| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:18:59 AM | | I am in a relationship with a great lady, but I still like to surf peoples' profiles. I just like to read what they say about themselves, and see the pictures they put up. I don't write any of them, as I am not looking for anything other than entertainment. Is this bad of me? | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:22:10 AM | | what do you mean by entertainment? i guesse there is no harm in it if you honestly arnt looking for anything or anyone else. im in a realtionship, and i dont look at others profiles, ive never really thought about it! | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:25:01 AM | do you not have a circle of friends for entertainment purposes?
if im honest i find it a little concerning that youre surfing single peoples profiles for entertainment | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:26:10 AM | | If surfing other peoples profiles without writing them is the greatest sin you've committed in your relationship than I would say you're doing okay. Personally I'm in a relationship and I adore the guy I'm with but sometimes if I'm in the forum section and I read a really funny response I'll check that persons profile out. To be honest I never even thought about the possibility that it would seem wrong. I know that my intentions are innocent curiosity so i feel no guilt surrounding it. If you don't feel like what you're doing is wrong then it probably isn't. However if you are racked by guilt for browsing profiles maybe you aren't be honest with yourself regarding your true intentions. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:27:15 AM | | yes I think its wrong of you to be checking out other women when you have a "great lady". | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:32:33 AM | Wow^^^ restrictive much?
Anyway... if your intent is to only read and enjoy what they look like and what they have to say, Op... then I say "wheres the harm" . However; if you have ulterior motives (subconciously perhaps??) then that would be tempting yourself then wouldn't it?
It's no different then gazing at a Maxium Mag. or, admiring an attractive person while people watching I say. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:32:54 AM | First off I can't believe someone has marked him for trolling - attention seeking.
He just may be, but I'm sure he isn't.
Anyway, I dunno, if you're reading some of these girls profiles and desiring some of them, then yeah I guess it's wrong because you're with someone.
I really don't see why reading them for entertainment purposes is 'concerning' though, which the other guy said. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:35:43 AM | **if you're reading some of these girls profiles and desiring some of them, then yeah I guess it's wrong.**
This is it in a nutshell: it's not the action, it's the intent. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:35:54 AM | | Does she know?? Would it be alright for her to know??? I think the person you should be asking is her...not us. Is surfing profiles worth losing her trust in you?? I think it's dangerous myself!!! | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:37:29 AM | | restrictive much??? if you are in a relationship with a great person why are you on a DATING SITE checking out other persons profiles???? How about being respectful for the person you are with!? | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:37:55 AM | I cant see any harm in it as your profiles states not looking ,so your not decieving anyone, unlike some that are looking and married. At least your honest | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:39:00 AM | Yes that is bad of you. It is just another form of cheating. Who knows, you might find a profile and a picture that you think fits you perfectly and you can not resist. Your looking at profiles could mean that you are not quiet sure of the relationship you are in now. Would you want your partner to be looking also?
There have been a lot of divorces because the man or the woman got online just to look. They had no idea they would find someone they could not resist and that it would break up their marriage. Many people have lived to regret ever getting online.
It is not right to break someone' heart because of what you do online. It is always best to break up with the person BEFORE one gets on line "looking". | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:41:09 AM | | and yes it is different then looking at magizines geeeeeeeeezeus! you don't talk or meet with a model in a magizine, or flirt...communicate with the chick in the mag! when he checks a womens profile out that woman pretty much believes hes interested! | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:41:16 AM | | If its something you hide from her, then it probably is not a good idea, but if you are ok with her knowing and she's ok with you doing I see no problem with that. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:41:55 AM |
This is it in a nutshell: it's not the action, it's the intent.
Yup. If he just saw a woman walking down the street or on the TV and he desired her, that'd be different. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:42:42 AM | You're not bad, but why risk temptation? Maybe there's a few message boards that fit your hobbies instead.
I don't think you should have a picture up, and you should have your profile hidden. Otherwise, you are apparently looking for attention in addition to your girlfriends. Not good, not good for a relationship. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:43:01 AM | | So long as you are not messaging them then surf away. It's when you start to get the urge to message them that it would start being a problem. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:44:17 AM | I'm going by what the opening post says. If that is his true intent.. to just read and not contact... then I find no harm in this.... as long as it is his true intent to just look.
His profile states he's found someone and is just here for the forums... A lot of you people read more into what the oposter poses to you then what they actually say. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:47:01 AM | | It is TEMPTATION....like eve and the apple lol....... if tempted to long, who knows what you will do......JMO...... get off POF spend time with your girl, and spend time with friends....In REAL life! | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:47:11 AM | | I dunno though, now that I think about it, there's nothing wrong with a guy looking at a porn mag or film if he's got a woman, and obviously he's looking in it too feel the desire for other women. So I'm not sure there's any difference, except that the women on here are more 'real' if you know what I mean, and most are here to be with someone, so maybe he could be putting himself in the line of temptation? I dunno. | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:49:54 AM | It is TEMPTATION....like eve and the apple lol....... if tempted to long, who knows what you will do......JMO...... get off POF spend time with your girl, and spend time with friends....In REAL life!
Yeah, he shouldn't risk it. But then again maybe he should 'know' that he'll always be faithful? | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:53:54 AM | reference -mess.(1)
This media is no more than taking a wish book catalog from sears, any sporting magizine, any periodical anywhere to read advetisements to gain knowledge of the product-- where here its people or be entertained at what ever level you might have an interest.
I also use it for entertainment purposes reading profiles to learn about people from other areas of the u.s.a. or the world.
When in a relationship I feel trust is the most inportant element one can have from their s/o, and trust being extended to each other. One on one committments should never have an element of doubt about this internet media - it vertiual reality w/o contacts unless you make it that way.
If looking for friendship --thats one level of entertainment --where as if you cheating then that another level one should stay away from.
Open honest viewing for profile readings and the forums there is nothing wrong with it.
Whereas if you looking for a new realationship or something on the sly then your are responsible for your actions and the reactions from your mate might be just the opposite.
You are thus responsible for you own actions at whatever level you are reviewing.
remember its you choice to defend! the truth stands on its on! L_O_L !!! | |
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| is it wrong to surf profiles?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:59:25 AM |
if you are in a relationship with a great person why are you on a DATING SITE checking out other persons profiles? I am here for the forums, and personally don't feel anything wrong with looking. My g/f and I people watch when we are together, so I assume she does so when we are not. It is actually quite interesting to read a post and then try to justify it with their profile (some people never say the same thing twice!) She knows I am on here, and reads my posts. Trust is about respect -- if it is disrespcetful to have interests outside of your immediate relationship, then I guess you would be better off dating a cat! IF someone is going to cheat on you, they are going to do it regardless. IF looking is cheating, then I think we are all guilty of infidelity. | |
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