| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 7:50:54 AM | some years ago i commissioned an artist to paint a portrait that represented the relationship i had with my then girlfriend.
that was many years ago and when that relationship failed she returned the portrait and it's been in a closet ever since.
soon i am getting married and that clearly has no place in our house. that said, i hate to throw it away because i did spend some money on it...
so i'm curious what you would do with something like that? i hate to just dump it at goodwill...but, i don't know where else it might serve a purpose. all i know is it has to go. | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:13:25 AM | you can sand it down ( if its oil) and repaint over it... use it for a target for shooting your bb gun.... put it on ebay and see if you can sell it, the frame may be worth something.... you can donate it to a museum if the painter was someone famous or well known.... you can sell it at a garage sale because someone may want it to use to paint a new picture on ( reuse of materials).... you may be able to get anywhere from 5-100 dollars for it.
not much else you can do... dump it | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:29:12 AM | | Wife chose her dream of singing over being loved and cherish. No sweat. What about the stuff? What I did with everything that had value and memories still attached is put them by the curb for the trash pickup. I left for a bit and came back after running around the block a ways and was delighted to see the neighbors picking through the boxes and with their hands full they carried their new found treasures to their homes with smiles on their faces. Heehee. What a site that was. The SUV I bought for her was just sold though. Wouldn't fit in the trash truck. :( | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:51:50 AM | Have the face of your soon-to-be wife superimposed over the face in the portrait.
No, no . . . that would be tacky.
Why do you hate to dump it at Goodwill? It sounds as if you still harbor feelings for the lost love. If there were no kids from the union (who might someday want the picture), dump it. | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:52:34 AM | You are falling into the trap of "I spent good money on this therefore it has value"
But forgetting that the reason you originally spent the money was to capture something special that had sentimental value.
^^ It is a fairly common trap to fall into.
You did not originally value it because of the $$ spent on it.
You should not now hang onto it solely because you spent $$ on it.
Of course there is another possibility... getting rid of it feels like a callous disposal of your former special feelings. << If that's the case your residue of feelings is something useful for you to look into, process and let go of. (then letting go of the object that represents your feelings will no longer be ouchy). | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 9:01:22 AM | It's just a thing!!!!!!!!!!!! Now wortless to you...........Burn it...........
It's not the only thing you ever spent money on that you no longer have anything to show for it. I bet you took her on more than one expensive trip. Money gone!!!!!!!! Or jewelry you bought her ( bet she didnt return that) also money gone.
Burn the gosh darn this................ | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 9:04:43 AM | geesh people you give some "great" advices!
the man is about to get married... HE NEEDS MONEY!, so why burn it or trash it? if he spent a pretty penny then he should sale it like on craigslist and see if anybody is interested or ebay! in that way he can use the money that is much needed for the funding of his new marriage... after all the portrait has no sentimental value as of now! so might as well use it for something good since money is not easy to come by. | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 9:05:02 AM | I don’t think the OP is wondering what should be done with it - for silly reasons at all.
Since I am about 75% artist - I can think of several things that would be more “proper” than dumping it.
It DOES have value to someone. Out of respect (to others) alone - the OP has logical thinking going on.
If I had something nice like that (depends on the exact picture/painting) I would carefully cut the gal’s face out with an exacto knife. I would then make a pattern of that cut out. Then I would take that pattern to a professional plastics company. They have the lasers to cut a 1 inch thick plexiglass (lexan) “cover” that fits the pattern perfectly.
That would make a very nice/thoughtful gift to someone (the gal or someone else) that she has great meaning to.
It is called >>> taking the high road. | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:31:15 AM | If any of the above mentioned advice fails to meet your criteria for a solution, I see you have children....see if they'd be interested.
Other than that OP, why are you trying to weigh the balance of the pros and cons of keeping a 'thing' that is in direct opposition to the turn your new life has taken you?
Just because you spent money on it originally, does not assign it of any value to you today - unless it's sentimental.
[Or is Ebenezer still alive and well? j/k]
Congrats on the impending wedding, and don't sweat the insignificant stuff, now that you have a significant other.
hnh
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:36:42 AM | Personally, I would keep it. It's a portrait for crying out loud -- the girl is not moving in with you. Pfffft!! I would have no problem with you keeping it. But then again, if it was a really nice painting, I would probably put it up on a wall somewhere, because I love art and I'm not jealous over ex's pictures.
I have a great black and white shot of an ex that I took years ago. It was on my wall for years. My ex-husband requested that I not put it up in our house, which I didn't, out of respect for him. But I kept it (which he was fine with) and there's not a soul on this planet that can make me throw away that picture or any others from my past. Nor have I, or would I, ever expect anyone to do the same. Those pictures are part of who you are, and I have no problem with them. And yes, I know I'll get a lot of slack for my way of thinking, but that's okay, it doesn't bother me in the least.  | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:37:40 AM | just get rid of it somehow...your moving on with a new love in your life, nothing worse than pics of the ex around...regardless of how expense they were to have created.
Although, if your this troubled over getting rid of it...it leads me to believe you are not over her. Are you sure you're ready for the impending wedding to another?
End of the day, its just a 'thing' it shouldn't be that difficult to get rid of it.
as always, just my humble opinion. | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:44:08 AM |
Although, if your this troubled over getting rid of it...it leads me to believe you are not over her
And on what do you base your opinion? I have pics of ALL my ex's - even my highschool "love." So what. I am over each and every one of them. Geesh! They are pictures from a person's past! I am very secure in who I am. Therefore, I am not threatened by a man's pics of his exes. I could care less. I even enjoy going through his old photo albums and seeing his life unfold through the years, because that's what pictures do.
I honestly don't get your train of thought. My brain just doesn't fire that way. How can people be jealous of photographs and/or paintings? Someone please explain this to me, cuz I sure don't get it.  | |
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| what to do with expensive portrait that is no longer sentimental
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:51:02 AM | If it was done by a famous or up and coming artist, pack it away and hope the artist dies at their peak.
Otherwise, burn it. Just think of the closure as all that paint goes up in a wonderful array of smoke and flame blows away into the world.
Or, have it made into a floor mat, a toilet seat cover, an umbrella or something fun like that. | |
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