| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:10:48 PM | When you take a look at my profile, can you give me your honest ( I don't offend easily ) of whether you would contact me and why or why not ?
Guys and Girls opinions both welcome, I'm very curious to know why people add me to thier favorites alot, but never message me at all.
What's your first impression ? | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:49:11 PM | Hello,
Yes, I think your profile is too much. A few things....One your attacking the male species. You need to tone it down, relax and just get to the point of what you want and what you don't want. Second, your talking about your self too much.
Your putting yourself out there. Like an open book, but the only difference is your bitting! I found it scary! Your pointing out your flaws and at the same time saying deal with it or "oh well". Your profile should be no more than 3 paragraphs with nice comments. You need to be a little more soft spoken and not rebellious. I hope you take no offense to my comments. You did ask for honest opinion.
Good Luck..
Swanss | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:52:59 PM | OP, You wanted honest and here it is...
You get added to favorites lists because you are very attractive.
Despite being attracted to you physically, were I your age I would not even consider messaging you because:
<div class="quote">Profession I have one
That screams barely employed and unambitious to me. Its probably not true, but unless I see a real career up there I assume its something to be embarrassed about or fry cook at the local McDonald's.
<div class="quote">I guess I'm looking for someone who won't bore me into unconsciousness, as well as if I think I can kick your ass, You are probably not the one for me.
I have no idea what kind of man you want other than he needs to be interesting (which is a default assumption for a relationship) and capable of beating the tar out of you. Not exactly a positive depiction.
<div class="quote">Interests
Whatever Interests Me
Obviously your interests interest you; the question is do they interest potential suitors. Its difficult to relate to somebody without knowing what they are into. Put some interests up, something guys can read and get into.
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If you break my trust I will completely cut you out of my life without explanation.
If you dupe me, I'll exact revenge on you when you least suspect it, and I'll do it beautifully, deliberatly and brilliantly.I listen VERY carefully. I can tell when anyone is lying, though I won't call you on it, I like to watch people extend unneccesary energy to cover themselves.
You sound like a bitter angry person. The selections I quoted above jumped out at me in particular. When I read a woman's profile I'm looking for a positive person who seems happy. I'm sure that you are a positive happy person but you come across very negatively. Remember that sarcasm and the like don't translate over text very well as it doesn't work well without body language.
I could do without the smoking rant. The fact that you smoke is bad enough, but there is really no justifying it so don't even try.
Some things you have going for you.
1) You can write in complete coherent sentences without using AOLisms
2) No excessive emoticons or ascii art.
3) Pictures are good though your main is far from your best photo. Make #4 your main, you look cute and friendly. At age 30 lose the party s**t picture.
Things to clean up
1) Be positive!
2) You want to attract a man so don't spend your profile bashing them.
3) Get some interests up there
4) Talk about the kind of man you want. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:59:12 PM | | No offence taken ! Thanks for the responses. my profile wasn't meant to actually be serious at all , and my profession is a writer, actually. Because I deal with media, I left it out.. Any suggestions on what I could put without making it sound lazy ?? | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:03:44 PM | | I agree avalache. She is very attractive and sounds well educated but she attacks!! lol. You get more bees with honey than vinegar! | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:11:50 PM |
No offence taken ! Thanks for the responses. my profile wasn't meant to actually be serious at all , and my profession is a writer, actually. Because I deal with media, I left it out.. Any suggestions on what I could put without making it sound lazy ??
I had a suspicion that it wasn't written as a serious piece, but it can be easily confused as such. Dry witty humor doesn't come across very well expressed in text. Make it less subtle and you'll enjoy better success.
Maybe "Professional Journalist" would be a good title? What kind of company employs you? If you work at a paper you can be a "Columnist" or "Investigative Reporter". Being a writer is far from a lazy profession btw. If I saw writer, journalist, or any of those things I'd be intrigued and my initial email would almost certainly include a question about your job. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:19:07 PM |
I once refused to date anyone for 2 years on the mere premis that I did not want to ruin my makeup.
It's spelled, "Premise".
Other than that?
I agree with to_woman.
Don't change a thing!
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:21:51 PM | First of all, I thought it was really funny. Couple of pictures I would lose cause you are going to get bombarded. Picture #2 and the shower one are a little much. Just my opinion. You are very attractive, I don't think you'll have any problems there.
I agree the interests need to be indicated. I'd lose the info about the smoking, it seems like you are trying to justify it.
You do come across a little spiteful toward the end, that no one better cross you. That may be your intent!
But all in all, I thought it was good. Of course, I'm on the post asking for help, so go figure. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:32:36 PM | | Hey there, just thought I would add my input here. I would think they add you due to your looks and/or screen name, then run off bloody scared as hell due to your bluntness and elan. Keep the pizzaz, keep the bare honesty. Just let those you wish to attract know better whom or what they must be to qualify. Seems like you have done a great job of weeding out the tiny little buggers that would otherwise message you. Your provocativeness brings them in fine, but your strength makes them wimper. I would contact you simply to enjoy the intellectual challenge. It sounds way fun. Have a beauty day, Paul | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 7:36:06 PM |
Guys and Girls opinions both welcome, I'm very curious to know why people add me to thier favorites alot, but never message me at all.
When you have this on your *Mail Restrictions*
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
NO one contact you with this restriction. Simple as that. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 7:41:43 PM |
When you have this on your *Mail Restrictions*
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
NO one contact you with this restriction. Simple as that.
Not so.
That particular filter, means people who have "Talk/E-Mail" as the option in what they are looking for on here, cannot mail her.
However, anyone else who fits within her restrictions can.
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 7:50:54 PM | Profile is entertaining in its own way, but no, I don't think many people would consider you to be someone to contact. Once I got a sense that this was just an experiment, it is not even fun to read. The premise can be seen about 1/3 to 1/2 into text, and after that, more of the same. It feels like a random profile generator run amok.
That particular filter, means people who have "Talk/E-Mail" as the option in what they are looking for on here, cannot mail her. However, anyone else who fits within her restrictions can.
That comment, IMO, is not about physical restriction - it is about excluding most of the audience profile is suitable for. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/3/2008 9:32:54 PM | I....I have to admit, I didn't get it. I didn't even get it enough to find the funny parts. Now I am sad, for many other people said it was funny. Damn.
I thought it was kinda long, kinda strange, kinda...more than a little mean. But I figured you'd probably get away with it like that because you're so pretty. Oh, yeah, and you use the words "girl" and "lust" in your screenname.
Fortunately, I'm not your target audience. So, I wish you good luck in...whatever it is you're trying to do here. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:09:22 AM | | lol yeah i get that to i am like i have never spoken to you at all,. so i delete them cause its more look how many i have as a fav. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:21:04 PM | Thanks for all the feedback folks, really, I havent' changed a thing, with the exception of correcting a spelling mistake.. I figure .. That's me ! In a nutshell. I'm going to add another interest to my profile though ' Keeping it real'  | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:20:13 PM | Well girl, you're some kind of "firecracker" that's for sure!
Your pics are very attractive and you do a quite thorough job of divulging your
likes, dislikes and personality.
It might help to specify somewhat the qualities desired of your ideal companion though.
It's probably best to narrow things down in this regard.
After all what guy isn't going to want to put in their "bid" for a beautiful, feminist, drama queen that's quite willing and able to kick his a*s at a moment's notice, eh? All with the simple thought that he's actually ready for you! 
B.T.W: I'm sure there's a story behind your comment, therefore I can't help asking: so, what did "large vaginal labia" ever do to you? 
Now that I've gotten older, I'm always amazed at the "prejudices" that lovely young women can "afford"...  | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:19:33 AM | Your name indicates you may put out and your pictures are attractive, hence you get favourited.
Strictly my opinion- would I contact you? No. You are way too creepy for my liking. If a guy wrote a profile like that he would be suspected of being some kind of stalker rapist type. Just because you are a female does not make it cute.
If you are happy with how it is working for you, go for it. Just remember you have +200 people favourting you... and you are single. Just how well is it working? | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:42:54 AM | I'll be honest I rather enjoyed reading your profile.
A touch indelicate but then at the same time why should you sugar coat things for the general public.
I can see why your profile would be very intimidating for a lot of men but should that really be your problem and at the end of the day I'd say that the type of guy you are hoping to attract would see your profile for what it is - HONEST and blunt.
Quite simply, I'd say keep it the way it is because I can't see the problem, I'd still contact you after reading it. With reference to the favourites thing well that's your own fault for looking nice. | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:09:23 AM | I have to ask, do you know what it means to be Buddhist?
What bothers me about some people on this site is their general disregard for the reader. The interest section in your profile is a clear example of what I’m talking about. You do not care about the reader, or a potential date, enough to list what you are interested in, but you want men to take interest in you.
While your profile is quirky and somewhat interesting to read it’s also just a lengthy series of random factoids that really say nothing about you as a person. Factoids have little place in these profiles. Also, at 30, being the free-spirited, foul-mouthed, hard-partyin’ single mother won’t bode well for you. You will get lots of attention because you are attractive and feisty but if you are at all looking for anything beyond a good thumping once in a while you may hit a brick wall here, as you are sending the wrong message. If this is exactly who you are then I’m not sure your life is even conducive to having another person share it with you. You are way too negative and spiteful in your message. These are just a few things to think about.
And I think your first date section is geographically challenged as well, or your direction-giving skills needs some work. But hey, you don’t have 14 mail filters so that’s a surprising plus! | |
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| My profile, Is it way too much ??
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:50:40 AM | Eh I'd cut it down. It's daunting to hit a wall of text. I think it's all funny and well written, but it'd be better if it was half the length...
Wow it's like being back at work and submitting things to an editor, eh? | |
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