| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:25:38 PM | | ok... you know (never met) two people on here... one has been after you for a long time... you have no interest in them.. all of a sudden they have a interest in someone the other side of the world... they meet.. they think they are in love over one meeting.. but in the mean time that person is still ringing you and declaring their love for you.. stating they don't care for this other person ... what do you do... I choose to tell this other person... yes you two know who you are... but now she hates me and say's I am jealous.... lol.. I could have had him 18 months ago... I don't fancy him and never will... I thought I was doing her a favour and telling her the truth that he doesn't love her as I believe she does him... I got abuse from both of them because of this... do you just shut up and let them get on with it or do you feel the need to let one person know that they are being played with? I will never do it again.. but saying that.. if someone told me I was being being played with I would want to know why and think hard about it.... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 1:29:07 PM | I would of done the same but unfortunatly there is alot of stupid foolish women out there who would rather believe the tales of a man.
I once slept with a man I thought was single.(long time ago) later found out he was very much in a relationship with 3 children. She asked me outright if it was true and I dont lie so told her it was.
She didnt believe me and went as far to tell people i was sick in the head for making up such a thing!
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Posted: 5/2/2008 1:40:59 PM | Aww sorry to hear your troubles, firstly not all men are the same!!.. I have had a similar experience i was dating a woman who lived in Wales, and i live in the South East of England, we had a nice summer romance last year but then i found out she had rekindled a relationship with an ex, however he did not realise she was still seeing me. I ended it straight away, but made the mistake of telling him what she was up to and that she was two-timing him. It ended messy and she blamed me and he had a go at me, next time I see someone cheating or messing someone about I am going to keep my beak out and let them dig a whole for themsleves
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Posted: 5/2/2008 1:48:38 PM | | im in a similar predicament at the moment, someone who used to be a good friend is using this site pretending to be single, but they are really getting married in august! i know for a fact she has met a few on here, her hubby to be has been warned what she has been up to in the past, behind his back but has chosen to beleive her, has given up all friends and family for her etc.........so what to do, do i tell him hes about to make the biggest mistake of his life, even though hed beleive whatever she told him, or keep my gob shut? | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 1:52:33 PM | | Fairy G-You should set up an annoymous email account and just send the profile they have on here to her Hubby to be so he can see what She's upto and it wont be anything to do with you? | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:01:59 PM | I think sometimes you cant do right for doing wrong, some folk just dont want to believe what you know to be true..
So let them get on with it I say, if she believes his lies you have no chance...Let her find out for herself, you have done what you thought was right.. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:07:12 PM | do you just shut up and let them get on with it
Yep !!
but now she hates me
I'm sure she's even less forgiving of you now you have made a "Topic" out of them on a public forum OP especially if they are still on here !!
Its a very personal matter between friends surely?
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:09:16 PM | I'll be forever grateful to my ex's mate for tipping me off about his cheating. My ex was making feel like I was going nuts, and this confirmed I was totally sane, (a little vulnerable because I was pregnant maybe but not crazy.) It hurt like crazy at the time but, the only fault or blame lies squarely with the ex as far as I'm concerned.
It also gave me the chance to get myself to the STD clinic before I gave birth so that I could be screened. Every new Mum deserves that chance to try and protect their newborn if possible. I got the all clear, but if I hadn't I could have been started on anti-biotics or retro virals to reduce the risk of infection passing to the child. His friend giving me that option meant a lot to me. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:10:13 PM | | ive thought of doing that matmac especially as her pic on here is in her underwear......... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:11:38 PM |
I'm sure she's even less forgiving of you now you have made a "Topic" out of them on a public forum OP especially if they are still on here
well first I have not named them.. second.. yes they know who they are.. yes they are both very active on here... hence my frustration on this matter.. I get sick of seeing their posts about love and I know different... but hey.. I thought I was doing the right thing.. but with you Mac.. I can't do right from wrong... what ever I say is wrong in your eyes.... so nope again like last time in the last thread... I wont go there with you.. argue away honey..xx | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:14:17 PM | Quote
"ive thought of doing that matmac especially as her pic on here is in her underwear........."
She must be one of them classy ladies that pose in undies and demand no players or men looking one thing ....... don't ya love 'em!
In response to the question, you have done your bit, it's a ticking bomb, the old adage you can lead a horse to water.........
Back off hun, your in a situation where you can't do right or wrong! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:19:32 PM |
but with you Mac.. I can't do right from wrong... what ever I say is wrong in your eyes.... so nope again like last time in the last thread... I wont go there with you.. argue away honey..xx
Probably has something to do with disagreeing yes, thats what debates are for........... to question are they not? Therefore i am questioning you !!
I happen to disagree and question why you chose to put such a personal and delicate situation between two active members on a public forum ?
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:19:43 PM | | I cant understand why you feel the need to discuss alledged cheating of active members on here, if as you have stated already spoken to parties involved. What do you feel you can achieve by mentioning it on here, if you have already spoken to them? Or should i say what are you aiming to achieve? | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:20:14 PM | Hmmm, tricky one.
Some won't thank you and will accuse you of being jealous, others will take the info in the spirit it is meant. Unfortunately, you can never know which way it will go til you do the deed.
I suspected my ex was playing away, so when I got some veiled tip-offs from his colleagues at work, I was receptive. However, if I'd been happily loved-up and unsuspecting it might have been a bit different.
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:26:01 PM |
cant understand why you feel the need to discuss alledged cheating of active members on here, if as you have stated already spoken to parties involved. What do you feel you can achieve by mentioning it on here, if you have already spoken to them. Or should i say what are you aiming to achieve.
because I hate liars and cheats and would be devasted to know that was me.... I would want to know simple
hulo... yeah your right... let them get hurt.. I tried... the trouble is I have a heart... but now.. as much as I hate to admit.. I will let them suffer as I will be in the wrong... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:32:07 PM | Best thing is....
Walk away, have no more to do with either of them.
YOU don't have the problem THEY do, their relationship is on a shyte footing. leave them to it.
Don't make it YOUR problem.
Even if you tell someone the truth, it will always be your fault.
Sit back smug as a bug knowing it'll fail eventually :-) no relationship based on lies can ever work. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:33:47 PM | I understand you may hate liars and cheats. And you would be devestated and would want to know if it was you. I would probably feel the same. I can also understand why you chose to speak to them privately.
What i dont understand is the fact you have already spoken to them and now want the whole forum to know. As im guessing to some forumites the parties involved may be easily identified. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:37:29 PM | It must be very frustrating to know that someone is pledging their undying love for someone yet know they are still playing the field so to speak..But if the third party doesnt want to know or believe what your trying to tell them then theres not much you can do about it I am afraid..
And I cant see what the problem is by bringing this up on the forum since one of the partys concerned is the OP, and no names have been mentioned, she asks what you would do in the same situation... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:42:49 PM | If we had met through a site like this , then I would expect after being in a relationship for a while and still both extremely active within it, then neither is that eager to pursue this undying love relationship by leaving the site, then leave them too it !!
By making a thread concerning this, knowing they will read it, makes it sound like your trying to justify your reasons for doing it in the first place.
Dont, its done with, let them get on with it.
EDIT ** I do agree actually Mac, my mind is doing overtime at the mo ! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:44:40 PM | And I cant see what the problem is by bringing this up on the forum since one of the partys concerned is the OP, and no names have been mentioned,
Possibly the feelings of the two active members who will probably read this ??
Imo This topic serves no other purpose than to cause drama and upset to those involved and should remain a private matter !!
I dont know the couple but how many couples do we have on a dating site..........the powers of deduction !! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:46:57 PM |
And I cant see what the problem is by bringing this up on the forum since one of the partys concerned is the OP, and no names have been mentioned, she asks what you would do in the same situation...
Willow.. thankyou so much...
It is good to know that you can see my side of it... it is so hard... but have decided enough is enough... make a fool of yourself.... I tried... next time I will be heartless and let them get on with it.. shame I have a heart though.xxx | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 2:50:32 PM | Quote
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I dont know the couple but how many couples do we have on a dating site.."
Probably more than we give thought too...... Think your been clever playin away?
Just imagine looking at 'my matches' , and seeing your ever loving partner in his /her or worse, your undies!
Just off to delete my pics! | |
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:59:16 PM | Well i had an experiense last year, to cut a long story short....
My friend's and eye always go out on a saturday night in couples, always 3 couples.
One friend told mt wife at the time that she was shagging my other mates husband... wot do you do....
Well i told my best nates wife to stop all this , of course she never did , so i told my best mate the score... hell on..
Then 6 months later they are all back together an dnone of them talk to me.......
My advise is keep your nose out... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 4:16:37 PM | Its a good question..... I dont think you needed to explain the background though....
If we didnt make mistakes then we wouldnt ever learn anything right??!!
When you feel for someone its only natural to want to beleive in them surely, if this person is not right for her, she'll learn her own lesson, just like the rest of us will/have.
She will know in her heart whats true and whats not and she'll face it when SHES READY - I dont beleive its anyone elses place to force that on someone by dishing dirt that will only serve to cause someone elses pain.
The OP was lied to, no excuse for taking his actions out on the other lady though and perhaps niaive to think she would feel the same as you do! After all, they met, talk about love and in your own words, you never did and were never interested so Its inconsistent that you are spending the evening talking about something (someone) that supposedly doesnt matter to you
No harm intended, just my observations!
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:34:05 PM | | I think after they both give you abuse forget it they deserve each other. Personally I have never cheated on anyone I figure may aswell be single if I want that? People who do deserve anything that happens. | |
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