| "Looking for a female..." Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:10:48 AM | I mean, seriously, what does everyone else think? Rarely, if ever, do you see woman with a profile saying, "I'm looking for the special male to settle down with" or "Are you the male I'm looking for?" So, why do men use female rather than woman, gal, or girl?
To me, anytime I hear or read how a man is looking for a female, I think of animal husbandry. While I realize it's probably a way of somehow being neutral, what's wrong with looking for a "lady" or "woman?" | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:17:08 AM | yes your weird...........................you are female, woman, girl all rolled into one.
iam not male iam therefore a man, bloke, guy then.
only joking about the weird bit tho.
i do however know what your saying, i have to admit i dont normally read in a womans ( female !!!! ) profile that she is looking for a " male ", i guess a lot of guys just write there looking for a female ( me included ) without thinking about it, i do however use the words woman and odd times when i thinks its needed the word lady, very few ladies about IMO. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:28:10 AM | I can see your point. The problem is that I have come across women that object to all of the other terms.
Some women don't like being called girl.
Some don't like being called lady.
I guess woman should be ok, but female is just another word for this in the eyes of many guys (who perhaps aren't as familiar with animal husbandry as you). | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:37:19 AM | OP, But genetics is a favorite hobby of mine, especially Tropical fish,, no pun intended.
I am looking for something I can't remember what I wrote in my profile last, I have slept since then I think...
Goes off to post to his profile before he goes to bed,,,, been up since 2:30 am Saturday morning might be still up when you read this next week... HI! Pass me the scope dearheart, I have targets in sight...PS... I am a Target Specialist in stuff....
I am used to staying up 36 to 180 hours at a time, normal Ops for me. Not to be tried by real living breathing humans.... LMAO Okay I do get a little giddy at this hour of the morning. One James got lost, Another James got lead away in handcuffs, and One James is I hope at home asleep ready for church in the morning, and the last James is sleeping to or out partying............. I know to many people with the same names.
I know Three Tiffany's, and the newest Jessica likes me, I play pool very strangely, Break! Sink! repeat,,,,, done. All with the tip half of my pool cue..... Yes I am that good.
Guys should always call females Angels........ I do, I get more ladies looking at me than most men dream about. Trust me guys, be polite and say.
Hi angel, you have brightened my day and smile and let them react, then play with the field.
Or
4 Angels just passing me by, Thank you Angels as you turn as they pass you by and you go with the flow.....
ALL Females are Angels, sent from heaven to please my weary soul as I Burn in Hell's furnance waiting for the ticket home.
Charles. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 4:16:55 AM | It's just another word with a similar meaning to the other examples you listed. One isn't necessarily more appropriate than another, regardless of personal preference.
Granted, the whole "I'm seeking someone of the opposite gender" lines are sort of redundant. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 5:57:57 AM | Yes. you are weird. Yet in a delightful way.
You have a quirk, a foible.
Something that most people don't concern themselves with yet something that inexplicably bugs you.
Some women - actually more than 50% of the women who take these sorts of polls/surveys absolutely detest the word " moist".
A subliminal sexual connotation? Brings to mind the joke " Betty Crocker: MOIST and EASY? ( cake mix)
We ALL have these strange things.( i said it,, "ALL " - not some, not most-- ALL -- nazis come get me !!! runs away as fast as I can)
I know a woman who hates the term " belly button". no idea why she hates it.
I also know another woman who hates the word " Amy". and dislikes anyone named that.
again she hasn't been able to come up with a reason. probably due to some kid who did something to her when she was younger
I hate the term " jelly bean" but I will never tell anyone that as it may make me look a bit strange. so i will just keep that my little secret...
For some reason, you may associate men asking for Females as being on par with them ordering a side dish of cole slaw. or the animal husbandry thing...
I have no idea why you think the way you do . BUt yes, it is weird, but it also is what it is .
Unless it completely incapacitates you or bugs you to the point that you start threads about it, it isn't a problem...
oh wait.... | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 6:47:32 AM | | I agree with ItzJustMe in msg 3. If I say "girl", I'm a paedo. If I say "woman", she's old and ugly. So men say "female" to avoid the argument. Now, I agree that this is all complete BS, but there are too many women I've encountered with this sort of paranoid thinking for men to ignore it. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:50:24 AM | > To me, anytime I hear or read how a man is looking for a female, I think of animal husbandry.
That would never have occurred to me. Guess that just means you're not the female for me.
But, yes, female is less human-specific, though in most contexts in which it's used it's going to be obvious that a human female is the object which goes with the verb. I hear some faux divas are trying to resurrect the word "broad"...
> We ALL have these strange things.( i said it,, "ALL " - not some, not most-- ALL...
Does having a severe Richard Simmons phobia count? Or is that just too easy? | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:56:15 AM | yes....you are weird....
the fact that you stayed up all night, staring at the ceiling, obsessing about semantics shows that you have far too much time on your hands, and not enough actual stress in your life...............and I can't imagine being the male, guy, dude or man laying next to you as you ponder these questions....I would either bury MY face in the pillow.....or yours... | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 8:31:02 AM | LOL this thread just goes to show you that no matter what you write, someone will be offended ......and women wonder why us guys are so effed up? lol TFF.....
Frankly, isn't there more important things to worry about than what word one uses to describe the sex of the person he's after? I mean really, can you get ANY more trivial?
This goes right back to something I wrote in another thread:
That women have the innate ability to invent a multitude of reasons to not like a guy without ever getting to know him......
I mean really, I had one woman call me "di*khead" so I just wrote back, that's MR di*khead to you missy!! and we got along fine...... | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 8:53:38 AM | lol ... we must both be weird because I tend to think the same thing. I'm not offended if someone uses male/female, but I always pause for a second when I read it.
It seems to be getting more prevalant too; I hear a lot of people at work using it lately. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:21:45 AM | First time I've ever heard of this bothering someone.
When I use it, I look at it from the point that technically you ARE female, just as I am male. Female and male tend to be used in science a lot when referring to the different sexes and males tend to be more science-oriented, which may have something to do with its widespread use among males. I see it as no different than referring to women that are my friends as a "female friend," to distinguish them from a "girlfriend," which socially is taken as someone you are dating. I've also heard women refer to friends of the opposite sex that they aren't dating as a "male friend," or a "guy friend." | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:30:09 AM | OP, you rock. I can tell that you love words and that requires some brain cells, so you're already vastly cooler than most women on the forums.
I have been yelled at so many times that I usually revert to the term "female entity" when describing women.  We men use "female" to avoid being lashed by hypervigilant feminists. In a dreamworld, I'd use the words "belle" or "femme". | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:30:31 AM |
To me, anytime I hear or read how a man is looking for a female, I think of animal husbandry.
Well, maybe they ARE thinking of animals. Everyone has different tastes in a partner, after all.
One think I've always wondered about is what is that magical line that women cross where they are suddenly referring to themselves as 'ladies'? I first noted this many years ago that at some point, females stop calling themselves chicks, or girls or whatever pet term they have for themselves and their friends and BOOM, they are now 'ladies'.
It's a mystery that I've often pondered.
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:45:54 AM | What you ______ insert your version of a word describing what sex you are_____ have to realize is that for the past 20 yrs we men have been inundated with all the things we shouldn't be saying or doing around ______ insert your version of a word describing what sex you are_____ ...... I used to work for a large corporation and they had "sexual harassment" seiminars to teach us what is, and what isn't acceptable. Before, if a co-worker bought a new outfit and wore it to work, and us guys noticed, we could say "wow, that looks great on you...." but Now? We could say that, but we'd run the risk of getting fired.
Here's a hint: pick an adjective to describe your sex, put it in your profile, and then we'd know.... | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 11:01:46 AM | I'm reminded of the movie "Clueless." In the scene where Cher and Dionne are showing the new student Tai around and Dionne's boyfriend Murry comes up to ask for money:
Murray: Woman, lend me fi' dollas.
Dionne: Murray, I have asked you repeatedly not to call me "woman".
Murray: Excuse me, "Ms. Dionne."
Dionne: Thank you.
Murray: Okay, but, street slang is an increasingly valid form of expression. Most of the feminine pronouns do have mocking, but not necessarily in misogynistic undertones.
Essentially, though, almost every person who posted on this thread related that they do not want to offend, which is very heartening. But at the same time it's very disheartening, in that our social climate has made the use of anything but medical/scientific terminology acceptable. Especially in our personal lives. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 11:22:41 AM | Well I'm sure if it bothers you that much you can roll a bill though capital hill and get a law passed saying that men can no longer use that term in that way ever again. All you need are a few signatures.
Then watch me get a ticket because I will ignore it.... | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 11:33:59 AM | I did not read the replies so this may be a duplicate opinion.
In my experience some people have negative connotations with certain gender specific labels. If I call someone a girl/gal, they get miffed and correct me as to being a woman. If I call them a woman, they get miffed and say they are a lady. If I call them a lady, they get miffed and say their mom, or grandmother, is a lady she's just girl. If I call them a female, they get miffed and start forum posts asking why they can't be considered any of the other terms.
So it seems that no matter what term is chosen, to denote a gender that is sought, it will be the incorrect term for someone. So yes, to agree, female may be seen as the most neutral of terms by the particular individual posting. There is nothing wrong with looking for a lady or a woman, as each has their own specific connotations relevant to the individual.
Maybe the poster is seeking something akin to animal husbandry. Did you check out their desire for kids?
I see profiles of women seeking men that use the term male all the time, just not couched in the terms you have used. Usually it's in something like "seeking healthy, outgoing, fit, attractive, male..." I don't think you are weird, you have your own connotations connected with your own perceptions. | |
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| Looking for a female... Am I weird because this bothers me?
Posted: 5/4/2008 11:48:55 AM | MY GOD, someone used the the the term MALE????
call the harassment squad, have her FLOGGED AT DAWN!!!! (or at least take away her forum posting priveledges for a week)
...I am SO offended by that......
damn.....how could she? Doesn't she now us metrosexuals have FEELINGS???
I mean really, to use such an abhorrent term as MALE......
Where's the *&)(*& moderators when you need 'em????
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