bit if I try" or something like that.
I also interpret as an indirect way of some advertising they are cougars or dogs.... depending on gender. They don't want to place age restrictions on their profile (avoid criticism - usually from their own children) but they definitely want younger flesh.
As well... after reading a few profiles that make such a claim, they seem to be suggesting their peers are boring and not as lively as they are. Which, in turn, I interpret it as saying they haven't matured emotionally or mentally... just physically and sexually - which does nothing but achieve orgasms and appointments at the clinic. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:13:17 PM | I'm old ........ And I'm not afraid to be old anymore!
What's wrong with being old? What I'm discovering is that it's just another stage of life. I can still play like a kid with my friends. I still have a good sense of humor and an ability to enjoy life. My body just hurts more these days........ I quit roller blading at 50.......I don't need to be young forever. I'm looking forward to living the rest of my years accepting my age and enjoying it in different ways then I maybe I enjoyed life at 20 or 30......... | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:55:01 PM | I guess I just don't believe that 40, 50 or even 60 equates with being "old".
I think being "old" for many tends to be a premature lifestyle choice. I consider 70 to be the begining of "old". So when I see someone in their 40's using the phrase "young at heart" I wonder why they think of themselves that way. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:06:59 AM | If you wanna know what age old is? Ask a 20 something what "they" consider old. I do believe that it's the 50th birthday that is considered.. "over the hill". Although.. my youngest son just told me a couple of days ago.. he considers the day one turns 50 as the "plateau".. then.. it's alllll downhill from there.
I agree with friendlyldy on this one though.. I'm too old to be considered a "youngen"(always one of the oldest at most concerts for the music I like).. and too young in my personality (collecting winnie-the-pooh memorabilia) to be considered too old. I've experienced enough (thanx to POF's crash course in.. "dating") to not be stupid in falling for the tricks and games of the players (usually those a decade or two younger). So.. if with age comes wisdom(?).. I'm just at the right age to consider myself growing old.. and darn proud of it! JMO | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:13:55 AM | My sister cried buckets of tears when she turned 30 - she figured she was old.
Any age is what you make of it, whine and complain, or smile, and kick a**! | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 2:54:33 PM | This phrase ("Young at Heart") is an instant negative for me when reading someone's profile. I interpret this to mean something like " I know I'm old because I'm counting the years but I can still behave like I'm young a little bit if I try" or something like that.....Why is everyone (or some people anyway) in such a hurry to be old?
Do you consider 40, 50 or 60 to be "old" ? .... I just don't believe that 40, 50 or even 60 equates with being "old".....I think being "old" for many tends to be a premature lifestyle choice. I consider 70 to be the begining of "old". So when I see someone in their 40's using the phrase "young at heart" I wonder why they think of themselves that way.
Yes, I agree about this point and wonder the same thing. I don't think it's about 'accepting your age' or accepting yourself or your stage in life. Has nothing to do with that. To me, if you think that way, it means you are thinking about yourself a certain way, making in essense a 'premature lifestyle choice.' I just live. I just live the way I've always lived. I don't think about my age until something or someone reminds me of it....but for me it is not an issue and does not define me. That doesn't mean I act immaturely or like a kid: I haven't done that since my 20's....I don't intentionally act or behave or live one way or another based on a perception of myself and what age is supposed to mean or not mean....it's just a non-issue for me. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 3:43:21 PM | For me...young at heart means...you still have your innocent need to love and to be loved. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 3:59:31 PM | | What about the person who has gotten a heart transplant? If it came from a younger person then they would not be lying. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:07:06 PM | When I see "Young At Heart" on someones profile, I consider it a positive thing.
To me, they are saying that they haven't grown bitter over some of the dissappointments we all encounter along the way.
Hell, I'm just happy to still be alive and, therefore, still have opportunities to enjoy what life offers. I 'knew' a lot of people that no longer have that option.
just a thought | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:26:32 PM |
I don't need to be young forever. I agree.
I really do wonder why people strive to 'be young'.
I personally think it's kinda neat to be the age I am.  I honestly don't see anything wrong with being 55. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:44:27 PM |
Shouldn't we just go like hell until we drop?
Well, that's what I intend to do. It's what my Mom did. And, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:50:33 PM |
"Why is everyone (or some people anyway) in such a hurry to be old?
Do you consider 40, 50 or 60 to be "old" ? What's with these numbers anyway? - they're kinda irrelevant aren't they? Shouldn't we just go like hell until we drop? "
Where? Who? I can't see anyone in a hurry to be old....I do, however, see people who have suffered due to diseases, physical infirmities, etc., who have relinquished their mind, heart and sould to being old because they can no longer do the things they love to do.
Consider 40, 50 or 60 to be old? Nah, but then, it's all relevant to the point where each of us is in our lives, right? Myself, I plan on going on as long as I can doing whatever I can right up until I no longer move.
By the way, gravity works... | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 6:54:28 PM | When I was a little girl there was some geriatric advertisement on commercial...that had the song "young at heart" on it...might have been for bladder control under garments or fiber drinks for constipation I have no idea....I was too young.
However, when I read that phrase "young at heart" now?
That's all I imagine.
Old people in slumped wheelchairs, drooling and losing soup onto their chests.
Ack!
You are as old and fragile as you feel.
I have spent the last several months devoting mys spare time to forcing myself to do the things I LOVED doing as a child. Riding my bike, swimming, walking, playing.
I am re-teaching myself how to play.
Yes, on a playground.
And no, I don't have grand children.
Remember how carefree and fun it was to hang upside down and swing - how silly and wild and free the world felt when you were hanging by your ankles?
Sure, my body aches a bit every now and then, and yeah, my thigh and azz muscles scream after I have forced them to ride bike all day long up and down hills, around curves and all over town.
But......there's many, many, many years ahead of me to sit on my azz looking outside and thinking about being young and able.
Why rush it?
Go like hell til we drop! | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:02:07 PM | I, too wonder about the age emphasis here, in general. I do see agism in the forums, too. I don't get it. I like my age, and like my friend Eleanor, I am always the same age inside.
Personally, if a man is looking for someone only younger than himself, then I am not interested. I had the funniest exchange with a man once. I said not interested, he said why, I said you want someone younger, he said you are younger, you ARE young enough for me, I said for me, it is important someone have the same world view and part of that is how chronological age is not important, he said you ARE the age I want, I said LISTEN - YOU want a certain age, and I don't think I like that, and I have the right to have preferrences too!! He still didn't quite understand. Either he though I had no right to also make choices, or his hearing had gone.
Now it's funny, then it was rather irritating. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:09:36 PM | If I read a profile in which the man says he is "young at heart," "looks younger than his age," "feels younger," or "acts younger," it is an instant turnoff for me, too.
It insinuates that the rest of we old codgers act old at heart, look older than our ages, feel ancient, and act as if we are about to drop in the grave. I always think it is an ad for younger women (or men). Anyone who feels the NEED to tell people that he/she looks or acts younger is insecure and afraid of aging.
How is an age supposed to act? How does that person judge his/her actions and how he/she feels?
It is also about believing one's press report. I almost snort (in laughter) when someone says, "I look younger--everyone tells me so." What else are they going to say--"Oh, wow, you are 55? You look much older!"?
Life expectancy has increased by more than seven years since I was a child; this is what 55 looks like, and it feels good. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:18:02 PM | I don't know who wrote the following quote, but I think it is great........
"How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are."  | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:48:45 PM | I think it is important to always excude "life" at all times. Give people "life" when you are around them. Stay positive, happy, and giving.. Always leave someone's presence having lifted them up.. not torn them or someone else down.
As my 94 year old grandpa used to say... "age is just a number.. keep your mind active".. He recovered fully after two strokes in his 80's where he lost the ability to type his lessons (he was a retired minister and taught the older adult Sunday school class every Sunday till he died) he kept on working on himself.. every day to learn new things.. fully recovered ALL his faculties after the strokes.. and lived another 6 or 7 years.
So for me being young at heart means:
You take time to laugh with a friend
You remain playful
Getting on the floor and playing with a baby is not uncharacteristic for you
Being excited about something new in your life
You enjoy being around younger people -
You'll try new things
You stay up with all the new gadgets
My mother was young at heart. In her 80's she behaved like she was in her 60's.. All her close girlfriends whom she hung around with were at least 20 years younger than her. She could pick out my clothes and I actually liked them!!! We would have late night conversations where we would discuss men and dating. She was so cool!!! I miss her every day and hope to be like her when I am 80.
I had a great aunt Emma who was young at heart. Always had an off color joke to tell us whipper snappers.. and was always laughing!! | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:51:03 PM | Do you consider 40, 50 or 60 to be "old" ? Nope.
What's with these numbers anyway? They're stats. Most people want stats cuz they live by them, make all their important decisions based upon them.
- they're kinda irrelevant aren't they? Not if you need to know how long elephants live compared to, say, titmice.
Shouldn't we just go like hell until we drop? You mean like every other animal on earth? Huh-uh, nope, we're the smart species, if you discount porpoises, dolphins, maybe whales.
[quote}For me...young at heart means...you still have your innocent need to love and to be loved.{/quote]
That's pretty much right where I live. Took a 5-hour hike through the woods today, with a friend, and told her I never think of my "age" from this side of the eyes, unless I see reflected in someone else's. I don't ache, never had an operation, don't take pills, play on edges, kick leaves, hunger for, well, almost everything, and slide into all kinds of bases. I hug trees, but I don't want to live like 'em. There's quick and there's dead. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2008 8:19:43 PM | ooooh..goodie, I just turned 46 so I get to post on this board! See how getting older is great! I also don't mind getting older for as a runner I get bumped up into new age groups, which means I win more medals since my running times haven't slowed since my 20's... now if I could just get them faster...lol...
Truthfully, I don't understand this age thing...I meet people 10 years younger than me that seem old as coots and then I meet ultra marathoners in their late 50's that run circles around me. I just don't know when "old" kicks in, so I think the larger question is, "Are you old physically?" For I know many people that are "young at heart," but their physical limitations limit what they can actually do, and this makes people seem older. If I meet someone and he can't participate in athletic activities with me, he's going to seem "too old" even if he is younger...and "young at heart."
So this is why people having a healthy lifestyle (like not smoking! :-)) is important to me. But I know the physical decline catches up to everyone eventually, and that will be my only regret in getting older... seems like a cruel trick to give us all this boundless ability and then slowly take it all away... | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 8:24:42 PM | Young at heart is another way of saying " I look like crap, I can't walk , dance, have sex, not even poop like I used to, but I'm hot because I think so!"
cheerios!  | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/11/2008 8:29:28 PM | My heart is ancient.
The rest of me is doing okay.
I don't need to feel young "again".
I never got old.
I just need something to make my heart sing. | |
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| Young At Heart ???
Posted: 10/12/2008 12:34:19 AM |
Young at heart is another way of saying " I look like crap, I can't walk , dance, have sex, not even poop like I used to, but I'm hot because I think so!"
OK, gotta clean the screen, lol. | |
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