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Posted: 5/2/2008 9:24:23 PM | Date 1: Lunch - goes well - ends with a hug
Date 2: One weekend later - dinner - goes well - ends with a hug
One weekend later = he is on vacation
Date 3: One weekend later. He asks me out via email on Weds for Friday or Saturday, I accept via email sent Thurs am for Saturday. He doesn't write or call to confirm day or suggest time or activity on Thursday or Friday. I call to confirm on Fri after work - leave vm with preferred time, he calls back at 8:30pm Friday and leaves vm to confirm preferred time. He apologizes for the delay in confirming.
Met on POF. He is single with 2 kids living about 45 minutes south of me. He only calls if he is commuting or in the car. He only writes at work. He is a 10 in looks. He is 32. He has removed his picture from POF in the last week or so.
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Posted: 5/3/2008 1:51:05 PM | ^^^Why do people over analyze everything... Just relax and go with the flow... If you really want to know... Get back to his place and seduce him... If he has another woman there, you'll find out pretty quick....
***Do we have the Webcam set up at the OP's new beau's place yet... I'll grab the beer chips... | |
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Posted: 5/3/2008 6:58:42 PM | He gets back to you at 8.30 pm on the Friday night? You should have said, "Sorry I didn't hear back from you - so I made other plans", or "Shove it in your ear". You need to make it very clear from first up - you aren't beck and call material.
Don't let him spend the weekend with you but kindly offer a re-run for next week. If he is still this disorganised and vacant and hasn't learnt - well move on. Someone this dumb isn't going to be much fun to have around. Thoughtless zombies are a dime a dozen, even a zombie can hug in the first few sessions. He can be put into the friend department on the proviso that you have checked his home for another woman, he is obviously not your intellectual equal, stupid is as stupid does. If he really valued you, he would have acted like he valued you. What a damn insult, does he think he is the only one who is going to ask you out, so he can just string you along? Damn hide.
In the same category is the screw partner that "remembers" Valentine's Day after it is too late to take you out to dinner - honestly at 8.30 pm I wouldn't have even accepted the call. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2008 10:42:59 PM | Very easy.......Just ask to have your date, then suggest that you go to his place.....if he says no.....you have your answer.......and if he says yes......you will have your fun...... 
Make sure to bring your overnight kit, and something nice to give him if you find out that you are wrong.......and if right........you found out soon enough.....
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:16:11 PM | | If you are already questioning it - trust your instinct - always. You don't want to question yourself over and over again about anything else. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 9:07:11 PM | Aww man, you got jabbed out of two hugs. Be more selective with those in the future.
Seriously, you haven't invested that much time and it sounds like you're trying to talk yourself out of it before you even know if 'it' is going to get off the ground.
I'm single with three kids & some weeks I don't know whether to scratch my watch or wind my ass. At times one's life is not their own. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 2:13:03 PM | | Well have you asked hime what his profession is. You've been out what 3 times now. You say he's single ok but is he single AND dating (someone besides you). Don't jump the gun to assume he's married. If you like him then u need to ask some questions and unless he's just playing the field he should give u the proper answers. Hope this help your dilema. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:06:29 PM | You know whatever this situation is. You are clearly going to be just one more scheduled appointment on his very busy calender. Good Luck if you stick with this.
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:38:09 PM |
He is a 10 in looks.
Im going to READ INTO this - lets see, because he is a ten my crystal
ball says on that tiny bit of information- he must be married. Everyone
below ten is single-
My crystal ball also told me to tell you that if you continue to read into
everything and not ask questions- you will be the only one pondering
your future which means you will be alone-
How the hell do we know what he is- ask him for Gods sakes. You see him,
you interact with him- what do YOU think- or better yet dont THINK, ASK him.
If he is married he will probably lie but now that is another thread for another
day, yes?
Good looking, single, two kids, only calls you from going back and forth to
WORK- lets see. The man probably needs to pay that child support and alimony.
This could be why he is always on the go- working. something very innocent.
Or he could be very sinister and married. we dont know that.
He has the answers - I can sit here and speculate with everyone else but
really - wouldnt you rather make a decision based on some facts from his mouth
and not ours- Hey good luck- I hear he's good looking. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 8:11:02 PM | And I thought I was jaded. At least he's innocent until proven guilty.
And there's no need for you to sleep with him yet if you don't want to either. I'm going to assume that you don't want to date a married man (if he happens to be).
Here's a thought. COMMUNICATE your feelings. Be honest with yourself and him.
Now I'm not being naive but maybe he's busy. Maybe he can't talk to you from home because he doesn't want to involve his kids. Maybe he's trying to juggle alot and you being paranoid about it is going to chase him off. Maybe as most forums say we men like a confident woman and you being open with him is something that could garner his respect and he'll treat you even better Or....Maybe he IS a pig and you putting him on the spot will give you the answer that you seek. But if you are going to "put it out there" then do it with him. Not all the loonies on here.
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Posted: 5/6/2008 5:02:36 PM | Wow 2 dates and your bent out of shape about when he calls you. Perhaps he works to 7 ot 8 at night and till he gets home hes beat. You made plans early in the week. He didnt cancel the plans and he did call to confirm.
Most men that are married make afternoon dates so they are at home at night and weekends.
Ask and get your answer. How do we know. You will get 20 different viewpoints here. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:09:43 AM | | I think you are reading too much into it. I don't give out my home phone number to anyone because I have two children. Home phone number + reverse directory = home address. I'll give out my cell phone number to someone that I trust after multiple meetings in public places but otherwise communicate via POF. I don't want anyone involved with my children unless it's serious and serious only happens after a lengthy period of dating. I don't have my photo on my POF profile because I live in a small community where my co-workers will troll dating websites to see who's on them - and my business is mine alone. None of that means I'm married or living with someone. I'm just a widow who's careful with and protective of my children. You only need to be suspicious if someone gives you a reason to be. He claims to be a single father, until you find out otherwise, by all means use caution but don't jump to conclusions. | |
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