| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:15:21 AM | I found a thread on this subject on the NFLD forum and think it's valid here as well.
This has been a problem for me and I need a solution. I'm single, I want to go out and have fun but am shy to go out alone. So, I need some single gals to get thru the door with, you know what I'm saying? I've found that it's tough for me to enter a party place, club, dance hall, !bar! alone.
As a teenager, we all moved thru the social events of our lives en masse. We never even went to the powder room alone! Now, I should be able to brave it thru and head out alone, but I just can't make myself do it. I need a posse!
Anybody else have this problem? How should I handle or cure it????????I just want to go  in the 'real' world sometimes. | |
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:25:47 PM | | Absolutely Lady Mara...I feel uncomfortable going out to a pub by myself. As a woman, that's just like announcing that you want to be hit on. I don't get along with most women very well and never have ( I went to the powder room ALONE in high school and still do). lol. So my solution is to have a few good PLATONIC male friends to hang out with. The deal with this one is that you have to KEEP it platonic and not cross those boundaries EVER. My best friend is a man I met here and he is my favorite side-kick for going out anywhere. POF can be used for MORE than just dating/romantic partners. | |
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:20:34 PM | As a woman, that's just like announcing that you want to be hit on.
Sorry UDG I have to disagree,I go out to the bar's alone all the time,most of my friends are married or in a long term realionships.
I'm not looking for a one night stand,but if a gentleman comes over asks me to dance or wants to buy me a drink I accept, but that doesn't mean i'm going home with him.
I think anyone that is on a dating site or at a bar is asking to be hit on,in one way or the other.
Maybe i'm taking your response the wrong way?If so by all means please except my apologizes!
On to the OP's question.If I want to go out and no one is going,I refuse to sit home by myself,I did that for too many years.I guess keeping that in the back of my mind helps !
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:11:03 PM | i was and still am like that.i have met a few great women on here,and we try to get out at least once a month.it's not alot,but just to have adult time is great.
if you don't have women friends and a great man friend go out with him.the only problem i see in this is.....some men may read this as him being your hubby or boyfriend.thats if you may want to meet a man while your out.or trying to meet others of the oppisite sex.
try joining a group,like a bowling team,darts,a book club....anything that well get you out and meet new people. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 4:17:38 PM | | LOL..yes and no both Angel/Princess. You took it both the right way AND the wrong way I guess. I should have been more specific: when I myself go out to a pub alone, getting hit on is what happens and since I don't enjoy the experience I avoid it. I didn't me to imply that this is true all the time for all women although, I admit looking back at my post, it looks that way. Sorry if I stepped on toes. As to crazygurl's pointing out that if I have my male buddy with me, men will assume I'm with him romantically, I'm ok with that too. lol. I've never met a man I wanted to keep in a bar and I know you should never say never but I'm betting that I won't. Each to his own. The club idea is great Crazygurl! | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 1:30:52 PM | | lol udg.the clubs are fun and i enjoy dancing and meeting lots of new people.you never know what may happen.i'm open to any places that gets me out and i enjoy.you never know where you may meet that special someone for you.i never close the door at any chance to meet someone new.plus it's just soooo much fun!!! | |
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:45:42 AM | Thanks for the input, actually I DO belong to a single's group in my city, however I find it difficult to go to those events alone too. I'm a hopeless case I guess, way too old-fashioned.
I like your idea, Goddess, of having a male friend to tag along with, I may give that a try. The bowling idea is also a good one, Crazy, and I like to bowl. The single's group go bowling regularly and entering that facility alone isn't as hard as entering a bar.
Now that I'm finally officially divorced I may feel less like a 'cheater' when I go out. I"ve felt like I was still married(and I was, in law) to my X and that if I dated I was cheating. Now that it's no longer the case, perhaps I can relax more and do more.
Just last evening, while working a banquet, I received a nice compliment about how I look. I don't think of myself as good looking in any way, but, a gentleman there went out of his way to tell me that I was a very good-looking woman. I was suprised, it sure made my day, week and month! Maybe thinking about him & what he said will make it easier to go out on the town from now on.
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Posted: 5/6/2008 6:00:51 AM | going to the bar by myself would never happen!i feel weird doing it to.so don't feel out of place.theres lots who feel this way.for those who can right on!!to me that takes alot.
get out there,go bowling,have fun.be you.a man who says your pretty well make your selfesteem go up.have fun with it,let the inner you shine!!! | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 6:02:43 AM |
I"ve felt like I was still married(and I was, in law) to my X and that if I dated I was cheating.
It took over a year for myself to not feel like I was cheating as well lady mara,actually I couldn't even think of dating for over a year and even then it was hard.And if you have a ex like mine they like to keep you on a string while their actively pursuing someone else,making it harder to move on.
Maybe thinking about him & what he said will make it easier to go out on the town from now on.
Whatever helps you to get out is a good thing lady mara,use his compliment as a tool for yourself.If you feel good about who you are,it's much easier to go places alone.
When I was in Moncton last year I went to O'Briens to the POF karaoke night had a blast. My last night in Moncton I had noone to go out with so I went to O'Briens alone again had a great time, actually met up with a couple, when they were on the Island they dropped in for a visit.
Sometimes going to a bar means sucking it up,the uncomfortable feeling doesn't last that long and in my experience well worth a little discomfort.
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Posted: 5/10/2008 4:01:08 PM | I find it very difficult to go to events by myself. I have went to a few POF parties alone and they were fun but I had a much better time when a good friend of mine was in town and came with me.
I am sort of in the same boat you are, I don't really know many people in Moncton and the ones I do know are either married or otherwise attached. I have told myself countless times that I am going to get ready and go out but I never do. In my defense I don't really find it much fun to sit in a bar by myself so it sort of seems pointless to me. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 4:24:19 PM | It helps that I was a bartender/waitress for most of my life.I have always felt comfortable in that type of environment.
I am never sitting alone for long,and no I don't mean men are falling over themselves to sit with me.
I am natuarally always happy and smiling which attracts both sexes.
It all really comes back to confidence and being comfortable with who you are.
Just my opinion!
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Posted: 5/10/2008 10:48:13 PM | | I don't know that confidence has anything to do with it really. I haven't gone out often in the last say 10 years and for me to go out by myself when I know it would not be much fun just seems to defeat the purpose. I go out to have fun and I just don't find going out (club or bar) alone much fun. Going to a restaurant, movie, museum, etc...alone I have no problem with but even this is more fun if you are sharing it with someone else. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 4:40:50 AM | I go out to have fun and I just don't find going out (club or bar) alone much fun
It is what you make it.
Going to a restaurant, movie, museum, etc...alone I have no problem with but even this is more fun if you are sharing it with someone else.
Everything is more fun shared with someone.I don't think anyone would argue with that.
Happy Mothers Day! | |
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:32:33 PM | Well all my friends got kids or have moved away so i have started to go out on own dont care what people think always end up being chatted up girl or man will say come and join us its so nervours as i dont drink either am out in a club this sat on own what can you do i got chatted up twice in the saw section of b and q last week funny  | |
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:33:02 PM | It really is a hard thing to do, as a woman, to go 'out' alone. It takes a lot of self confidence to do it without looking like a 'pick-up' or a 'Ho' as it has been lately termed. I think a lone woman has to be careful just where she goes on her own too. There are some places where it's perfectly OK to be by yourself, coffee shops for instance.
The singles' group I belong to makes it OK for me to enter alone where ever they are having a dance or event, so I go to those things alone without a worry. But in this city any woman going into a bar or pub on her own is deemed to be up for grabs. So, I don't do that.
Thanks for your input, d123x, it's good to know how things work in other places. | |
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| single gals/guys with no same sex friends to go out with
Posted: 10/2/2009 2:33:49 PM | | HI HUn no problem i sopose if you have a bad reputation for going with men then yes you could be classed as a ho trouble is havent had a boyfriend for 3 years my choice plenty of offers too picky , I love going out on own they stare at me watch me and very scared they approach I can hold my own yes I am very confident and boy do I talk internet dating have tried and not found any one in 3 years i like its so difficult but no love going outt if famous people do it alone i can lol good luck any way how ever you end up just make sure you go to classy places you should be ok i dont drink so i alway drive myself home safer that way good luck girls mwa xxx | |
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