| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:27:40 PM | | I'm dating a girl who made a point to tell me how much she loved her perfume... and how much she paid for it. She asked me if I liked it and of course I couldn't make her feel bad about it because it was so expensive. But now that we've been dating for a while, I can hardly stand to smell it. What do I do without hurting her feelings to let her know I can't bear the odor any longer? | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:31:44 PM | Buy her something YOU love to smell and tell her how much you love it and how much it turns you on and smells so sexy to you ...
I wear something simple Anais Anais NO its not 300 bucks but its simple, light and sexy to me anyway LOL and i get lots of compliments on it when wearing it out .
I am a big lotion and bath and body girl I love to smell good and love light smells where its not over bearing ...
UGH at below comments saying to lie and say you have allergies .. HONESTY IS BEST please dont lie to the girl .... | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:34:17 PM | This is a touchy subject. I've been around people whose perfumes and after shaves are gross enough to gag a maggot or they use it with a heavy hand. I have a friend who is allergic to perfume. It would not be nice and a little late in the relationship to feign allergies, but you could tactfully let her know how you much prefer the freshly showered scent to that of perfume. Good luck with this.  | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:35:59 PM | | just buy her some that you do like. some of the best smelling perfume is not expensive. best not to tell her. it would hurt her and she might just hit you over the head with it lol. lol. well meow has a good idea minus the fact that u have been around her for mnths or however long u been dating and u have not sneezed yet lol. I guess u can tell her it hapend suddenly lol. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:36:16 PM | Sneeze. A lot. Mention that you had allergies to all kinds of things as a child but you thought you'd outgrown them. Sneeze more. Realize theatrically that you're allergic to her cologne. Make sure you're suitably apologetic that she can't wear it around you any more.
Then, purchase a cologne for her that you really like and give it as a gift, telling her you think it's the sexiest scent on the planet... and you're not allergic to it! | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:40:18 PM | 300 bucks, wow, wonder what a gallon of it would cost VS the cost of gasoline lol
costly liquid for sure...
as for me, I think having the freshly showered clean/ smell etc can't be beat..
I'd rather enjoy something subtle like that , not a overpowering chemical perfume that
turns me off as much as second hand smoke does | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:42:46 PM | I would have to say for me ,most perfumes just smell like nail polish remover and the more expensive ones seem to be the most potent of turps smells to me. I understand.
Generally around a "stinker" I talk to them from a further distance and I am just up front and I say I can't breathe because of the perfume - which would be true.
Sometimes you just have to be honest, because if you start unconciously maintaining your distance without realising it - you are going to hurt people.
The chances are if it is a $300 perfume she would be saving it for special ocassions, which unfortunately can really ruin - the special ocassion. The clayton's versions of these expensive brands seem to have less turps in them - she may still enjoy it without it creating a zone fire hazard. Some discount stores may be able to help you out if you ring around. Is the perfume Red Door? This has been known to hospitalise people. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:50:23 PM | | body sprays work much better anyway and alot less costly. i use to use both perfume and a body spray ..well i still do. i cannot tell you how many people complimented on my smell.even women were telling me how good i smelled and asked what i was wearing lol i siad well let me see a bit of this and bit of that lol. it did wonders for both men and women. i once went to a store and a man as i left store opened the door and siad excuse me maam what are u wearing it smells so good. lol I jsut looked at him and he said well im not gona hurt ya i just wnated to know what ur wearing. lol. I got compliments everyday by many people. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 1:52:57 PM | Honestly I don't remember the brand or exactly the cost but when she told me I about fainted. I wondered right away how something that cost so much could smell so bad, and who in the world would think it could smell good? Ok, I know, bad question since I'm dating her...
Thanks everyone. Sounds like I'm going to have to feign an allergy unless someone else can come up with something a bit better. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:17:07 PM | But why lie and feign and allergy .. why not do as i and others suggested and buy something YOU like to smell .. I dunno lying about an allergy just is one lie that starts others to me honesty works wonders ...
Id not tell her that she stinks with the other id just buy something more pleasing .... women want to be pleasing to THEIR man so if you tell her what you buy drives you wild she would wear it | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:21:36 PM | Unfortunately, the cost of the stuff has little to do with how
it will smell once it's combined with her natural scent.
Sometimes the two end up forming an final aroma that can be noxious .
My advice ......be honest with her. It's not her or the perfume,
it's the combination of the two. You need to tell her.
The next time she is freshly showered, wrap her in you lovin' arms
and tell her you want to go shopping for some new perfume with her.
That way, you get to give her your honest opinion as a caring lover.
I sure would want my lover to tell me if my scent was off-putting to him. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:28:04 PM | FYI I doubt it is Red Door, just because I used to wear that and it cost nowhere near that much money.
Anyway, maybe you could buy her something you like, and gently tell her that you understand she loves her perfume, but after being around it a while, it gives you a headache? Now this could be called lying, but I think it IS giving you a headache of sorts, since it is causing you to be uncomfortable around her and obviously is distressing you to figure out how to get away from it without hurting her - that sure sounds like a headache to me! Just a different kind of headache than she might think of...
Good luck to you, OP. Personally I would be willing to change perfumes for my man (if I had one), especially if it was to one that he said drove him wild. Actually I did wear a perfume I didn't like much for years, because my ex-husband told me it drove him wild! | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:32:09 PM | Don't you think that she would be offended by me buying her new perfume after making over how much she likes what she has?
My buying her a new perfume is nearly a flat out admission that I lied about liking her perfume in the first place. Isn't it?
It was our second date and it never occurred to me that "not being straight forward that I really didn't care for it at the time" would come back and haunt my olfactory senses. I mean, if we didn't work out then who would care if I liked it or not.
What I said was, "yah, it's nice." And it happened after she commented on how much she liked what I had on which happened to be Bod spray. I think Bod is about as cheap as it gets right, lol?
Makes me wonder if I should have told her it sucked right off the bat. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:55:05 PM |
Don't you think that she would be offended by me buying her new perfume after making over how much she likes what she has?
And you think finding out years later IF you are still together will feel better knowing you LIED and faked an allergy ??
buying her something and saying how sexy it smells to is pleasing
you bought her something it shows you THOUGHT of her and its no diff than buying her clothing and saying this is sexy baby i want to see you in it .. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:58:05 PM | "You know how everyone has different taste...? Would you be offended if I didn't like everything that you liked?"
..."because whilst I really like you and want to spend time with you, getting to know you better, I find the perfume that you're wearing to be one that really doesn't agree with my nose. I'd really appreciate it if you'd save using it for when I'm not with you."
Just an idea.
Honestly, if you request her nicely not to wear the perfume around you then anything other than a sympathetic apologetic response would indicate to me that she's too into herself to sustain a happy relationship.
Perfumes can be a real problem. I'd ban them all - air pollution, triggering asthma and migraine attacks in sensitive individuals. My friend's throat will close up till he can hardly breathe if he catches a lungful of most poplar perfumes. He had to ask a co-worker to lay off whatever she was using - it might smell 'nice' to some but it was making him physically ill and unable to be in the same room as her. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:04:32 PM |
Is the perfume Red Door? This has been known to hospitalise people.
 I used to wear this years ago, then one day I wondered what I was thinking. This is not that expensive of a perfume, actually.
Sometimes the two end up forming an final aroma that can be noxious .
True. I've never been able to wear anything by Estee Lauder...it all smells like cat pee on me.  | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:10:15 PM | Whatever she bought, it was probably the pure perfume...eu de toilette and cologne is cheaper and less concentrated so doesnt last as long.
victoria's secret heavenly is wonderful, I buy the lotion, body wash, I don't do any kind of spray stuff...too heavy for me. Bath and Body works Japanese cherry blossom is another lightly scented fragrance.
You might have to just be honest. She probably thinks you like it and just bathes in the stuff. Maybe she could wear her perfume to work, and what you get her when you're on dates with her. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:24:22 PM | How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
 BEFORE you do anything rash!
I wouldnt exactly tell her for the moment...what Id do is this....
...while you're shopping with her... mention buying some new fragrances for each other...together.
Spend a time together comparing different perfumes/colognes... and make a fuss over something there that you really like, that she likes too and vice versa.
Oh OH...and when she wears the new one (as opposed to the old one) compliment her.
AND...when she wears the "old" one instead of the new...nonchalantly mention something like...hmm...ya know...the *insert perfume you bought together*...does so much more for you. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:27:00 PM | Thanks everyone.
I'm just going to tell her that I've been deceptive with her, that I'm going to come clean, and if she wants to break up with me that I don't blame her. Then I'm going to tell her I can't stand the darned stinky stuff. And even though I'm tempted to tell her it smells like my great grandmother's nursing home bathroom, I promise I'll refrain, lol. | |
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