| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 12:43:30 PM | A girl who I go to school with, and was privately in complete lust over, met up with me for a study break. with one of her girlfriends. She had no idea how I feel about her, and barely knew me.
Anyway while I go to get coffee, she claims she was looking for the textbook because she didn't bring it, and possibly some class notes that she didn't get.
What does she find in my bag? My personal diary which describes in great detail my fantasies about her.
When I come back, her friend is there looking up at me, while she is still reading. I'm kind of standing there like an idiot.
She gets up, and without a word, hands me my diary. Her friend says "See you around." They both are out of there.
I really don't know what to do at this point. I was an idiot to bring my personal journal along. That much I know. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 12:48:02 PM | You did not do ONE thing wrong. You have no reason to feel like an idiot. They not only overstepped personal bounderies, they did a long jump over them. They knew better - who wouldn't. Finding a journal and reading it are two different things. How low of them. Consider this a fine gift - a learning lesson - and that is to surround yourself with those that would never even crack a peek at someone else's private journal.
Good luck. Let it pass. They were so in the wrong. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 12:50:10 PM | Some it was explicit. Some of it was not.
It ranged from sexual fantasies to musing over what a first kiss would be like.
None of it was maliciously sexual. I am not a one-dimensional fantasizer (if that is a word) | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 12:51:03 PM | | If she didn"t care enough about you to respect your journal let her go. Once a woman knows that you are hooked on her she can and probably will exploit the fact in front of her friends. She had no right to read your stuff. You should be offended rather then worried what she might think. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 12:57:39 PM | | Totally inappropriate for her to even take your journal out! That was a total invasion of your privacy, as well as your space. I wonder what she would feel like if someone read her diary! She would be flipping out! These are not your friends, and you are better off knowing now. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:52:46 PM | | Umm yea the way they acted was kinda messed up . Y would u want to date someone like that? and lesson don't keep personal diaries lol especially nowadays. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:09:33 PM | Mr. B., That was totally uncool of her to look in your bag. What a snoop. Your diary probably looks nothing like the textbook she was looking for and she probably knew the moment she opened it that she was violating you. You don't need a woman like that.
You did not tell us what your fantasy was that she read about what you would do with her so you need to include every sordid little detail about that in a supplemental post so we can judge whether or not her reaction was reasonable, so tell us what she read.
But just for sport, I would approach her and ask her if she knows what you want after reading your private papers and then follow up with a proposition to offer your services to it make happen. Make sure her girlfriends aren't around, she may have talked herself into it. It may be that having her girlfriend there when she snooped and, I am assuming, shared the contents with the girlfriend relegated you to the weirdo catagory. Anyway have fun with it because any damage done is already done and there is nothing but potential upside from here on out. The worst that can happen is that she gives you the " you are a pervert look" once again or calls you a pervert and we already know that. Just kidding, you sound like a normal guy but I would put some heat on her for doing what she did.
If she gives you too much sh*t tell her that being a underhanded, deceitful snoop is much worse than what you wrote in your own diary. Torment her a little, she might like it. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:11:23 PM |
I really don't know what to do at this point. I was an idiot to bring my personal journal along. That much I know.
there is a reason why it's called a PERSONAL JOURNAL.
Don't worry about it, you've found one of the many double standards of self-centered women, not to get off on a rant here, but lot of them feel that personal privacy only exists to one person and one person only, themselves. And if you were to have snooped through her journal, you'd be at home icing off your 
In my opinion you just found out her true self. She just did you a huge favor.
Now, the other side of things...this might sound strange...but,
Did you want her to find it?
you call yourself an idiot for bringing it, but did you bring it for the possibility of her finding it and reading it because you know she's that type of woman, and that's the only way you could tell her your feelings? or am I off the page???
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:17:52 PM | Just a situation.. Look at your attitude. Mistakenly she found it. Watch the movie "13 days", and go with she mistakenly found it. Yes it is a breach of your privacy and not acceptable and her and or her friend could be guilty of this invasion.. or
Go with it being an honest mistake. Then!
Feel her shock.
Meditate from her point of view.
Write her a letter. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:34:25 PM | | OP, I'm sorry that happened to you. Honestly, you found out what she was really like. No girl that is worth your time would ever read your diary. Even that she went into your bag when you were gone raises questions in my mind. You did absolutely nothing wrong, she is in the wrong, she absolutely breached your personal space and privacy. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:45:30 PM | Why do you have a journal?
If I stumbled across it I think I'd be flattered but wouldn't want to see you again.
Don't even attempt to contact her.
Sorry | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:09:14 PM | what the hell was she doing going through your things? Furthermore what the hell gives her the right to read it? Even if she did come across it unintentionally the minute she realized what it was she should have closed it and then apologized profusley for ALMOST reading your personal journal. That's what journals are for. They're somewhere where we can safely write down all those thoughts, feelings and even fantasies that we can't bring ourselves to tell anyone. This girl sounds to me like a b.tch. Goodbye and goodridance.
Oh ya and because I guarantee she's telling absolutley anyone who will listen what she read it's time to go on damage control. Thinking back to my high school days I think the best course of action is to start telling people yourself only instead of saying it was something you wrote in your journal say it was something that she actively participated in. That'll teach her! | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:14:53 PM | | When my husband died, I had to go through his personal papers. His old journals from years and years. Everything. He had boxes, files, drawers, folders, shelves, trunks .. pretty much everything of his .. that I'd never seen before. There was nothing to 'find' there, but my point is, people who can be trusted will trust you in kind. Snoopy people deserve what they find. I can only assume you feel humiliated. Hold your head up. You've done nothing wrong. She did. If it comes up that she spreads gossip, do the right thing for yourself and let it go. No need to explain anything to anyone. Nothing to gain by trying to make her look bad. It will pass .. let it. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:17:46 PM | | If I was you - my fantasies about her would have ended the second I saw her with my diary! Not a nice person to be involved with that's for sure!! When someone crosses someone elses privacy - not good! | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:25:23 PM | first off, you did nothing wrong. that pair, however,, did much wrong. when she realized ( AND THAT HAPPENED AFTER THE FIRST SENTENCE) that she was reading something personal, she should have set it down and left it at that. but no, instead she kept reading things that were none of her business and werent offered to be shared by you with her or anyone else.
SHE INVADED YOUR PERSONAL SPACE. best to be rid of someone as crass and concieted. fantasies are usually better than reality. you got a heavty dose of reality about your fantasy girl. sure it hurts, but its for the best.
i dont give a damm what her "excuse" was,, she had no business rifling thru your stuff without your permission or knowledge. she was the IDIOT, not you. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:25:29 PM | Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 2 58 PM
[Unless you're Captain Kirk writing a captain's log, it is very unmanly to have a diary. I have never known one guy that has had a diary in my life outside of forced diaries by the teacher in grade 5 ]
I don't know how everyone gets the cool box around someone elses text but anyway....captains log...had to say this is hilarious. Thanks for the laugh! | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:25:53 PM | For one you did nothing wrong as each one has the right to write and express ourselves as we see fit. She may have been offended if she did not share the same feelings about you as you do her. In fact it could cause serious damage if she sees you as unattractive to her and has no sexual feelings at all for you. On the other hand if she is mature enough she may let it go... or what would have been better for her is to close the book right away and say ... I’m sorry this is not my place nor my business to invade his privacy... she’s not innocent either dear.
Study her body language the next few days... is there eye contact, does she now seem and act differently towards you, is there any signs of her being uncomfortable around you. If so I would openly discuss this with her and hope for the best!
Good luck with that! Wish you all the best, and don't forget to let us know lol | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:40:06 PM | I don't know how everyone gets the cool box around someone elses text but anyway....captains log...had to say this is hilarious. Thanks for the laugh!
Ya how DO you get that cool yellow box? Can someone please enlighten us? | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:48:15 PM | You did nothing wrong...just consider it divine intervention from the Universe. Her actions were rude and low class. Good riddance.  Btw: message 20, I know a few "real men" who do keep journals. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:33:23 PM | Ya how DO you get that cool yellow box? Can someone please enlighten us?
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 6:05:19 PM | Of course I agree with everyone else. She MORE than crossed the line, and she knew it.
But did everyone else miss this?
But just for sport, I would approach her and ask her if she knows what you want after reading your private papers and then follow up with a proposition to offer your services to it make happen.
I love it! Shows confidence. When something embarrassing happens - if you can own it - sooooo sexy. WAY better than being the victim, IMO. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 6:14:06 PM | 1. Her and her g/f are lesbian lovers and you were the target of their most recent man-hating scheme. IOW you were being used as their source of entertainment.
2. She knew you were interested by the signals you were sending her and she was curious to see just how serious you were.
3. She was too shy to ask you anything personal so she waited until your back was turned to spy on you and see if she could uncover the mystery of who you really are.
4. She walked away because she was embarrassed at getting caught and she's the kind of beeyatch who can't accept responsibility for her actions. Looks like it worked if you're absorbing all her guilt when you did absolutely nothing wrong.
5. She felt the same way about you as you felt about her and now that you've seen her as the lying, deceitful backstabbing slimy little sneak that she is, she knows you will never trust her or want her to be in your life, and she's ashamed of herself.
Okay whether any of these are true or not....What if you had not found this out now and decided to have a long lasting relationship with her? There would be no underwear drawer unturned, no coat pocket right side in, no glove compartment undisturbed, no wallet you owned would be undisheveled, and no computer you used would be free of so much spyware crap that it would slow down your processor to a snail's pace and then you wouldn't be able to come out here and write to us nice honest decent women anymore! Yep, I agree with all the rest, she sure did you a favor by showing you her true colors early on. | |
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| Big problem; she finds my personal journal
Posted: 5/2/2008 6:14:45 PM | Wow she acted like a jerk; she could have asked you about it and even told you how she felt. To act like a Diva and walk away is a bit much. For you to have it when she was coming over though is pretty dumb too. You carry that thing around in your bag? come on.
She will tell her friends and you can forget her. Woman are evil when you get on the wrong side of one. She may be a girls gone wild girl but she'll still be dramatic and so offended. Let her go and move on; quick. | |
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